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How to make peace with your fear voice

Fear. We all have it.

Most of us misunderstand it.

For most people, fear is the opposite of Love. It’s something to be avoided. It’s something to move away from. It’s a bad place, perhaps even the work of our ego itself.

But, if this is what you think about fear, you have an uneducated view on fear.

Fear is actually a good thing. Why? Because it means our brains are working to help us survive. And survive is something we must do.

However, we are not just built for survival. Human beings are built to take moonshots, to thrive, to blow past expectations and previous records and do more, become more and change the world.

To do this, we have to have a proper perspective on fear. We have to being to see fear in a new way. A way that moves us forward, rather than keeps us stuck.

Without awareness, fear will just keep you stuck. You’ll think to yourself, “I’m afraid, I must stop.”

But here’s the thing. If we are afraid and don’t take action, we produce the result we are afraid of.

Hear me again. If we are afraid and don’t take action, we produce the result we are afraid of.

What’s that mean? It means that fear is what can stop us. And if we stop, we produce the rejection, the “failure”, or the result that we are afraid of. Why? Because we stopped moving. Because we stopped making progress. And when we do that, our fears tend to materialize. And then, what’s worse is that when that happens, when our fears materialize we use that as an excuse, as a reason to stay stuck, because our worst fears came true.

That might be a divorce, weight gain, a negative financial outcome, etc. It doesn’t matter.

But, we have to begin to look at fear in a new way. Fear is not the opposite of Love.

Unless you’re in mortal danger, fear is a compass showing you where to go.

You are going to be inspired by your dreams. BUT – you are also going to be terrified by them. The key is to not let the fear of what you dreams demand you become stop you from becoming.

It’s about facing the fear. Stepping into the fear. And living a fear-full life, rather than a fearful life.

A fearful life is a life of being a victim to the world. You feel powerless and like you don’t have any control. You don’t take risk because you are too worried that you are going to die.

A fear-full life is a like full of fantastic fear. The fear that you face when you try something new. The fear that you face when you become even more vulnerable. The fear that you face by taking greater and greater risks.

Living a fear-full life is necessary because it’s what all successful people do. And not just rich people, successful people. How much money you have doesn’t define how successful you are. It’s your inner peace that defines how successful you are.

You want to know how successful you are – answer this question: Who are you without any money?

That answer will define how successful you really are.

To be successful, we must face fears. Not once, not twice, but each and every day.

So, how do you deal with the fearful voice in your head? You face it full on. You remember that unless you are in mortal danger you won’t die and that you aren’t meant to just survive, you are meant to thrive.

And to do that, my friend, it’s time to live a fear-full life.

In the comments below, let me know how you plan to live a fear-full life moving forward.

Lots of LOVE,

Mastin

P.S. Take what resonates and leave the rest.

P.P.S. I am going on a huge national book tour in September and October! And most likely coming to a town near you. Check it out here.

 

 

  • Carah Reed

    Bring it! Your words touch me in a deep way!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for reading and sharing Carah!! <3 – Team Daily Love

  • Karen

    Hi Mastin, first time commenting here and thought I’d share my thoughts on your topic. I’m not working, as in a job (I left the safe, secure job over 4yrs ago now), and I’m currently working on a book about women and relationships. I put myself in this position (leaving the job) deliberately in order to have to face my fears about money and being able to look after myself.

    When I used to sit in my office I would think to myself, “Karen, I will never forgive you if you die and you haven’t had a go at making it on your own.” I think it took about 5yrs to get to a place where the fear left and I was at peace with leaving and so I did.

    Since then I have had fear slap me in the face again and again and again. I’ve known on a conscious level that the way through is with trust, faith and gratitude but realising it has been something else.

    My book is a do or die effort where I’m putting in the work and trusting that the universe will take care of the sales for me, as in giving me the resources, ideas etc. to make it happen – in the best possible way of course. Whatever happens, I know I’ll be okay.

    Tell you what though, I’m getting really good at telling fear to piss off when it starts rising now and that’s huge from where I was at before so it’s working.

    Thanks Mastin for your thought-provoking articles and sorry about the book. That’s what I seem to do. :)

    • The Daily Love

      So beautiful Karen! Sending you lots of Love! Thanks for opening up and sharing with us today :) – Team Daily Love

  • JustMe

    Love it..but…..your P.P.S. says you are going on a huge NATIONAL book tour in Sept & Oct…..but….it’s INTERNATIONAL….you’re coming to Canada!!! Yeaaaa!!!

    • The Daily Love

      Very true JustMe! Thanks for pointing this out and reading today! :) – Team Daily Love

  • Karina Lopez

    A timely and resonant post, Mastin! I think living a fear-full live means taking it day by day. In a way, it reminds me of the most resonant advice from your interview with Kris Carr: be present. What’s in your mind, that worst case scenario, isn’t what’s right in front of you, yet it’s definitely one of my challenges, as I head toward uncertainty. Little bites of mindfulness, every day. Thank you to you and the Daily Love team!

    • The Daily Love

      Love this Karina! Thanks for sharing this and being here today! <3 – Team Daily Love

  • Klaudia

    And again: you are gorgious Mastin! The interview mit Kris is a miracle by itself – I watched it three times in a row, there are so many good ideas. Yes, and I directly ordered your book … and have already your bonus-email and I’m looking forward to the other interviews as well. – You (and your TDL-Team!!!) do a great work bringing light and … yeah: hope … in the world. And for my world: you hit again the “topic of the week” … and I can only say THANKS SO MUCH!!! I still have fear … but I look on it with a different angle now. Bite by bite. Thanks to you and Kris, Om shanti! Klaudia

    • The Daily Love

      Glad you enjoyed the interview Klaudia! Thank YOU for being here! Sending you lots of Love <3 – Team Daily Love

  • Chari

    Thank you Mastin for this wonderful reminder. I love how this article encourages me to face my fear. I have almost forgotten how important it is to have the courage because I won’t die anyway if I do what I’m afraid of. One way of gathering up my courage is to be reminded of this. So thank you so much Mastin. This means a lot to me.

    • The Daily Love

      Powerful Chari! Thanks for reading, opening up and sharing this with us today! <3 – Team Daily Love

  • Talya Price

    Thank you for this article. The past week I have had the craziest experience. One of my teeth broke off and now I have to go to the dentist. And my fear voice is saying that it is going to cost a fortune and that I do not have the money and that I have no idea from where my next paycheck will come, and I wont be able to pay rent this month and blah blah blah. I know it is fear but I have to take time out breath and take one day at a time.

  • Sonia

    Wow, fear. I have lived in neighborhoods where shootouts happened regularly. This motivated me to move. Fear motivated me to change my life drastically, I left a good paying job for peace of mind. I found out, I value peace and harmony more than anything else. I’m trying to practice being in the present. Practicing putting myself first. I have no regrets.

    Thank you for reminding us to stay proactive and work through things. Sending love back.

  • Marci

    Thank you Sonia. I love it, just your sentence about I value peace and harmony more than anything else. Made me think : that is me. We need to spread this around.

  • Kayla

    Lately I have realized that everything I do is out of fear.. I eat healthy for fear of being unhealthy, I go to work for fear of losing my job, I exercise regularly for fear of being overweight and tired..Now I am so curious about how my recent fear revelation is connected into this?

  • http://www.YesYesMarsha.com/ Marsha from YesYesMarsha.com

    This is one of the best things you ever taught me, Mastin. It’s a wisdom that keeps on giving. Thank you.

  • Fiona

    My goodness, Mastin, once again you nailed it. I’ve just ripped my roots out, sold the house, the car, shipped all of my belongings across the pond, going after my dreams, and I am TERRIFIED!!! I wake up in the middle of the night breathless and filled with anxiety, I cry incessantly, I question what the hell am I doing???! But thanks to TDL, Gabby, Marie and others, I know to just keep taking steps, one foot in front of the other, one day at a time, and work through the fear, breath into it and accept it as a part of living a happy, fulfilled life. I was so miserable before! And even though I’m scared shitless I know that in a month, once my feet are on the ground in London and I’m fully living my dreams, everything will be ok.