How You Can Use Negative Emotions To Create Massive Positive Change!

We are heading straight into the New Year! 2012 is almost here. If you’re like me and a lot of folks, this time of year can bring up all different types of emotions. The space away from work and the normal routine may put you in touch with emotions you may not feel the rest of the year.

So, if those emotions are there – it’s up to YOU to choose what to do with them. You see, emotions are like fuel. They push us to act – or not act. Many times the emotions we feel influence us to do things, either consciously or unconsciously. Today is a great day to get in touch with the emotions you are feeling. Take a second, breathe, stop what you are doing, try to stop thinking and just feel. Notice what emotions you are feeling. What are you feeling right below the surface? Anxiety? Worry? Joy? Happiness? Fear? Worry? Doubt? Elation? Positive Expectation? Negative Expectation? Whatever it is, notice it.

Now, take a moment and write down what you are feeling. Then ask yourself, why am I feeling this way? If an answer doesn’t come right away, that’s ok. Just sit with the question for a moment.

Now comes the critical choice that up until now you may not have been making consciously. I know that until I discovered I could use the fuel of emotion for good or for bad, I wasn’t consciously deciding to use it for good.

When my last business fell apart I was heartbroken, depleted and frankly, really effing angry! At the time I was super angry with my partner, but through a lot of personal growth work, I began to realize that I was actually really angry with myself. But, that was at least a year and a half away from when we decided to no longer be partners. So what I did was, I used that anger to create something beautiful. That was my intention. I knew that I could channel my anger however I wanted – I could self-destruct, I could try to make my former partner fail in his new endeavors, or I could move on and create something beautiful. So that’s what I decided to do: create something beautiful.

The anger I felt, I felt intensely for about a year and then less the second year and this year it has dissolved into understanding and forgiveness. But it was that first year that changed everything. TDL was born out of a heartbreaking lesson. But that heartbreak made me stronger and TDL gave me the opportunity to be reborn and to actually LIVE all the things I was talking about, instead of just talking about them. I am far from perfect; I still have a ton of growth to do, but TDL would not be here today if I had chosen to use that anger in a destructive day.

So with that said, now that you are feeling your emotions and you have identified them. What are they? And how can you use your emotions for good? How can you use your emotions as positive fuel to create a new world for yourself and those you Love and the rest of us? Can you let go of any anger/resentment/sadness and instead of directing those emotions at someone else and blaming them, can you take your focus off of them and put it towards some foolish project?

There’s a great quote out there that says “Start some big foolish project, like Noah!” – TDL is my big foolish project; what is yours? And can you use your current emotions to help you get there? Leave a comment, let me know or send me an email [email protected]

Love and new beginnings,


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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.

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  • Vickymlafrange

    I am feeling anger, sadness and anxiety. my world is coming apart and there is no sign of relief. I hate my job , or better yet I hate the fact that I have not yet found another job, that I don’t have the strength to resign, that my side hustle is not on so I could have some more money coming in, that I need to work hard to make that happen. I am sad and angry that the career I am pursuing has nothing to do with what I want. I am scared that I feel I need to be my own boss. 
    There is so much work I have to do in order to get there. So many things out of my control for which I have to make the first step of faith. Quitting my current job is a reoccurring theme for the past 3 years… yet I don’t know how I would survive. And I even start to think that if I could just get fired , it would be a kick in the butt. The last one I need to really jump in that scary hole….
    I really need to stop stressing so much about leaving that job, and start working toward being able to actually do it… read… start that marketing and business plan…. 

    • thank you for sharing – what would you like to do instead?

    • I have totally been where you are and I understand.  Take the leap of faith because the Universe will support you.  I speak from personal experience.  Set your intentions and go for it.  Through my taking steps on faith I birthed a book about the process we go through when we face adversity and are headed towards a new age of prosperity.  You can do it! 🙂

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  • Thank you Mastin!  I needed this today!  I am birthing my project and it is painful.  All types of emotions are coming to the surface, but I am pressing on.  It is a part of my soul purpose to help women with cancer go on the path of healing as I am an Intuitive Wellness Coach.  After this past year of continuous ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ journeys I guess you can say the Universe is saying, “game time!”  I will use your words for inspiration today as I move forward with my endeavor because I do know what it’s like to walk away from ventures that we thought were great, but were only the stepping stone to something greater!

  • Frmfrog

    I needed this today too.  Three years ago life as I knew it dissolved. I lost a wonderful job, a man I loved, a group of friends I thought would be around me forever. It still breaks my heart today but maybe my heartbreak can be put to better use than just festering in angst and self-doubt. Thanks Mastin.

    • thank you for sharing – what are you going to do ? :o)

  • Mastin! I totally love your blog 🙂 … & what’s my project? Hahahaha … you’ll laugh!I want so bad create a blog to help women like me who suffered a lot! …& travel, travel, & travel knowing many people and places.

    • Antonia

      Cool Johanna! I would read it…

  • Lola

    Thank you for this great post.  I have negative emotions and stress and anxiety regarding actions of others. The incredibly controlling nature of my long term boyfriends parents (that comes along with their devout religion) that affects me and thus our relationship. I don’t know how to channel this negative energy into something positive. The situation is unique so I could make something, a story etc. from it but I feel like dwelling on it won’t help. 

  • Toni

    Hiya Mastin,  I too had a business heartbreak that left me in a terrible downward spiral for a year. Gratitude got me out of it, I have learned to be grateful for what happened and the fabulous lessons the pain has gifted me.  Now I run gratitude workshops for big companies like BHP and also the general public.  It is the most wonderful way to earn a living, I am happier than I have ever been. Those crazy emotions of anger, hate, disappointment and shame forced me to a better place –  love a disaster nowadays….  I know a great lesson is coming.

  • Jmadison56

    dear mastin, i read your blog every day! i have many emotions regarding losing the weight i have gained in the past 5 years, and the weight my daughter has gained after giving up cigarettes and losing her husband to suicide 1 year ago. after doing lots of research on the internet regarding addictions, abuse, childhood trauma etc etc, we have come to a new understanding! i finally said, we can blame everthing and everyone, but in the end it is our own doing that we are overweight. we have dwelled on the familiar victim mentallity and now that we both dont have abusive relationships to blame why we dont get anywhere in life, we have both become overweight, and realised that this is another way of blaming and not taking responsibility in our lives, which we both feel have dried up and we are left feeling empty and alone.  we agreed we needed to take stock and be kinder to  ourselves and especially our inner child and perhaps ask her what she thinks of what we have done and how we can erradicate our mistakes. i did this and ended up crying so much because i realised i have just been abusing myself, because i am so use to this. i need to love myself much more and to value myself as a lovable person  and treat myself with respect and dignity.i pray every night for my family and myself, but today was truly a miracle day, realising all of this.thankyou for this opportunity as i really wanted to share this with you as you are so inspirational. if you have any tips for me, i would love a helping hand.    yours Jo.