I know you got hurt – but STAY OPEN!

mk_treesWhen bad things happen in the past, we can spend so much time dwelling on what happened and protecting ourselves from it never happening again that we actually kill the possibility of anything great happening again.

Being alive means we will experience all kinds of things, with joy, love, pain and loss – it’s all part of life. I believe it to be unwise to shut down just because we got hurt. When we shut down, we prevent the bad from coming in, but we also prevent the good.

Good and bad stuff happen. I believe it’s more important to develop a strong sense of self that lives life to the fullest (aka letting the bad and good stuff happen), knowing that life is about living it all. Not just preventing pain. But accepting that pain is a part of life. When we accept that pain is a part of life, we begin to free ourselves from the chains that bind us and thus step into a greater world.

This doesn’t mean that we can’t learn from the past. Of course we can, and we should. But we don’t want to be EXTREME about it.

Living our dreams, living our soul’s calling means taking risks, and part of taking risks is things not working out. The Divine is stronger than any failure, but consider that some failures are Divinely sent. It is often the trials we go through that make us the person we need to be in order to live our dreams. And yet we spend so much time avoiding the trials that we end up living an unrealized life. And this is a worse fate than death.

If you want the hard body, you gotta work out. No questions asked. If you want the degree, you gotta work for it. No questions asked. If you want to love, you have to be open. If you want to make your dreams come true, you have to risk. But no one gets it right the first time. And most times no one gets it right the 100th time.

For me, I just stopped counting how many times I tried, and just tried UNTIL it happened.

Life is not asking us to curl back because we are scared; it is asking us to step up even though we are scared and to welcome in new possibility by taking a risk.

If you aren’t living your dreams, consider that you have no idea what it really takes or feels like to do so. So how could you possibly know what it takes until you have arrived? The only real way to know this is by taking advice from people who have already achieved what you want to achieve. Everyone else is just guessing.

And if you are in your field innovating or the first person to attempt what you are doing, it’s even more important to rely on your intuition. The Divine guides us – but we have to listen and then ACT.

What are you being guided to do? What have you given up on? Can you open back up today?

As always, the action happens in the comments below, leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Love,

Mastin

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Mastin Kipp is the CEO and Founder of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.

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  • Osage Dior

    Very beautiful! Thank you for a great article…I have to stay open despite being hurt…

  • Rosalie Hochstetter

    love your writing, I can take alot of inspiration from it everytime I read some of your blog entries! This is my blog, I feel like my recent posting will resonate will many of your readers! http://rosyruby.blogspot.co.at/2013/06/attachment-detachment.html

  • Eileen Navarro

    So, so true! Today I’m being led to de-clutter to make way for the new. In the past I would have ignored this message and not taken action. Now, I know and see the purpose behind it. I’ve lived part of my life shut off from the world for fear of being burned. Now, I don’t care and I’m enjoying it to the fullest. Mastin you truly are a messenger to is all. Love to you and keep the Daily Love coming. -Nameste

  • Kathleen

    I have always loved your blog, but this one is hitting home. I’m currently dealing with a situation that is asking me to be open. In the past I have been hurt allot in relationship and am/was in het process of building something with an childhood boyfriend. I just know he is it for me. But because I was afraid to open up, I may or may not have pushed him away. He has always been patient with me, but I had been taking it for granted. He has thought me so much by the way he loves, that I’m forced to be open for him to feel loved and for it to work between us. It’s a challenge but I’ll get there.

  • RK

    Perfect timing. I just got burned by someone I trusted & opened my heart to; this is a good reminder for me to try to learn from the experience, but also to keep trying & keep my heart open for the right person. Thank you!

    • Emily Mead

      Perfect timing for me too! I just went through the same thing. My heart is now open even more.

  • Holy smokes Mastin – “strumming my pain with his fingers, singing y life with his words” – sometimes I have to wonder how you seem to get it so right, so many times on the exact day. I was literally stunned after finishing this piece and have to read it again to absorb it further now that the shock has worn off. You hit it on the head today my friend.

    As always, thank you so very much for these words – words that turn confusion and emotions into something I can truly understand and move forward with.

  • Mark Deman

    Love it, Mastin!!!

  • AM

    Have you ever noticed that the feeling of excitement and joy contains the feeling of nervousness and anxiety? It isn’t that what I want isn’t something I can feel. It’s that sometimes even the feeling of joy has feeling of nervousness.

  • Kathryn

    Reading “the Divine is stronger than any failure, but consider that some failures are Divinely sent” really lifted me out of my self-beating-down thinking. I just took an important exam in my medical school and was only recalling all of the aspects that I did wrong, or not perfectly, and then I read this sentence and thought (1) maybe it wasnt that bad and I am just judging myself too much (2) maybe those mistakes were perfectly placed, divinely orchestrated (3) the bigger picture is – that exam is not the pinnacle of “me living my dreams” it is a part of a degree program that I have to work for and work at, and I’m a student now, not yet a doctor. If it had gone perfectly, i wouldnt have had as much reflection about how I can improve. Thank you!

  • Guest

    I just came to this page via a new fb friend and I cried reading this posting. I’m sorry I’m not as positive as everyone else, I’m just struggling through the darkest time of my life and it is more sorrow than I knew existed. I, too, believe that the Divine is bigger than anything I am experiencing, just sometimes I have to be human and tell Him that the pain of these last couple of years is almost unbearable. But I thank you for your words, they truly brought me comfort. You’re very kind to share your words with someone who’s heart really needed to hear it.

  • Tracy Mahr

    I just came to this page via a new fb friend and I cried reading this
    posting. I’m sorry I’m not as positive as everyone else, I’m just
    struggling through the darkest time of my life and it is more sorrow
    than I knew existed. I, too, believe that the Divine is bigger than
    anything I am experiencing, just sometimes I have to be human and tell
    Him that the pain of these last couple of years is almost unbearable.
    But I thank you for your words, they truly brought me comfort. You’re
    very kind to share your words with someone whose heart really needed to
    hear it.

  • Brent Ragan

    Yep, good timing for me, too. Thank you sharing this!

  • Diane

    I feel the reason people shut down is because the rejection feels like validation of worthlessness. Being open to continuously experiencing it is like being open to abuse. Eventually you just give up.

  • Deservedly So

    Thank you Mastin,

    I have let myself down & only I am to blame. I’ve tried so hard this year as I’ve let things get to me. The trials & tribulations have been beyond comprehension. I’m trying to stay positive & upbeat yet every step forward I feel I have taken two steps back. I’ve pushed away what I held most dear to me, I’ve been surrounded by death, it has now jeopardized my job which by the person I let down. This was ever so emotionally painful. I’m not angry at them, saddened yes, yet they must think I’m deserving of this & I’m so sorry ive made them feel this way.

    Being positive I accept all that has happened I’m embracing this new challenge & will see how it unravels. This year was not how I expected it to be. I’ve learnt more this year than in my entire life.

    I’m sincerely sorry to all that I haven’t lived up to their expectations.

  • Janice

    Perfect timing for me, too. My long time boyfriend that I trusted just broke up with me and I feel like closing my heart forever. Your words are a better way to see life as just part of life with good and bad. Thank you for your wisdom!

  • cesar

    Cool ,Thanks a lot.