We all know that everything happens for a reason. We know that The Uni-verse totally has our back and sets us up to win (even though we feel like we’re failing or that we’re all on our own). The Uni-verse does not secretly want us to fall flat on our faces. The Uni-verse doesn’t quietly chuckle when we “mess up” or, in our own opinion, “totally blow it.”
The Uni-verse is on our side, 100%.
We know all of this, right? Right!
Why is it so easy for us to forget that, in the same way everything happens for a reason, when something doesn’t happen – it’s also for a Divine Reason? When that person we’re romantically interested in totally falls off the face of the earth, we ride the Roller Coaster of Reasoning:
“What a jerk! Don’t wanna date him ANYWAY!!!”
“Maybe her phone fell in between that little space between the sidewalk and the subway.”
“What if someone broke into his car and stole his phone, wallet, and entire identity? I’d be unreachable, too!”
“He’s just not into me. I’m not his type. I knew I should’ve worn the pink dress instead of the blue one!”
“She’s really busy right now and she will probably get back to me when it’s a good time for her…”
Does any of that sound familiar? Have you ever tried to rationalize, or understand, WHY something didn’t happen? You trace back your steps and replay an interaction in your head and then try to edit a conversation that happened in the past. That would be awesome, but it’s totally not possible. Why do we waste our vital energy on that stuff?
What if you just decided that something didn’t happen SIMPLY because it wasn’t supposed to? Instead of beating yourself up for not getting the job, landing the role, catching the bouquet, or getting that phone number that you were hoping for – what if you decided that it was Divine Intervention stepping in?
Rejection is protection.
Yes, you read that correctly. Read it, OUT LOUD, again and again, until you believe it!
Rejection is NOT something that happens because you aren’t worthy, lovable, enough, or the “right fit.” You ARE all of those and The Uni-verse has a grand master plan for you. When something doesn’t happen the way we envisioned it in our mental screenplay, we feel discord and we rack our brains to make sense of it all. We are master controllers and we like to plan out our ENTIRE lives.
Don’t get me wrong – I’m a big fan of goal setting and making vision boards. What I have really been working on is not being attached to any outcome. When something doesn’t happen for me, something better always comes to fruition. When I got a cease and desist letter two years ago from the lawyers of Paramount, saying my trademark “Mission Possible” was too similar to their trademark “Mission: Impossible” I was devastated that I wouldn’t be able to use my company’s name that I’d been successfully using for five years.
I invested a LOT of energy in being upset about it. When I decided to finally LET IT GO, I freed up a lot of creative energy space. I rebranded myself and created I’m On A Mission, and this was the BEST thing that ever could’ve happened – simply because something else didn’t happen. I love what has blossomed because of the shift!
I was dating someone right before I met the love of my life. The aforementioned guy was unpredictable and wishy washy, but I didn’t let that deter me from my mission of reeling him in. At the time, I was looking for an external source to make me feel loved. I found myself not being authentic with him, because I was trying to be the woman I thought he wanted. It felt yucky and it felt even yuckier when he disappeared in the end. I realized through that experience that the love I was looking for was WITHIN me all along, and I was ENOUGH.
When you fall in love with yourself, you will finally discover your soul mate.
I met the man of my dreams shortly thereafter and we were a perfect fit for one another. Wishy Washy Dude finally resurfaced, and I was EXTRA clear that he and I were SO not meant to be. Closure is a beautiful thing!
But what I considered to be closure could’ve happened sooner if I had said, “he’s not showing up for me the way I want him to, simply because he isn’t supposed to.”
Leading up to this moment in my life, I can think about many instances that didn’t wind up happening. I fully get that I AM where I AM because of where I didn’t go. Coming to that conclusion is an energy saver and ABSOLUTE FREEDOM.
Let it go. It didn’t happen on purpose. It’s all perfect.
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.