Lately I’ve been pinching myself, totally tickled and here’s why: Life is good. I mean, really, really good. And it’s not because my health challenges magically went away (I have an incurable stage IV cancer and other sh*t pickles) or because I won the lottery (I didn’t) or because my year-long home renovation is suddenly over (far from it).
Life is good because my attitude is better than ever. I shifted, I dialed up the gratitude and noticed all that is beautiful, and that simple act created a domino effect of healing goodness.
I didn’t always have this perspective. When I was first diagnosed nearly a decade ago, I felt terrified and broken. In an instant, I was labelled “sick” and worse, there were no medical treatments available to me. I would have to learn to “live” with cancer. Thankfully, the disease I have is slow-moving, but I was still terrified and I felt totally out of control. Did people like me even exist? I didn’t think so at the time. Clearly, I had a lot to learn and a lot to process. And that’s when the soulful journey to a profound and unconditional love for myself began.
Within weeks, I embraced a plant-empowered diet and kindness towards all beings, including little ole me. I even checked into a Zen monastery to learn how to quiet the unloving thoughts. If I couldn’t be cured, I could still be healthy and most importantly, happy.
Not long after I made my total commitment to self-love, I saw a radical shift. Relationships deepened, old wounds healed, tension released and doors gently opened. Like a phoenix from the ashes, I was rebuilding my brightness in order to soar to heights I had previously thought impossible.
The formula for feeling better is actually quite simple, my friends. Here it is: Nourish your body with more plant-based foods and less animal-based, processed or refined foods. Lap up a daily dose of green juice. Move your glorious body. Reduce the amount of chemicals in your environment. Spend more time in the void, the space between the noise, the quiet spot where Divinity rests. Practice kindness and compassion towards yourself and others. And above all, love like you mean it. Then repeat.
Oh, there’s one more thing. Share how great it feels to be love, feel love and love your life. That part may sound corny or simple, but it’s actually pretty radical. I know I’ve gotten shy or squirmy about sharing how happy I am with others. Like you, I’ve been domesticated to hide the shine. I imagine metaphoric mean girls from high school making fun of me, breaking me. “Take it down a notch, sparkle toes,” but they would say something much worse, painful even.
A few months ago, I decided to take my joy for a ride, publicly. I wanted to let my smiley freak flag fly, regardless of the discomfort I felt OR created in others. It started with this tweet: “I am totally in love with my life.” What a juicy affirmation! But once I pressed send, I slipped into old habits and started to sweat and pace. My ego immediately called me out and criticized me for being “cheesy”. Well, guess what happened? The twitter-sphere lit up. I could feel the collective and holy high-fives. “Wow, I want that! Hell Yeah! I am too! What an inspiration! I really needed to hear that! Thank you sooo much! You totally made my day!” Even one of my dear mentors, Cheryl Richardson, chimed in, “So good to hear, Kris …” Take THAT ego!
If declaring our love out loud could create such a difference, imagine what meaning it on the inside could do for you. Give yourself permission to fall in love with your life, no matter what’s missing or what you wish could be different. It’s your life, like it or not. So we might as well find the radiant warmth that patiently waits for recognition.
Go ahead, try it. You have nothing to lose. No one is looking…
Grab a mirror, and just say it: I AM TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH MY LIFE. If that feels funny, do it anyway! Fake it ’til you make it, or just say “I want to be totally in love with my life, I’m open to being totally in love with my life. I intend to be totally in love with my life.” Whatever it takes my friend, whatever it takes.
Trust me, your life will appreciate your effort. It will even thank you. Love is a choice. No one can take that choice away from you and no darkness is bold enough to extinguish it.
Peace & life love,
P.S. If you’re interested in learning to love yourself more through deliciously healthy foods, check out my new book, Crazy Sexy Kitchen. You can watch the trailer below. Warning: be prepared to laugh and drool. I have lots of wonderful thank you gifts waiting for you when you purchase the book, including complimentary cooking classes and virtual dinners with me and some trailblazing guests. From my kitchen to yours, may your life be filled with love.
Kris Carr is a New York Times best-selling author and health advocate. Her books and film include the groundbreaking Crazy Sexy Cancer series, Crazy Sexy Diet and most recently, Crazy Sexy Kitchen. Kris regularly lectures at medical schools, hospitals, wellness centers, corporations such as Whole Foods and Harvard University. As an irreverent foot soldier in the fight against disease, Kris inspires countless people to take charge of their health and happiness by adopting a plant-based diet, improving lifestyle practices and learning to live and love with passion.