I’ve taken a social media break and I’ve also set up an email autoresponder letting people know that I’m on a hiatus.
And it’s interesting… I’m finding it so hard to set this boundary.
I actually feel bad about myself.
I’m so used to being the guy who is there for people, that I feel bad about setting this boundary. I’ve even had some friends write in and express that they are annoyed or angry that I haven’t gotten back to them in the amount of time that they had preferred.
And this communication and the meaning that I’m giving it is causing me to feel even worse.
Writing a book is hard enough, but letting down your friends – man, that’s just not me. I pride myself on being the guy that gets back to people, that shows up, that engages and that gives as much as he can.
But I’m realizing something. For me to grow, I have to start setting boundaries – and that includes digital boundaries.
There was a time not that long ago when people had to call you, write you or show up at your physical doorstep to talk to you and communicate.
The list is endless. And I’m having a really hard time fully unplugging from The Matrix.
Not only have some of my friends not been happy with me, but some folks in the TDL Community haven’t been happy either.
It’s been a real eye opener to see that people desire to communicate with me; I didn’t realize people cared that much.
I also didn’t realize how pulled I am to serve and to help others. But I think that I can be TOO giving and that is messing up my creation ability.
My desire for my next book is to be set up so I can really go away with no email contact, perhaps find an “email manager” while I’m gone and really dive deep and disconnect.
I feel called to do this. And at the same time I feel guilty for wanting to do it.
I suppose this is the next level of my growth, to be able to realize that I give a lot, and it’s okay for me to pull back and focus on what I want to create. And if I “let” some people down, maybe that helps to serve their growth, too.
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