And I couldn’t agree more.
I’ve been in Bali for the past couple weeks on the Writer’s Mastermind and I’ve been totally taking care of myself.
Yoga. Exercise. Massage. Green drinks. LOTS of writing. And working to restore my adrenal glands (aka your body’s batteries).
I can go so hard that I can run myself into the ground.
It’s funny how much stress can be created promoting wellness. And I agree that I could use perhaps some more self-care in my life.
But the thing is – we can also use self-care as a form of resistance.
When outlining the Hero’s Journey, Joseph Campbell talks about two main points of resistance from the hero on any hero’s quest.
The first one is what Campbell calls “The Call to Adventure” – this is when the hero is nice and comfortable at home – and yet they are restless – they feel like something is missing.
All of a sudden, there is a crisis or an opportunity for the hero to go on an adventure – and this scares the hero and generally the hero will say “NO” to the adventure first.
This is called “The refusal of the call” – it’s in every story ever told – and probably also in your life when you come up against uncertainty.
The hero needs courage to go on the adventure and to get past “The refusal of the call” so that they can take the first step on their destiny path.
The second place where the hero tends to “refuse” something because of fear is at the end of the journey. The hero has worked hard, faced death and been reborn with some new insight or awareness.
And – within this new insight or awareness is a sense of bliss, of joy, of peace.
The hero must now go home to share what the hero has learned. But, the hero can fall into another refusal point called “The refusal of the return” – where the hero is so blissed out, so peaceful, so changed by the journey that to go home would be painful.
And yet – the hero must go home – why?
Because without serving other people, it’s been a selfish journey and selfishness isn’t hero material.
This is where those of us on the self-care path can take it to the extreme.
We can use yoga, massage, therapy and all kinds of other things as a reason to stop growing, and to not push outside our comfort zones.
Yoga can’t make you happy – it can make you feel better in the moment – but longer term what will make you happy and fulfilled is if you are growing and giving to others.
We must make progress to be happy. We must serve others to be happy.
If we get too caught up in our own self-care we will eventually be at a stand still and so self-focused that life will have seemed to dry up.
Is your self-care getting in the way? Are you refusing to return to the painful world to share what you have learned?
Let me know…
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Love from Bali,
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