We all are certain about what we believe in. We’re all on some kind of path that defines who we are and what we’re up to. There is an infinite number of lifestyles and belief systems that we can all choose from that we will feel strongly about for a season or an entire lifetime. To say that any of them is an “absolute truth” is no different than the reason why many wars have been fought.
Can you be in relationship with someone who completely disagrees with what you believe in? Is that even possible? Yes it is, and accepting someone else’s unparalleled beliefs is the first step in successfully rebuilding a burned bridge that is seemingly beyond reparation.
With true, authentic, and unconditional LOVE, anything is possible and there is no separation. When we feel certain about something, our Ego is on a mission to prove that we are right, right, right!! It takes a lot of courage and strength to actually be open to looking at something from someone else’s perspective.
Being open to hearing what someone else has to say is NOT the same as letting go of what you believe in. Listening lovingly and without judgment is, in fact, one of the only ways we can coexist harmoniously.
When we engage, interact, and converse we all get to meet others where they are. If we stand firmly in our righteousness, we build walls and create resentment. If you’re hearing or experiencing something that is not in alignment with your solid beliefs, it’s not necessarily wrong. It’s factually different from your own perspective.
There are studies to show that being a vegan is horribly unhealthy, and there are studies to show that eating meat and dairy is downright toxic. There are documentaries and science to support both sides. So, then, who is wrong? Who is right?
To me, it makes sense to eat food in its most natural and organic state. I avoid GMOs as much as possible, and I eat wild-caught, grass-fed, cage-free, and antibiotic & hormone free animal products. If it was made in a lab, I don’t want it to go in my body. Am I right? No. I’m just connected to what is true for me.
I’m consistently searching for ways to enhance my personal growth so I can be the best version of myself. I believe that personal development is a daily practice – just like working out. You can’t go to the gym for a few months, get your dream body, and never go back to the gym with the expectation to always look that way. I live my life on purpose and, as a leader, it’s my responsibility to keep expanding my container. I partake in really amazing workshops and I surround myself with people who support me in that search.
While I feel that everyone would benefit greatly from experiencing the kind of work that I do, am I right? My enthusiastic Ego says, “YESSSSS!!!!!” but my loving heart says, “maybe not.” I know that my own experience has been life changing, but that has been my path, my perspective, my opinion, and my choice. All I can do is be an invitation for others to “try it on.”
Will you influence others to look at their lives in a different way? Absolutely. Will you be able to influence everyone? Absolutely not. And that has nothing to do with you, so don’t take it personally if someone isn’t ready to make a change. Even if he or she IS ready, it still doesn’t have anything to do with you. Everyone’s life experiences are their own.
I have a lot of really amazing friends and family members who are in complete alignment with what I’m passionate about and committed to in my own life. It totally feels awesome to be surrounded by like-minded individuals and to be elevated. I also have amazing friends and family members in my life who are in complete opposition of some of my firmest beliefs.
I always BE who I am and allow them to BE who they are. I meet them where they are and focus on what we DO have in common. Because of this, we HAVE harmonious relationships with each other. Does this come naturally to me? Not at all! It has taken some work, patience, love, and acceptance of the unique being I know that I AM. When I get excited about something, I want EVERYONE to experience it – and I mean EVERYONE.
Can you think of a time where your beliefs were challenged and questioned? How did you handle that and what did you learn from it? And now that you know all that you do, how are you going to be different the next time it happens? Tell me all about it in the comments section below! I love hearing from my AMAZING readers!
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.