Many people look at my husband of fifteen years, Victor Juhasz, and say, “Oh, you’re so lucky!”
Trust me, I feel blessed to have met and married my true love, but our healthy marriage isn’t an accident and definitely can’t be chalked up to “luck.”
You, too, have a choice. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be loving? Most of the time, you can’t be both. You can focus on what’s wrong with your partner or what’s right. Of course, Victor and I annoy each other at times like any couple who has been together for many years, but that is not where we choose to put our attention. We immediately and effectively communicate our frustration to avoid a toxic build up of resentment. This is a daily choice, and you and your partner have the same choice.
What are you focusing on? Do you still love what you loved about your partner when you first met him/her? Do you appreciate your partner and treat them with loving kindness and respect?
Love doesn’t just stay good. You have to intend that it stays interesting, hot, and fun.
I am interested to hear if you have any great tips on keeping love healthy or maybe you need a little advice on effective communication. Drop a comment and share. I make sure to respond to everyone, so ask away!
I hope you have an amazing week and, as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.