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Let Go And See What Happens!

chrisassaadAs we move through this life, we all have a very specific idea of how we want it to go. Whether it’s something small like a first date or a job interview, or something bigger like our relationship with our family or a lifelong creative dream, we all have a desire to be in control and affect our preferred outcome.

This often plays out in a “needing to know how it’s gonna go” at every step of the way, which you and I both know can be a great stumbling block and can often keep us from taking any action at all.

This week, I have been humbled on more than one occasion by very clear reminders that my need to be in control, my plan, and my will are not the ultimate determining factors of how it’s all going to unfold. This has forced me (and I’m thankful for the lesson) to practice letting go a little and leaving space for Co-Creation.

When we hold on to our own vision so tight and are so hell-bent on our way being THE only way, we cut ourselves off from the flow of synchronicity, from the help of invisible hands and from the possibility of Co-Creation with the Divine.

In the spirit of this new practice, I decided to record this week’s vlog with no real idea of what I was going to say or how I was going to say it. This brought up a lot of my fears and insecurities about looking bad, not being in control, and having no clue how it was going to go. I had to be really disciplined to keep myself from sneakily planning my ideas and organizing my thoughts but I managed to do it. Here’s what happened…

And…I survived! And the truth is, I actually really enjoyed the experience. I had a sense of aliveness, a thrill and excitement that was only possible in the space of not knowing how it was going to go. And not having it all figured out really forced me to be present, to listen and be open, and to really speak from my heart.

At the end of the day, isn’t that what we really want most? To be fully present to the magic of each moment, to feel our aliveness and the excitement of each experience? To live, breathe, speak and act from our hearts?

So I invite you to explore this practice in your life this week. Where you can let go and leave room for co-creation? Where can you take a leap and trust that you will be caught?

Let’s use the space below to share what we’re taking on and support each other as we let go and see what happens.

Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Much love,

Chris

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Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.com, Twitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here .
  • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

    Chris,

    I love this and loved the vlog! I think it’s a great reminder and a great message. (I hope the woman…or man… who wrote the letter about failing at the Master’s teaching degree test 6 or 7 times now reads this blog and watches your vlog!)

    I also often find myself humbled by things not going as planned, or like how I think I want them to go. I’ve also, on more than a few occasions, found that when I DO plan something extensively and really push for MY way to happen, it doesn’t turn out how I want, and I’m actually not that happy. That’s taught me to trust the Universe and let whatever comes to me, come. Of course, that’s not to say I don’t still try to plan stuff and know what’s going to happen… that’s a hard habit to break, but I’m working on it. :)

    I’ve noticed something funny happen with me a few times. I’ll profess that I feel a certain way, or that I’m “never” going to do _____ and then circumstances will change, or my feelings will shift, and I’ll feel actually pulled to do whatever it is I swore I never would. I sometimes have to laugh. Like the Universe is saying, “Oh, you think you know what you’re going to do, do you? We’ll just see about that!” Lol.

    So it’s humbling to give in and accept the Universe’s plan, and sometimes change my course and change my pre-made-up mind. To roll with the waves, so to speak. To accept and allow, rather than fight.

    Thanks for another great message and reminder! :)

    Sarah

    http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/03/your-belief-of-what-you-can-be-makes.html

    • http://www.facebook.com/stephanie.shank.52 Stephanie Shank

      Sarah Noel… I SOOOO get what you are saying about saying, “I’m never going to do _____” …. and then finding myself doing that! It used to happen to me all the time. I have become more open to things unfolding in the moment, and more mindful of what I say, and remembering
      the saying, “Never say never!”

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Well said Sarah! Thanks for always contributing your valuable insight and perspective to the conversation. Much love my friend :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/carol.shannon.39 Carol Shannon

    Awesome, you did a great job. Thanks for the ever so important reminder to surrender!

    ♥C

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      You’re welcome Carol!

  • http://www.facebook.com/stephanie.shank.52 Stephanie Shank

    Thank you Chris! This was the perfect message for me!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Awesome!

  • D

    Thanks Chris I certainly need this during this difficult time in my life when I am trying to decide whether to “control” or “let go let God”

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Let gooooo!!!

  • Nora

    Thanks Chris! Today is really not my day but you made it better. :) Much love!

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Sending you love Nora. Hopefully your day continues to turn around :)

  • Luz

    At the end of the day, isn’t that what we really want most? To be fully present to the magic of each moment, to feel our aliveness and the excitement of each experience? To live, breathe, speak and act from our hearts?
    YES!!!!! WE DO.. Thanks for the reminder :)
    You’re beautiful! God Bless

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Yes!! Thanks Luz! Right back at ya :)

  • susan Huff

    THANK YOU<3

  • Amanda

    You are adorable, and one of my favorite TDL contributors :) Your posts are always spot on. And you did an awesome job with this vlog, thanks for facing your fears! Both for our benefit and your own :)

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Thanks Amanda! I had fun doing it and I plan to keep it up! Much love :)

  • Stacey ❤ Rae

    Hi Chris! Your vlog message was spot on and resonated with me deeply. Thank you for your courage and gracious words. What a beautiful reminder to wake up to this morning. Yay!
    ❤Stacey Rae ☺

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear Stacey Rae! Hope you have a beautiful Sunday! Much love :)

  • http://twitter.com/JaniceStirton Janice Stirton

    Peace and love to you also Chris. I have realized the need to let go for many years now but doing it is sometimes a big challenge for me. I think and react quickly and I need to take a deep breath, relax and back off. I often don’t realize how controlling I am trying to be until I am in the middle of it and stressed because it is not going the way I think that it should! I am really going to focus this week on living in the present with love and trust that I will be lead to the answers. I also will try to embrace acceptance that what happens is all perfect even if I don’t see it that way initially. Blessings to everyone on the journey. ((HUGS))

  • Dora

    Thank you Chris for sharing your experience. It’s so inspiring to be brave and trust, to be here and now…Love it! Peace and love from Berlin:)

  • Yoni Moskowitz

    I have a first date tonight, and find myself rehearsing the topics to lead and questions to ask. This comes with anxiety. Your message is spot on, inspiring me to realize to trust god and myself, be present , and let the conversation flow. Thanks assad :)

    • http://twitter.com/ChrisAssaad Chris Assaad

      Yes Yoni! Just be yourself and it will go great!

  • robert

    meetings at the intersection of Here n Now are indeed available when we “stop” the
    momentum of going “there” and BE where we are.PRESENCE

  • Angie

    I so needed to hear this today. I have been putting a lot of pressure on myself this week to get certain things done to try to forward my new business along. Today I broke down and cried for no reason – or so I thought. After I calmed down I realized it was from all this damn pressure I’m putting on myself, and then I reminded myself to go with the flow a little more and have patience. So hearing you say that we don’t always need to know the outcome takes A LOT of pressure off. I am terrified because I don’t know whether this business venture will be the success I’m hoping for or a complete flop, but either way I know that I will be led to where I am supposed to be. Anyway, thanks for this reminder, it was exactly what I needed today.

  • Peggybythesea

    Loved this…Thank you Chris!!!Nice to see young people with an awesome outlook on the future…This 50***something woman is striving to do this….I went to the University of Life and am trying to figure out where I can give from my heart…I know because I am not getting an answer from God that He has a plan and I have to trust…Hard for me to do…I have been through much and I am still getting back up and loving and forgiving….I have 3 beautiful sons, married to wonderful women, and 4 grandchildren with my youngest baby (28) having his first…They are excited… 4 of them great teachers, 3 in the inner city. I have lived and just want to give back…I look at their generation, your generation, and love to see the hard workers who want to build a good future…It’s a tough world out there…I pray a lot!!!! God Bless you, you inspire me…Peggy

  • Adwoa Jayne

    Thank you Chris for a great vlog with a loving and inspiring reminder that the universe always wants the best for us, therefore we really can afford to trust more and allow more love and joy in our lives.

    Fabulous job, thank you
    Love
    Adwoa Jayne

  • Sarah

    Ahhhh..letting go to fall in to the black hole of the unknown..scary thing. To not be afraid to be free to think and act on what you want.I hope I lose that grip and allow that fall and see what really is at the bottom! Thanks for the encouragement and always your blogs hit on something relevant in my life. Thank you for being the voice and one that’s not just in my head..haha…much blessings to you.