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Let Go of the Pain!

Do you ever have those days when the sun is shining, your schedule is free and you simply are unable to enjoy yourself? I had one of those days this week. In fact, I had a couple of them. It felt like there was a gray cloud cast inside of my Heart. My heart was hurting. I was really sad. I could feel my shoulders pulling forward and my stomach feel empty inside. The feeling of heaviness simply didn’t go away. When I finally made it a priority to check in and see what was going on inside for me, I took my journal and sat in the backyard. The cool summer breeze gently kissed my shoulders as the sun began to melt the energy my body was holding onto. I started scribbling in my journal. No words were coming out. I felt so numb that I didn’t even want to open up and share with myself. After allowing myself to doodle for a couple of minutes words began to flow, “I don’t want to hurt anymore.”

My eyes filled with tears and I started crying uncontrollably. I set my journal down, put my left hand on my stomach and my right hand on my heart, taking a big deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth — and could feel the emotional pain start to come to the surface. I just allowed myself to sit with my eyes closed, focusing on my breath, and allowing the waves of emotion to come up and be released. As I looked around the yard, I picked up my journal again and began to write.

“To let go of the pain, I need to stop focusing on the things that I feel cause me pain. The people that choose to do hurtful, unacceptable things to me in my life, I need to focus less on. I need to speak less of them. I need to focus less on them. My thoughts and words create the energy that I carry. It’s as if I am addicted to focusing on that which makes me feel bad inside. It’s a very bad habit that I need to work on breaking. There may be various levels of stress and tension in my life right now that makes great conversion, but I choose to not share the stories of what is causing me pain any longer. I have done this more than enough.” I spaced out and found myself lost staring at the grapevines in the yard. I continued to write.

“Life. Life has pleasure and pain at all times. Why not choose to focus on the pleasure? Why make it harder than it needs to be? That which creates pain holds the greatest lessons for my Heart. This I know in my gut. When I feel pain, I must remember to ask what the opportunity and lesson is that it is offering me. I am not a victim — things don’t just hurt me. Everything in my life tremendously supports me. That which causes me pain creates liberation if I allow it to support me. Although I may not be in control of my thoughts, I must remember that I am in control of what thoughts I choose to focus on. I choose to be greater than the situations going on in my life — even though they feel enormous at times. I AM GREATER than even the most enormous situation in my life. I really am! I must remember this and remember that everything passes in time. I honor all situations in my life and will choose to focus on that which supports what I am wanting to create and feel more of in my life. I choose to no longer give my power away to another person or even life itself. I choose to commit to focusing on what makes me feel better inside. Everything is perfectly unfolding as it should be. If I don’t want to hurt anymore, I must let go of holding onto hurt and be grateful that I am moving forward in my life. I make incredible choices to support myself and create the quality of life that I know exists in my very soul. I embrace and focus on all of the good times and memories that I have had. The ones that weren’t so positive I put away in a “to be learned from” file in my Heart. One thing that I know for certain is I don’t need to hurt anymore. I give myself permission to let go of all pain so I may have room to focus on the great and amazing life that I have sitting before me. When I feel pain, I honor and give it a voice, then lovingly say goodbye to it, and give myself permission to let go and focus on the pleasure.”

I continued to sit in the chair looking out at the beauty of the colorful blossoms covering the backyard. I took a big deep breath in through the nose and exhaled out through the mouth, put a big smile on my face, reminded myself that these situations in my life won’t last forever — and declared out-loud, “I no longer focus on the things that cause me pain. I choose to breathe as I feel pain and know that in the next breath or two pleasure awaits.” I stood up with my shoulders back , my head high and enjoyed the rest of the day.

Right after I got done writing this journal entry, I went on Facebook and saw this post I wanted to share. Talk about synchronicity! “Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about your joys.” ~ Rita Schiano

May we remember in the deepest place of our being, and remind each other constantly, the preciousness of life and that our lives are forever blessed.

In the greatest love,
Robin Lee

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  • Elbar_94

    Your message today speaks directly to me and I am so greatful for it. Thank you.

    • Robin Lee

      You are very welcome! Elbar_94 Have a blessed day!

  • http://www.facebook.com/jewelrainbow Jewel Rainbow

    Wonderful advice, thank you for this uplifting message

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Jewel! You are very welcome ! :) Enjoy your process and day!

  • Hope Trelogan

    A perfect reminder to start the day focusing on the right things. Many thanks.

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Hope ! You are very welcome!

  • Tina

    Oh my goodness, I felt as if this message was meant specifically for ME! It cannot have been any more truer than it is for me. THANK YOU for sharing your story as it’s exactly mine at this point of my life. I feel so stuck it’s sickening and debilitating my life. I will have to do what you just did above.

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Tina! :) Let yourself be free! :)

  • kaye721

    What a great message, it helps pull you back from the edge and focus on the right things.  Thanks!

    • Robin Lee

      xoxoxo You are very welcome ! :)

  • Christinn8824

    Recently I was retrenched from my job. They paid me some money as compensation. I was quite sad cos I haven’t been able to find a job yet. However, I should actually be thankful. It’s because, I actually dislike the job and wanted to quit for a long time. Now they are actually paying for me to go!! It’s a blessing!! I just need to maintain my faith that Universe has arranged something better for me. It’s coming real soon:)

    • Robin Lee

      xoxxo Blessings to you in trusting the most incredible job will come your way Christinn8824 Let me know when it happens. Until then, breathe and allow the support of life fill every place in your being. xo

  • Ema

    I had one of those days like you did just yesterday and your blog has helped me understand so many things. Thank you. Much blessings.

    • Robin Lee

      Mnay blessings to you Ema! :) xo

  • Randi

    Thank you thank you thank you.  Your blog came at the perfect time today.  

    • Robin Lee

      xoxoxoxxo

  • http://32in32.com/ Pauline Hawkins

    It seems so simple until we see all the forces working against us: People pay more attention to us when we have something sad or painful to share; cynicism abounds and portrays itself as the intelligent choice; people think happiness is fake and a mask pretenders wear. Thank you for showing that joy is a choice we make when we let go of the pain. We all can and should make that choice. Blessings to you!

    • Robin Lee

      xoxox I love knowing how there is always pleasure and pain-and always a choice. xo

  • Marlene

    Beautifully written, your voice was heard loudly and this piece really resonated with me. It was just what I had been waiting to hear and believe. Thank you, sending lots of love your way. 

    • Intuitionheals

      Hi Marlene!
      @ac4641c1542009f20283026ee117ec1f:disqus I am so happy you found this blog supportive!

  • Surya

    It is sad to hear that many things seem to evoke a deep emotional response out of you.  While focusing on the joy in your life is certainly a very good thing, what might be even better is to focus on what causes such a strong reaction within you to these people?  What is it that allows you to be affected so?

    Instead of following the New Age trend of running away from your problems (and when I say “your”, I don’t mean just you of course), try to exact change within, which is the only place the real problems lie.  

    We can’t blame external circumstances.  We have to look at our reactions.  This and the mindset towards it is what needs to change.

    • guru dave

      surya you should start your own blog, you seem to have all the answers.maybe  you are fortunate not to care what people do,  this blogger certainly does from what I have read..good for you, most of us aren’t made that way..not sure if you are a woman or man, but I have never met anyone not affected by bad things others do unless they are heavily medicated or crazy….or have a narcissistic personality disorder..

    • GreenSmoothieGirl

       Surya, you seem to have missed the point altogether.  First, why is it “sad to hear that many things evoke a deep emotional response out of” Robin?  As human beings, we are emotional beings.  We experience every human emotion possible.  If you are not experiencing multiple emotions daily, then you are not human!  I’ve been following this blog for a while and she talks about all emotions…from joy, excitement, disappointment, sadness, anger…she’s incredibly brave and doesn’t shy away from any of it!  It doesn’t look to me like this blogger is running away from her problems, but is choosing to kick the trash out of her life!!  And that’s not New Age; that’s freedom of choice!! 

  • Rosemary Alexander

    Recently, I shared some pain with you that was “dogging ” me and you helped me find a place of trust that this too will pass and everything will be okay – but that I had to stop focusing on the hurting, because it was wearing down my immune system. When in the grip of pain it’s sometimes hard to remember that everything is somehow supporting us. Thanks for sharing this.

    • Robin Lee

      Rosemary,You are greatly loved and it is an honor and gift to be able to support you in your healing process. YOu are doing so great. Strengthen the commitment to trusting…You are doing great. 

  • lizilynx

    I really love your share! Your work with journaling is really inspiring! I’ve been using meditation as a way to listen to my body…and when messages come to me I’m able to intuit the Truth in the message…Putting the Truth into action is a practice in itself, helping me to feel my feelings. And THANK YOU for directing us towards the positive. Also, love the synchronicity! As stated in Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Eat Pray Love”, “You need to choose your thoughts like you choose the clothes you put on everyday. If you cannot control your thoughts…” I’m GRATEFUL again for your post! Much Love to you, Robin! :o)

    • Robin Lee

      I love that! You need to choose your thoughts like you choose your clothes everyday! xoxoxo Much love to you Lizilynx May we continue to inspire each other ! 

  • Wingedangelflies

    What a powerful, and breathtaking piece of art. Thank you Robin…
    “the light that we see is a reflection of the love that we free – from the heart we ignite the light of beauty that resonates our true love to breathe – in oneness we see – namaste” ~ Lee Parore

    • Robin Lee

      I love that quote. Thank you so much for sharing it ! Thank you so much for taking the time . I hope you had a great week! 

  • Mckennadeirdre

    wow wow wow wow wow. just beautiful ….I can’t wait for your book!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you for doing this!

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Deirdre ! Love you so much. xoxoxox cant wait to finally have it done! In perfect timing.xo

  • Joan

    Love you Robin !!! Thanks for always beautifully sharing the journey of life & living.. xoxo

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Joan! Thank you for showing up courageously with your open heart! xoxox NIce to see you here ! 

  • guru dave

    awesome..glad my buddy showed me this site

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Guru Dave,Awesome to have you take the time to share ! Welcome! xo

  • Robin Lee

    I love that quote. Thank you so much for sharing it ! Thank you so much for taking the time . I hope you had a great week! 

  • Robin Lee

    I love that! You need to choose your thoughts like you choose your clothes everyday! xoxoxo Much love to you Lizilynx May we continue to inspire each other ! 

  • Robin Lee

    Rosemary,You are greatly loved and it is an honor and gift to be able to support you in your healing process. YOu are doing so great. Strengthen the commitment to trusting…You are doing great. 

  • Robin Lee

    xoxxo Blessings to you in trusting the most incredible job will come your way Christinn8824 Let me know when it happens. Until then, breathe and allow the support of life fill every place in your being. xo

  • Robin Lee

    Hi Guru Dave,Awesome to have you take the time to share ! Welcome! xo

  • Robin Lee

    Hi Joan! Thank you for showing up courageously with your open heart! xoxox NIce to see you here ! 

  • Robin Lee

    Hi Deirdre ! Love you so much. xoxoxox cant wait to finally have it done! In perfect timing.xo