You know those people who are mind-blowingly successful? Those people who have accomplished their dreams and created everything they wanted? You might already be one of those people, and if you aren’t yet – the good news is that you have full capacity to be one. The only difference between people who accomplish their wildest dreams, and people who do not, is one, simple word:
It’s actually the use of the word, or lack thereof, that makes the difference. My homeboy Yoda once said, “Do, or do not. There is no try.” Every single day we tell other people, and ourselves, that we are going to “try” to do something. We might say:
“I’ll try to call you at 5pm.”
“I’ll try to make it to the gym after work.”
“I’ll try to visit you sometime next week or weekend.”
“I’ll try to remember to send you an email, hopefully by tonight.”
“I’ll try to audition for the part that I want, but we’ll see what happens…”
Just stop right there! That bolded word above needs to be removed from your vocabulary immediately! The use of the word “try” leaves space for a possibility of it -whatever that may be- not happening. By saying “try” you are proclaiming that you aren’t fully committed. Telling someone that you “promise to try” is not making a promise at all.
Yes, I know – life happens and stuff comes up. But if you make a promise to yourself or someone else, the chances of you not keeping your word are far less. When you do what you say you’re gonna do, you boost your own self-esteem and people see you as being a person of integrity. They know they can count on, and trust, you. What if you said:
“I AM calling you at 5pm!”
“I AM going to the gym after work!”
“I AM visiting you next Tuesday!”
“I AM emailing you tonight by 8pm!”
“I AM auditioning for the part I want, and I AM gonna get it!”
Energy doesn’t lie and there is a clear distinction between saying “I’ll try…” and, “I AM!” There is nothing powerful about “maybe…” There is everything powerful about “absolutely!” And there is a lot of power in the ability to renegotiate if something comes up. Taking ownership of your circumstances, and rising above them, is what truly successful people do. Life happens FOR us, not TO us.
Today is DAY 9 of my second 90 DAY Mission. Last year, I made a commitment to myself, all of my amazing friends, family, fans and followers, that I would do 90 DAYS of eating a Paleo diet (no sugar, no fake food, no processed dairy and no alcohol), a different kind of fitness everyday, and a conscious choice to LOVE my body in whatever state it was in the entire time – and beyond! I uploaded a new video on my YouTube channel everyday and the whole experience changed my life, mind, and body!
Soon after that, I was severely injured in an accident and I allowed myself to fall off my wagon. I fell back into the “Try Mentality” and my lack of commitment sprouted excuses, victim stories and no tangible success.
It wasn’t until I declared that I would begin another 90 DAY Mission that everything around me began to shift. If I had said, “I’ll try to work out like I used to,” that wouldn’t have set me up for accomplishing my goals. Instead, I said, “I AM beginning my next 90 DAY Mission on January 16th!” And so I did.
What are you committed to creating in your life, and by WHEN? Let’s declare what you’re up to so you can stick to your word! I love reading all of the comments below! It brings so much joy into my life to hear from my AMAZING and POWERFUL Readers! That’s exactly what all of you are!
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.