Love the Uncertainty

Sometimes you have to grasp at old sayings: Laugh, and the world laughs with you; Cry, and you cry alone. Also: Laughter is the best medicine!

No matter what life throws in your path, I believe the best remedy is you just gotta laugh and take the lesson!

Like many of you, I am living a very strange chapter of my life right now. I know I’m not alone with this; I’m hearing it from people everywhere. Things are so in flux and ever-changing, it is almost a joke. It is at the same time extremely challenging, and full of grace.

Sometimes, the unexpected makes me laugh out loud, and sometimes it really makes me cry. The unknown is both exciting and scary.  But I certainly cannot hold on to the illusion that I am the ‘doer’, that I am in charge of this wild adventure that is my human experience. I have never been more sure that there is something bigger going on. And whether you call that energy, I am certain it is not controlled by our mind, our limited understanding of ‘the big picture’, or our likes and dislikes.

We know that in Buddhism and in many spiritual texts, there is an understanding of ‘impermanence’. Nothing lasting forever. That when you’re sad, it will change, and when you’re on top of the world, it will change. We usually like it to change when things aren’t going too well, but not the reverse. No way. When things aren’t going well, we think we’ve taken the wrong path, or we get angry with The Uni-verse, or we look around for someone to blame. None of those things are true. They are just fabrications of our mind, seeking proof that we are in control.

Life is full of impermanence. Indeed, trying to keep things the way they have been is in fact a kind of sickness. Because it’s impossible, really. Life is energy, and the nature of energy is to move. So even on a physiological level, things are always in flux. So if we are trying to stay the same, whether in relationship to someone else, or to our work, or our finances, we are actually retarding our own growth.

I was a ballerina for many years, and I came to know the humbling truth that our bodies are not the same each day. Some days we are flexible, some days a little inflexible. Sometimes we are off balance seemingly for no reason at all. I get to experience this even deeper with my daily Yoga and Meditation practice, and the more I quiet my mind, the more obvious are these subtle moments of change that are beyond my control or understanding. It is time for us all to make peace with this flux.

Looking around at people I know well, and those I barely know, UNCERTAINTY or the UNEXPECTED is the common thread we are all sharing. The cowardly response is to run and hide and wait until it’s over. The brave thing is to look it dead in the eyes and then laugh at it. Laughter makes everything less scary. Amazingly, the Unexpected can be your friend.

I have learned and believe that everything happens for your benefit. Yep, even the most challenging times. I have learned that it is true during and after the times when the rug has been pulled, and I’m thinking ‘why am I here, experiencing this?’ Later it is always revealed. Not usually as quickly as I’d like to understand and know, but it is always revealed. But figuring it out in the moment just wastes so much time and energy.

So soften your grip today, on whatever it is you’ve been holding and let your life change and move in the way it’s meant to. There are endless possibilities in the void, in the unknown – what will you fill it with today?

Maybe you just gotta laugh!



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Rachel is an expert Kundalini Yoga teacher. Follow her on Twitter here.

  • summerfairy

    Love this!!! 🙂

  • sunny

    wow, i so needed to hear this, thank you very much!
    it is so true, that once we let go and soften our grip, things not only seem easier, we find out that thats the only way they can be at this moment. to remind me of this principle, it helps me often to commune with nature, sit in a garden, a park, or next to a tree, and just watch nature. nature never tries to understand, analyse or be somewhere its not. also, a small tree standing next to a big tree, none of them worry about they´re heights. none of nature´s creatures thinks back about how things were yesterday.
    yes, the uncertain in scary. but its the only place, where true growth can come from.
    thanks for reminding me!!!!

  • Beautifully written…thank you :)!

  • Destiny

    WOW!! I really needed this today!! There definitely is a shift going on right now. I have decided today to just let God be in control. I can do the best I can each day to continue to get through it and move..happily!! I am just grateful and thankful for life and each day that God gives me.

  • Jaime

    I love this! It reminds me of my favorite passage by Rilke that I have pinned to my wall at work:
    ” Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.”
    Thank you for sharing your words!

  • Daniela

    Yes and thank you 🙂 The best way is to laugh :)))

  • Kelly

    So needed this today! Thank you!

  • Melanie

    sometimes you have to laugh…sometimes you gotta dance!! Thanks for the share…well said. You are so right …realizing we are not in control is so necessary for peace. Well said =)

  • Lyd

    Thank you for the reminder, perfect timing!!