Make Everything An Act Of Love!

Patricia Moreno_050913-1699I was picking up my 2-year-old from day care last week and we hit traffic on our way home. As we sat through another round of green lights without moving, I heard her shout from her car seat, “Move it people!” When I asked her why she said that, she answered, “Because Mommy, we are stuck and they have to move.” I don’t remember saying that before but obviously it’s something she learned from either me or my wife, so in that moment I decided that instead of teaching her how to have road rage I had better teach her a better way to handle traffic.

The next time we were together in the car and hit some traffic, she again yelled, “Move it people!” This time, I said, “Olivia we have to learn to be patient and instead of getting upset let’s say a prayer that the traffic moves quickly and easily.” I said, just repeat after me, “May the traffic move quickly and easily” and she added “and safely.” I said good idea, lets say our traffic prayer, “May the traffic move quickly, easily and safely.” After we said our prayer, the light turned green and the traffic began to move. She was so excited and giggled at the result. Now every time we are in traffic she shouts, “Let’s say the traffic prayer, Mommy!” and we do.

This situation with my daughter made me realize just how early on in life we learn how to deal with our life stresses, and that we learn everything from our parents, siblings and teachers. As we grow older, we rarely take the time to reprogram ourselves or upgrade how we can deal with stressful situations. When I look back and think about how I deal with my stress, it is exactly how my parents did. Sometimes I am more like my dad, easy going and avoiding things, hoping someone else will take care of it first. Other times, I am like my mom, dealing with things head on and getting whatever needs to happen done no matter what. Both ways are extreme ways of dealing and recently I realized that there are more ways to deal with my stress than the two extreme ways my parents did. I realized that I could actually deal with my stress through acts of love.

In every moment of our lives, we are creating either from love or mis-creating with fear. Sometimes we forget that we are always causing some effect with how we think, what we say, or what we do, and the effect goes farther and wider than most of us realize. It is not simply a matter of our own quality of life, we are always adding to the collective consciousness and always affecting the ones that are closest to us and love the most. When we react and create from love, when we make love our primary action, we challenge our old habits and we can mindfully upgrade our thinking and our life.

How I choose to deal with stress now is through affirmative prayer, setting intentions, noticing I am stressed and simply taking a few deep breaths so that I can make a conscious choice on how to proceed, quickly, easily and safely. Notice how you deal with stress and ask yourself if it’s time for an upgrade. Be part of the solution instead of adding to the problem. The greatest gift we have is free will. Practice taking advantage of that gift and practice choosing Love.

May today you move quickly, easily, safely and most importantly, may you move with love.

Love,

Patricia

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Patricia Moreno is a soul activator and the creator of intenSati, a transformational workout that combines empowering affirmations with interval training, martial arts, dance and yoga. Check out her website, Facebook, and Twitter for more information!

  • Camille

    I like this because I do something similar. I used to be a timid driver because I learned late and never had much experience, and so in order to combat this fear EVERYTIME i got into my car I said aloud “I am getting to my destination safely and I am getting home safely because I am a safe driver and I’m surrounded by safe drivers.”
    It has become perfunctory now after all these years. And I’ve got to say–I’ve never gotten into an accident or even pulled over. And when a sticky situation does end up happening (someone cutting me off) I am able to keep the peace and drive on.
    Thanks for the article!

    • Patricia Moreno

      I love this. Thanks for sharing! xo

    • Katherine

      Ooooo, this is great! May I “borrow” this prayer your prayer?

  • Hillary Briggs Solomon

    This is a beautiful reminder, thank you…with love!

  • Christine

    Just when I think I couldn’t love Patricia Moreno any more . . here comes this article! Sigh. These few sentences just made me stop in my tracks: “Sometimes I am more like my dad, easy going and avoiding things, hoping someone else will take care of it first. Other times, I am like my mom, dealing with things head on and getting whatever needs to happen done no matter what. Both ways are extreme ways of dealing and recently I realized that there are more ways to deal with my stress than the two extreme ways my parents did. I realized that I could actually deal with my stress through acts of love.” Those few sentences sum up how I often deal with situations. Thanks for sharing this story Patricia, for always being so honest about your life and for bringing Intensati into our lives.

  • Lupe Ramos

    Love it ! Tks. for sharing !!

  • AmyBirks.com

    Well said! A fantastic reminder of how making minor, but mindful, shifts in our own thoughts and actions can make an impact on our lives in general. Thank you, Patricia!

  • Liz Brazier

    Thank you Patricia. Such a great way of reframing how we can learn to react and deal with things differently!

  • Aliza Blair

    Christine, I couldn’t agree more. I needed this lesson. I can definitely see my three year old son mimicking things I say and do in stressful situations. I’ve become more conscious. But now i have an emotional and mental cue to be kind and approach the situation with love. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for the lesson.

  • jenniferD

    This really hit home. My past exactly, and my now adult daughter has exhibited this behavior. oh, how I wish I had seen this back then!
    But here is another great traffic related tip when your teens begin to drive: You can never ‘hit’ the car in front of you if you do not get too close. Try to stay 2 car lengths behind…

  • Katherine

    Love this story! Thank you, as always, Patricia for teaching not just Olivia, but all of us, with clarity and love.

  • Sharon H.

    Great post, very clear and concise. Thank you x.

  • Susan de Vriend

    This was a beautiful article! I love the traffic prayer. Thank you for this inspiring wisdom.