Are you a complainer? Be honest.
Do you like being around complainers? Of course not!
The act of complaining is more than simply saying something negative. Whether you realize it or not, this negativity impacts your life. When you complain, you are focusing on what is wrong as opposed to what is right. Since we are all made up of energy, our thoughts, feelings, and words carry energy as well. The negative vibration that stems from complaining goes out into the Uni-verse, grabs other negative things, and brings them into your life in the form of unfulfilling relationships, careers, etc. If you don’t believe me, the next time you’re in a bad mood and can’t shake it, see how your day unfolds. With ease and grace? Or a crappy series of mishaps like a domino effect?
Just a couple weeks ago, I was stressed and frustrated. Because it was all I focused on and had myself in a constricted mess, I locked myself out of my apartment, in the freezing cold, not properly dressed. When I got back inside (thank you neighbor for being home and AWAKE at the early hour) and changed, I left AGAIN for work. Late and frantic, I slipped and fell right in the middle of a NYC street and then proceeded to lose my phone and mess up my clients’ appointment times. Instead of losing my mind, I stopped, regrouped and re-calibrated. I chose to focus on what was right in my life, and then, viola, the day flowed swimmingly! (Although my bloody knee and bruised ego were painful reminders to BE HERE NOW!)
So, I have a challenge for you.
It requires you to be very aware and mindful IN THE PRESENT MOMENT. Take one day—a solid 24 hours—and every time you start to complain, catch yourself, and stop. Try to stop BEFORE you complain. How often do you want to complain and say something negative? Write down when you want to complain and what you want to complain about. It’s probably more often than you think, and much of the time about things that don’t really matter. Know that bringing awareness to the habit is the first step to overcoming it and replacing it with a more positive one.
Let me know how the challenge goes for you. What did you learn? Maybe you can dig deeper and get to the root of why you complain and the dissatisfaction you feel.
Your emotional well-being and relationships are worth the time and effort to overcome the chronic complainer syndrome! You don’t like being around a complainer, and neither does anyone else. Be the positivity you want to draw to you.
I hope you have an amazing week, focusing on what’s right, and, as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love,
Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.