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Redefining Happiness

Rahim Kanji_portrait 112112I wanted to write a blog on a topic we all struggle with, and something we ALL want: happiness. It’s that feeling of contentment; a place in your life without internal struggle/pain where life just feels…right! Everyone’s formula for happiness is different. Some want a bit more financial security, some want more love, and yet others require more success. But what exactly is happiness? How is it different from joy – and why is it so hard to achieve?

Well, for starters, happiness and joy are not the same thing. Happiness is a grounded emotion/ energy. It’s linked to satisfaction and gratitude, and it is synonymous with contentment and inner-peace. Joy, on the other hand, is by its very nature fleeting. It’s a sense of ecstasy, bliss, and elation, and it leaves as quickly as it came. Just from this distinction alone, I can think of many instances in my own life, where I’ve confused the two. When I have thought that to be happy with my life meant constantly having a smile on my face, and waking up with bliss. That’s not realistic, and that is NOT true happiness. As is commonly said, life is about ebbs and flows – periods of joy and darkness. Happiness then is not the upward motion of this rollercoaster ride. It is the seat you chose to ride on through that journey.

Another paramount difference in the two is where they originate. Joy, being an extreme emotion, relies on the external to exist. It’s in response to extremely positive events in our life – for example getting promoted at work, falling in love, or receiving praise from your boss. The beauty of happiness, on the other hand, is that it’s an inside job. It’s a skill of inner-stability and inner-peace we practice and develop. I’ve found gratitude has helped me get better at it. When you’re grateful, even for small things, you have no choice, but to be satisfied (even if it’s to a small degree) with your life. That has a profound effect on perspective…and perspective is everything when we are pursuing happiness. (Tweet-worthy!)

Love,

Dr. Kanji

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Dr. Rahim Kanji is a Naturopathic Doctor practicing in Toronto, Canada. He has a passion for evidence-based natural medicine, specifically empowering his patients to make nutritional changes which create dramatic impacts to their health. For more information, visit his website at www.rahimkanjind.com.