‘Cuz it pretty much happens every single day in our lives. We are either experiencing rejection from someone else OR we are rejecting ourselves.
Hear me when I say: REJECTION is mostly a myth.
Why is this? Well… if you’ve been reading TDL for a while, you know that there is only ONE THING we can control and that is… the MEANING that we give the events of our life. EXACTLY.
So that means, when it comes to “rejection” we get to label it. We get to call it what it is. We get to make it mean what we want it to mean because we ARE the co-creators of our reality.
This doesn’t mean that is doesn’t suck when you don’t get what you want. It also doesn’t mean that breaking up, or not getting the person, job or opportunity you REALLY desired doesn’t hurt. I’m not asking you to become a non-human. However, what I am suggesting is that you CAN decide what it means.
Many times when people experience rejection they make it mean something about themselves. They’ll say, “I’m not good enough,” “something’s wrong with me,” “If I were different then they would like me,” etc., etc., etc…
THAT is where we get to make a new choice. We can’t change the way we feel immediately, but we CAN decide what experiencing rejection MEANS. And as a result we can change the direction of our lives for the better.
I’ve been rejected PLENTY! And for a long time I made it mean that there was something wrong with ME. That I’m not good enough. That I’ll NEVER find LOVE or success or any of the things I wanted. And then I got wise. I realized I had this power of meaning in my life and so I started to use it. And I stopped taking other people’s decisions personally and my life began to change. I stopped living for THEM and started living for ME. It was awesome.
The reality is that not everyone is going to like you. And not getting with someone that you REALLY want to get with is actually GRACE in action. I PROMISE you that over time, you will see what I’m talking about. One year, five years, ten years down the line you’ll see the decisions and actions made by those you didn’t sync with and be GRATEFUL that things turned out the way that they did! I PROMISE!
So, in your life – have you been “rejected” lately? And if so, what did you make that mean about yourself? I know it hurts and it will for a while – this too will pass. But what did you make the rejection MEAN about yourself? Did you make it mean something negative about you? Or did you just take it as GRACE and move on?
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Mastin Kipp is the founder and CEO of The Daily Love. Follow him on Twitter here.
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