Remember…We ALWAYS Have A Choice!

Robin Lee burgandy102411Every night on Facebook and Twitter I hold Gratitude Parties.

Oftentimes people will comment that they have nothing to be grateful for.

A few months back I was referred a client from a doctor. His patient was being tortured with an extreme case of depression. They had tried every type of medicine under the moon-and-back — and nothing seemed to work past three or four weeks. The doctor had read about my work on my website and “had a feeling” I could help her. I told him I would love to set up a session with her and see what I could find.

As we sat on the phone together, my heart sank listening to her story. I couldn’t help but wonder how she was still getting out of bed in the morning. As I listened to her through her tears, I asked her a simple question, “What makes you get out of bed in the morning?”

Her response was very profound. She said to me, “I don’t have a choice.”

We took a couple deep breaths together and I told her that we always have a choice. I told her that she could choose to never get out of bed again and have other people take care of her. She seemed perplexed by this thought.

I asked her to get a glass of water to sip on from the kitchen and come back to the phone. Often when I work I ask people to get up and move around or do something positive for themselves to help integrate change. Upon her return from the kitchen with her cup of water, she seemed kind of angry and stand off-ish.

I asked her to take a sip of water and asked her what she was feeling. She told me she put a lot of faith in our session and felt like she was getting ripped off. She was upset that I told her she always had a choice. She began raising her voice and told me that nobody would ever choose to live like she was and I was just another airy-fairy healer.

I took a few deep breaths, looked at the clock, and told her we had about a half hour left in our session. It seemed a little early to me that she was giving up as quickly as she was. I asked her if she wanted to end the session early or if she wanted to see what else we could come up with in our session. I said it “was her choice.” She said she wanted to continue with her session.

I invited her to consider that perhaps she wanted to get out of the bed in the morning so she could experience some beautiful things in her life. I shared with her that she could choose to stay laying around all day or she could choose to get up because there were things she was loving in her life and she didn’t want to miss out on them. I told her how inspired I was by her that she chose to get up even though she didn’t feel like it. I spoke to her a bit about the power of focusing on Gratitude and the gifts that we have in our lives. I asked her to make a list of things that she actually liked in her life. She grumbled and began making a list as we sat on the phone. I told her to keep working on the list. I asked her to write five things down every morning and night before she got out of or went to bed that was worth seeing/experiencing/having in her life that day. We spoke of making some easy dietary changes, adding in a couple of supplements, and working together every two weeks for two months so we could get some of these positive habits in place.

Before I would commit to having another session with her I told her I needed her to commit to texting or emailing me five times a day a simple affirmation. Her affirmation, ” I commit to make choices in my life that make me feel good. I deserve to feel good.” She agreed and we worked together for two months.

I hadn’t heard back from her for several weeks and I decided to send her an email because she had been on my mind. She was thrilled to hear from me and shared that the medication she was on seemed to “click”. She had kept consistent with the dietary changes, taking the supplements, and focusing on the five positive things morning and night. She said she was experiencing feeling excited about life quite often. I asked her what she felt was making the most difference. She said it was understanding that she had a choice. SO much had happened in her life that she didn’t want to have happen, she somehow forgot that how she dealt with what had happened was what was making her depressed. She kept feeling sorry for herself and focusing on what she didn’t want to have happen — even though it had already happened. She never realized that life just happens and what we do with it, how we perceive it, makes all the difference in our world. As she focused on the negative she kept recreating what she didn’t want to experience. She said that on her bathroom mirror was taped a little paper that said, “I commit to making choices in my life that make me feel good. I deserve to feel good.” She said everyday she looks into the mirror and states her affirmation with confidence. She told me she doesn’t know what will happen during her day, but what she does know is that she is committed to making the most out of it now.

It’s truly remarkable what a balanced diet, a few supplements, and a shift in perspective can do in ones life. I share this with you so that you may feel inspired with whatever you are going through in your life. Just because something happened that you didn’t like in your life doesn’t mean it has to continue to impact you in a negative way. Everything happens for a reason. It really does. When we focus on the blessings before us, the reasons things happen begin to reveal themselves. Do the best you can to take a deep breath, stand up tall, put your face to the sun, and look for something to be grateful for in every moment, in every situation. Gratitude truly does heal.

What three things are you most grateful for right now? I am most grateful for being able to listen to the Counting Crows as I write this blog, being able to see the purple flowers outside by the Buddha fountain, and happy guinea pigs eating their breakfast . πŸ™‚

Have the most wonderful day today!

In Health and Love,



Robin Lee is a medical intuitive and healer. Check out Robin’s siteΒ hereΒ and follow her on twitterΒ here.

  • itsswami

    Awesome Writing. Having choices and eating well makes all the difference. And bravo to you for not giving up on her and making the Choice to call you client to see how she was doing!

    • Robin Lee

      Good Morning itsswami πŸ™‚ Thank you for saying hi πŸ˜‰ We are as powerful as the choices we make πŸ™‚ ( and then some! ) . This blog came out on Gratitude Friday. If you feel inspired please share a few things you are grateful for! If you want to come on over to Twitter and Facebook the party is getting started over there too! Let’s remember how much we inspire each other! Have a fabulous day! πŸ™‚

      • itsswami

        I am Grateful for meeting you, I am grateful for being close to my family and I am grateful for being healthy. Namaste πŸ™‚

        • Robin Lee

          πŸ™‚ So nice to have you be a part of Gratitude Friday! πŸ™‚

  • Amanda

    As always Robin inspiring and amazing!!!!!! Thank you for being you!! I always feel uplifted when I read you blogs and you share your infinite wisdom! πŸ™‚ have an amazing an blessed day! Amanda

    • Robin Lee

      Good Morning Amanda! Happy Friday to you! πŸ™‚ Thank you for taking the time to share on the blog πŸ™‚ Love seeing you here ! It is Gratitude Friday today! Can you share 3 things you are most grateful for? πŸ™‚ Love!! πŸ™‚

      • Amanda

        Happy Monday Robin! Yes I can. I am most grateful for everyone I know and love, health and happiness, me, and to see the beautiful sun rising every morning! Have an amazing and blessed day! πŸ™‚

  • Happiness Is

    I love this writing! Thank you! Knowing and believing I really do have a choice in all situations creates a sense of freedom within me…and I am very grateful for this. I am grateful for the beauty of today’s sunrise, my warm morning shower, and trees.

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Happiness Is! Thank you for taking the time to say hi! It is Gratitude Friday!! Thank you for being a part of our wonderful Party today! Hands up for choices! πŸ™‚

  • David H. Breaux

    Hi Robin,

    Thank you for posting this, for being who you are, and for sharing your experience.

    I am grateful for all that created this precious moment. I am grateful for the beautiful sound of the wind outside. I am grateful for this breath.

    With compassion,
    David H. Breaux

    • Robin Lee

      Good Morning David πŸ™‚ Happy Gratitude Friday! Thank you for taking the time to say hi! I am glad you enjoyed today’s post πŸ˜‰ Have a wonderful day! πŸ™‚

  • S

    What a great read to start my day! Thank you! I am excited to incorporate this daily gratitude party into my routine. πŸ™‚

    • Robin Lee

      hi S! it is so much fun and really keep your mind and heart in a supportive place. If you aren’t following me on Twitter or if you want to be friends on Facebook , please reach out. People from all over the world participate daily in the Gratitude Parties. Such a wonderful community! πŸ™‚ Love to you!

  • Surya Narayan Amma-Das

    I think this is your best blog to date! It is so beautiful that you could hold space for this woman, not let her trigger you when her shadow self/ego came up and vomited defenses on you to prevent itself from experiencing healing, and lead her with a few suggestions that ultimately changed her life. What greater gift can we do for someone? Stay centered, stay in Love, stay in Truth and just by doing that, they have to come back to that space…because there is nowhere else to go and nothing else to hang on to. This is the Secret of Life.

    Thanks for being in the world and doing the work you do with people. You are such a beautiful, loving and unique manifestation of The Goddess.

    Happy Devi Venus Friday and Amavasya Mahalaya! Tomorrow starts Navaratri!


    • Robin Lee

      Hi Surya Narayan Amma-Das Thank you for taking the time to say hi! Happy Gratitude Friday to you!

      • Surya Narayan Amma-Das

        Oh so formal and professional. Hahaha!!! Ok I will play along this time.

  • Teresa

    The advice you gave to her does work! It worked for me and I have seen it work on people around me… I am sharing this article with people I know who will truly appreciate it and benefit from it. Thank you!
    I have soo much to be grateful for but you said list three. Three happens to be my favorite number!!! I am grateful that my boss appreciates me and bought me a $100.00 gift certificate to my favorite restaurant. It is a great feeling to be appreciated:-) I am grateful for my three children and getting to give my daughter a ride home from work last night and had the opportunity to visit and then I had dinner with my son! They are such wonderful people. Third, I am grateful that when I went to get my Dutch Bros coffee this morning it was four stamp Friday!!! It made my day:-) The simple things in life… Woo Hoo… Thank you for this article and for TDL…Have a wonderful day!

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Teresa! So nice that you took the time to connect ! Thank you ! It is wonderful to see how easy it is for you to find things you are grateful for. Appreciation is an act of Gratitude! What a blessing for you! Have the most wonderful day today! Keep breathing in the Gratitude! Robin πŸ™‚

  • sarah gordon

    Robin! You’ve done it again! Tears! So happy for this woman because the power of gratitude is a powerful thing! Even when faced with trying times we are still alive therefore can still be thankful for something. Something we all need to be reminded of. So thankful I have you to remind me every night, so for you I’m grateful! Namaste πŸ™‚

    • Robin Lee

      hi Sarah πŸ™‚ Gratitude is able to heal in such a profound way. Gratitude creates empowerment. It isn’t so much as to what is happening in our lives that creates quality as much as our perspective that we hold πŸ™‚ xo

  • This post is perfect for me today. My business vehicle broke down and needs a $3400 rebuilt transmission! I had a minor meltdown at first, but then changed my perspective with the help of a friends counseling. There are only two available rebuilt transmissions for my vehicle in the world and I’m getting one of them! I have the money to pay for it! This has pushed me to finally make the decision to retire from this 30 year career and pursue my new dream which is being of service to soldiers with ptsd! Thank you Robin and thank you Uni-verse!!!

    • Robin Lee

      hi Carol πŸ™‚ Isn’t it incredible how perspective changes things? Thank you so much for taking the time to share! πŸ™‚ So wonderful! πŸ™‚

  • Loula

    I love the counting crows!

    • Robin Lee

      haha me too Loula πŸ™‚

  • Ruthie Ann Yielding

    So happy for this woman! You are very wise and patient and I’m sure that it gives you a great feeling love in your heart when you find out that your words and advice have helped another person. Brava, brava brava. I shared you blog on fb. Thanks again.

    • Robin Lee

      hi Ruthie Ann πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for sharing your blog on FB and for taking the time to share your love! It means the world! πŸ™‚ Happy Sunday πŸ™‚

  • Terri

    I am curious as to what supplements you are asking her to use. I could use some something to help also. No drugs hopefully, natural supplements I hope.