Sandy Hook – How You Can Help

I was sitting in the lobby of a doctor’s office when I heard the news.  A woman walked in visibly upset and began talking to the receptionist about the terrible tragedy.  I asked what happened and the woman began to tell me the details of what just happened at Sandy Hook. Immediately I felt profound sadness and unbearable compassion picturing the innocent souls who were taken so violently and imagining the pain their families are enduring. Like many of you, I felt helpless and powerless.  Yet I know that Love is powerful, so I continue to send my love and prayers to the community of Sandy Hook.

All of us will probably remember where we were when we heard the news of this tragedy just like we did on 9/11. During times like these it’s natural to reconnect to the people (not things) we love that are truly most important in our lives. So I hope we also remember our response to this tragedy and continue to focus on what really matters.

Yesterday was the first day I watched any kind of news coverage about the shooting, which ultimately inspired me to write about it. What struck me most was the anger and blame I saw in all the coverage. I understand this is a horrific tragedy and outrage is to be expected. I had to process my own anger about it as well.  I also understand that outrage often motivates people to make changes so that this type of tragedy can be prevented in the future.

But outrage without love doesn’t inspire healing.

In a tragedy like this, love is what is needed.  The families and communities that have been most intimately affected by this event need our love, not just our outrage.  They need our compassion, not our analysis of the events. Questions like, “How could this happen? Who would do such a thing? What was going on in the mind and life of the shooter?” are valid and natural questions, but what else can we do?

My invitation to you is to continue to send Love and Light to everyone affected for their Highest Good.  The consciousness that created this tragedy comes from very low levels of anger, blame, resentment, pain, and darkness. So if you want to make a difference, make it by elevating your level of consciousness.  Rather than talking about the shooter, engage in prayer. Rather than trying to make sense of what happened, visualize a column of Light descending over the community of Sandy Hook.

What I have been doing in my meditation practice is bringing my awareness into my heart and feeling into the infinite love, compassion and peace that are present there.  I have been visualizing sending this energy (I see it in the form of a pinkish light) to the families and community of Newton.  I encourage you to try this or find your own way to move out of feeling outraged and helpless and into feelings of love and compassion.  Events like this are a call not just to change policies and laws, but also to change the level of our consciousness.

I’ve posted below the names and ages of the precious children and adults who were lost in this tragedy.  I invite you to read each name one-by-one, taking each into your heart, and sending Light to their soul and their families and loved ones for the Highest Good of All Concerned.

Charlotte Bacon, 6

Daniel Barden, 7

Olivia Engel, 6

Josephine Gay, 7

Ana M. Marquez-Greene, 6

Dylan Hockley, 6

Madeleine F. Hsu, 6

Catherine V. Hubbard, 6

Chase Kowalski, 7

Jesse Lewis, 6

James Mattioli, 6

Grace McDonnell, 7

Emilie Parker, 6

Jack Pinto, 6

Noah Pozner, 6

Caroline Previdi, 6

Jessica Rekos, 6

Avielle Richman, 6

Benjamin Wheeler, 6

Allison N. Wyatt, 6

Mary Sherlach, 56

Victoria Soto, 27

Anne Marie Murphy, 52

Lauren Rousseau, 30

Dawn Hochsprung, 47

Rachel Davino, 29

There is nothing I or really anyone else could say to make this “better.” My prayers continue to be with us all during a time when our nation is being called together in the name of peace, safety, change, healing and love.

With love,



Christine Hassler is an author, speaker, life coach and spiritual counselor dedicated to helping people answer the questions who am I, what do I want and how do I get it?  You can check out her website here:


  • Dawn <3

    Thank you for this post, Mastin…and Christine, this is exactly what my soul was yearning for. Thank you for writing this article. I am not one who watches the news or gets caught up in the sad events and tragic happenings of the world. I like to keep focused on the here and now, thinking positive thoughts and spreading inspirational messages. This is how I keep smiling and maintain my happy spirit that everyone loves. But every now and then, I hear something horrific like what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary and the sadness seeps in, my thoughts take a detour and I don’t feel so happy. My smile is even falling short. I want to give something to those who lost their lives. I want to give something to the community who was deeply affected. I even want to give something to the shooter. I feel compassion for all but how can I express it amongst all of the angry voices I hear out there and without falling captive to everyone’s fears. I want to release and move on. I want to get back to smiling and being happy. Your article is exactly what I need. I am going to sit with my two children, read it to them, have a brief discussion, say a prayer and then we are going to go and have a fun day in the city and see the Rockefeller Christmas Tree. I am smiling already. With gratitude and love….xoxo, Dawn 🙂

    •  Thank you Dawn for having such a compassionate heart. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

      • Dawn <3

        Thank you, Christine! Merry Christmas to you and yours, as well. 🙂

  • Viet Phan

    Dear Christine
    I am very grateful for your post. My heart was very heavy for few days since that happened….Your compassion, your love, your light, your wisdom  show me the way out of this darkness . NOW ,I can cry for peace  & love in my heart.
    Merry Christmas Christine
    love you very much

  • Safena

    Thank you for your message.  Its amazing that the main feeling that is arising out of this trajedy is Love.  The blessing is that the majority of people that are generally silent are speaking out.  We all get to witness that there is more Love in this world than hate.  It is very powerful when the masses come together like this.  It sends a message that will transform our world and how we see it.  Each beautiful soul that passed was nothing but Love and Light and Peace.  That is the message and the only way to honour their lives is to live that out fully in everything that we do.  If I have a big or small decision to make I will say “what would Love do here”.  

    Thank you for speaking their names.  I sent each soul my love and gratitude.

  • Thank you for sharing this. I agree with you that we need to pray for the families involved and for the Nation as a whole. We need to stop pointing fingers and come together and uplift others. 

  •  Thank you for sharing this. I agree with you that we need to pray for
    the families involved and for the Nation as a whole. We need to stop
    pointing fingers and come together and uplift others.

  • Meg

    Thank you for this. I haven’t been able to watch the news coverage, and your blog is the first place I’ve been able make myself read the names. You’re right. I’ve felt the anger and sadness, but these families need our love and compassion. I’m in.

  • Gina

    This was what I needed to read tonite.  Is there really more love than hate in the world?  I don’t know, but if we are not on the side of love, where are we after all?   The dark clouds may look as though that’s all there is, but we have to remember that beyond them, the sun shines as brightly as ever.  The light of God surrounds, the love of God enfolds, the power of God protects, the presence of God watches over…even in the darkest of days.

  • Lucy Houston

    This is sweet and I pray in my meditation every day for light and love. But that is no longer enough.Light and love can also take the form of action. “Events like this are a call not just to change policies and laws, but also to change the level of our consciousness. ”  Yes, hopefully, some day. But in the meantime, I think there is meaningful action that can help to reduce the violence that comes from that low level of consciousness. We take our meditation to enter into our hearts to find some truth. And then we take that out into the world. I am tired of grieving. It is time, with love in our hearts, to move.