A couple weeks ago, we talked about manifesting. A word often overused; a concept often misunderstood; and a whole lot of people confused about how to do it.
The power of conjuring the feelings of having what you seek while visualizing is remarkable and an important part of the manifesting process. The language you use, or what you affirm, mindfully or habitually is another.
The topic of using affirmations to manifest a particular outcome is covered extensively in the self-help world, and, yet, I get emails weekly asking me to explain how to effectively write and use affirmations.
So let’s break down the why and “how to” of affirmations so they can become useful tools.
An affirmation is a personal statement that can be used to boost self-esteem, reduce stress, and manifest the life of your dreams by retraining your subconscious mind. Affirmations can also be the habitual negative stories or statements you have about yourself that get in the way of your dreams coming to fruition. By mindfully using positive affirmations and eliminating negative affirmations, you can raise the vibration of the energy you send into The Uni-verse, which positively impacts the experiences you draw to you. This is not magical thinking. Instead, it is using the mind-blowing power of your intention expressed verbally to create what you want in your life rather than using language to express your fears.
Whatever we put our attention on grows.
Saying affirmations focuses our attention on the positive experiences we are creating and speaking them into existence.
One of the most common ways clients sabotage with language is the tendency to use absolutes, negatives, and harsh words to describe their potential. “I’ve always been fat.” “I’ve always been bad with money.” “I’m doomed by my genetics.”
Start by developing a few positive statements, or mantras, to repeat about yourself, your life, or the world on a regular basis. Be mindful of the fact that Words Have Wings and the power to create. Speak about yourself, your life, and your potential the way you want them to be. Period.
So how do you know if your language is affirming what you want or not?
Let’s go through the affirmation process, starting with a few sentences you can create for yourself.
1. Creating a Well-Formed Belief Statement:
- Write in the first person (use “I”).
- Use present tense.
- Use only positive statements (express what will be true, not what won’t).
e.g. Instead of saying “I am no longer exhausted daily” which affirms the negative, turn it around and say, “I am full of energy!”
- Keep it short.
- Make it emotionally meaningful to you. It should “feel” right.
I am pain free.
I attract the man (or woman) of my dreams.
I am comfortable with a set schedule and a consistent income.
I am thrilled to be making over $____k a year.
I am happy to be fit and healthy.
It is easy to be calm and relaxed.
The weight just melts off my body.
I have the right and perfect job for me.
I also encourage clients to use more generalized affirmation statements in their everyday lives.
Everything flows with ease and grace.
I always have more than enough time.
Only good lies before me.
I am divinely protected and guided.
I am abundant.
All my needs are met with ease.
I am loved.
I am worthy.
I am grateful for all of my blessings.
I am a money magnet. (My personal fave!)
2. How To Use your New Affirmation Statement:
- Repeat the phrases throughout the day.
- Make it a habit and try to say them at the same time every day (e.g. while you are showering, on your commute, while meditating, while working out, while lying in bed). Write it down on paper, the bathroom mirror, across your hand. Type it out. Make it your desktop, phone, or tablet background. Whatever works for you to see it and repeat it often!
- Feel the feelings of these affirmations being factual. Feel what the new, improved you looks and feels like.
- Smile when you say them! Know the positive self-talk brings positive results.
3. When the Old Habits Come Creeping Back:
- When you start to feel yourself thinking negative thoughts during the day, counteract them by repeating your positive affirmation.
- Be mindful of what language you use throughout your day. Saying and feeling the positive affirmations is the first step, but using this positive language in the rest of your life is the next step. Making this change in language will naturally draw the experience you seek into your life.
Share your creative affirmations here. If you’ve been using affirmations and mindful speak, tell us what in your life changed when your language, thoughts, and feelings changed.
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Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.