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Saying No

This past week has thrown me into a sleep-deprived whirlwind. I haven’t made it to the gym in 4 (going on 5) days – and anyone who knows me, knows this is a clear barometer of my stress level. My carbohydrate, sugar and caffeine intakes are each creeping up daily. I am overtired, over committed and overwhelmed. And as much as I would like to think that I can do it all, I am not superwoman (much to my dismay).

Rather than continuing to run myself ragged (as per my type-A instincts) and likely ending up sick (it’s amazing how your body forces you to slow down if you don’t listen to the signs it’s sending you well ahead of time), I remembered my New Year’s resolution this year: to put myself back on my own to-do list. Instead of sticking with my “defeat is not an option” motto (Charlie Sheen-style) and, assuming I would work through it and think about my own wellness after every other item on my to- do list was tackled, I stepped back and re-evaluated. And, with that, I reconfigured my schedule to include more sleep time, more down time, more “me time.”

I emailed a few people to reschedule meetings and politely called to change my RSVPs for a few events. But rather than sending vague emails about something having come up or whatever other excuse we often rely on when canceling plans, I was extremely open and honest. To each of the people I spoke with, I told them that I was overcommitted, not superwoman (again, regrettably so) and needed some “me time.” The response was overwhelmingly supportive and positive. It seems like everyone needs some more “me time.”

So, do it!

By taking the night to stay in and (I’m embarrassed to admit) catching up on Keeping Up With The Kardashians on my DVR, I not only relaxed and regrouped but also it made me exponentially more productive and positive when tackling the rest of my to-do list.

When we put ourselves back on our own to-do lists (and I’m not talking about way at the bottom of this to-do list so that we only get to it when already run ragged), we are healthier, happier and more productive when handling all of our other obligations. We are better workers, friends, lovers and more.

So, stop feeling guilty about putting yourself first sometimes. It’s really the only way you’ll be able to put others first, too!

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Alexis Wolfer is a real beauty ambassador and the founder of The Beauty Bean, an online magazine that promotes self-confidence through beauty, fashion, fitness, nutrition and more. She is also the creator of the international and viral Makeup Free Mondays movement and can be found tweeting about all things real and realistic beauty at@AlexisWolfer.