In this holiday season, with the Spirit of gratitude and generosity, I want to offer a unique and heartfelt way to gift someone you love. A present that keeps on giving…not only to them but also to yourself…
People grow so much more from praise, appreciation and gratitude. If you see the best in them and share it, it inspires them to continue living their best.
How many times have you pointed out negative patterns and nagged your partner to do something and nothing changed? What we focus on grows, so as you highlight things you appreciate in them, you nurture a more heartfelt relationship and connection with them and with yourself.
I call this, The Appreciation Box.
This is how it works:
Write down things you appreciate about this person (your partner, mom, best friend, etc.) each on a separate piece of paper.
You can make a habit of writing one thing every night in a journal, something you love about them, admire in them or some way you feel grateful for them and why. You can also share with them how they have touched you and your life. It’s powerful to give specific examples.
It can be as simple as:
- I love the way you hold me when we sleep
- I love how thoughtful you are by getting me my favorite candy when you go to the store
- I admire what a supportive person you are, like how you truly listen to people without an agenda
Soon enough you’ll have a box full of these.
Now it’s time to get creative. You’ll need to pick out a box big enough to fit the papers inside; you can use a treasure chest, a tissue box, something you painted or whatever you want.
The pieces of paper can be on simple small white strips, decorative paper or you can put personalized kisses from you as the background; have fun with it!
You can choose to make a ritual of reading one love note every morning or night and savor the sweetness of this gift.
Celebrating your relationships cultivates a consciousness of appreciation and, in the process, expands fun and deepens your love.
In JOY and Happy Holidays!
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Alyssa Nobriga is a renowned relationship coach who works with people through a mind-body-soul approach. She leads Wellness Retreats around the world, supporting people in living more open, authentic, loving, and fulfilling lives. To watch Alyssa working with clients check out her website or see her YouTube Channel.