The other day, I got a Facebook message from a teenage girl who asked me how she can quickly lose weight since prom wasn’t too far away. She believed that she needed to lose 15 pounds so she had recently started to exercise and eat more consciously. She said that she weighs herself every single day and was frustrated because the number was barely budging.
When I get messages like this, I typically invite them to be coached by me professionally, but my heart sang to me and I got the memo to be candid with her. I asked her if she would find gratitude in watching paint dry, a plant grow, or a pot boil.
Her: LOL! No. Am I totally doing that????
Me: Basically. You’re with yourself every single second of every single day so of course it’ll feel like the longest road trip of your life. How long have you been on this mission to take control of your health?
Her: 2 weeks or so
Me: Awesome! A few things that you MUST know in this moment:
a) give yourself a break and allow your body to shift into this new lifestyle. It’ll take some time for your brain to notice a difference. You’re so used to seeing your body being a certain way that it’s now a habit.
b) STEP AWAY FROM THE SCALE! I actually call it a guilt box, because that number doesn’t matter! Your weight will fluctuate everyday, as long as you live, and you will never know what the silly number on the scale actually means, unless you get dunked in some water and test your body fat. If you’re exercising efficiently, you’re burning fat and building muscle (which weighs more than fat). So it may seem like the scale isn’t budging – but there is magic happening within you!
c) the safest and healthiest way to lose weight is at a steady rate. I do not believe in rapid weight loss, so don’t you dare try to do what is keeping the diet industry a multi-billion dollar money-making machine. Diets. do. not. work. That’s why most humans are always on the search for the next one. The most important step of losing weight is often over-looked. That step is SELF LOVE. Most of us think we will love ourselves once we lose the inches, enhance this, or sculpt that. When we truly LOVE ourselves, we do things to support that love in a good-feeling way, and our journey is actually fun! And then, all of a sudden, we realize that our clothes are a bit looser and our bodies can move a little more freely. I honestly don’t remember the last time I weighed myself. I•▲M free from the guilt box and I don’t miss it one bit!
Her: OMG. Reallyyyyy? I can’t imagine going a day without weighing myself…
Me: You have nothing to lose except anxiety over a number that means NOTHING. Remember: a watched pot never boils. Do your Self and your body a favor and focus your energy on LOVING your Self NOW. (Tweet-worthy!) If you wait for it to happen, it’ll never happen. Instead of weighing your body in the morning, tell your Self in the mirror: “I love you and you are BEAUTIFUL!”
Her: Wow. I will feel sooooo weird doing that at first but I think it’ll be helpful!
Me: Make it your new habit: loving your Self!
Her: Ok! I’ll start today!
Me: Great! Let me know how it goes. xo
Ladies and gents: the number on the scale does NOT matter. If your clothes are a little tight, do something about it, and have your clothes be your scale. Put one foot in front of the other and keep moving towards the OUTSIDE of your comfort zone. That’s where the changes will occur. Not on the scale.
How are you gonna show your Self some EXTRA love today? I love hearing from my readers!
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and visit I’m On A Mission and be inspired.