When we are experiencing an uncomfortable emotion, we usually want out of it…and we’ll try a variety of methods to do so. We repress it, judge it, ignore it, numb it, and avoid it. Strategies like over-eating, drinking, spending, and over-analyzing are attempts to get out of feeling bad. But they don’t work. In fact, they can make us feel even worse.
So what do we do with emotions?
First, understand that your emotions are incredibly valuable. They deserve your compassion, your attention and your patience. Your emotions are an incredible guidance system.
Second, there are two ways to shift emotion: EXPRESS THEM and RESPOND!!!
By expression I do not mean talking and talking and talking about your emotions. I’m sure you have analyzed yourself so much by now you could write an autobiographical self-help book! Stop thinking and start feeling. It feels safer to TALK about our emotions like why we are angry, who we are angry at, why we have a right to be angry, etc. But it is more HEALING to just allow your emotions to be expressed.
E-MOTION is energy in motion. It needs to move, to be expressed. You don’t have to analyze and understand it. Sometimes you just need to scream, hit a pillow, or sob with NO judgment or analysis. Give yourself permission to have an adult temper tantrum. Move your body by exercising or dancing (my favorite!). Or take that emotional energy and channel it into something creative like painting, cooking or writing. Whatever the expression is, just get it OUT. Let it MOVE.
Emotions are one of the biggest ways our Higher Self speaks to us. When we experience feelings like fear, sadness, anger, anxiety and so on, it’s a signal to pay attention! Either something outside is off or we are off inside. That’s why it is so valuable to acknowledge our feelings, express them and then respond.
I have so many people who come to work with me who are so anxious and tortured in their relationships or jobs. And my response to them is, “If you are feeling so miserable, why are you still in it??” Your emotions are your feedback system. Practice receiving the information and then responding to it! Otherwise you’ll end up just looping in the same emotion over and over and over and over. Feelings shift when we make the internal and external shifts that honor them. Speak your truth, make a choice, take dominion over your life, and change your behavior.
Anytime you have emotion, move away from the typical approach of analyzing it to death. Simplify! Honor your emotions instead of repressing and judging them.
Trust your feelings, they have amazing insight for you.(Click to tweet) Work with them rather than against them. Express and respond! Allow your emotions to put you in motion!!!
Christine Hassler is an author, speaker, life coach and spiritual counselor dedicated to helping people answer the questions who am I, what do I want and how do I get it? You can check out her website here.
p.s. Ladies, if you ever feel irritable, depressed or unmotivated it is most likely because you are emotionally constipated! I LOVE teaching women how to release emotion because underneath it is your PASSION and JOY. My most transformational retreat where you will experience a HUGE clearing is coming in August. Details here. Come and get clear so you can make the impact you are here to make!