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Find The Love Of Your Life!

If you are looking for your soul mate, then this tip is for you! When working with clients who are frustrated with their lack of success in the love department, there are four common reoccurring themes.

Whether you find yourself falling prey to one or all four, let’s break each one down and discuss how to counter them.

1. Sexual Energy

If you are looking for the right one, stop having sex with anyone you have already concluded is the wrong one. No more hooking up with an ex or “friends with benefits.” People are attracted to like energy. A sense of readiness and excited motivation shines like a bright light to attract a partner with similar desires. Sex with an ex dims that light and sends an ambivalent vibe to potential mates.

2. Feng Shui

Look around your house and bedroom. Is it welcoming and open? Or is it cluttered and chaotic? By creating a nurturing and inviting living space, especially in your bedroom, you are consciously making room for a relationship. Get rid of the clutter, make some space in your closet, and clear out a drawer. Making physical space in your home for your right and perfect partner is the first step to creating space in your mind and your heart for your desire to become your reality.

Another tip to attracting your soul mate, according to the principles of feng shui, is to have pairs in your bedroom. It can be a pair of statues, two nightstands, a set of lamps, etc.

3. Gratitude

Mentally revisit all of your past relationships, even the bad ones, and figure out what YOU learned. Then give thanks for the lesson. Even if you only learned that you never want to do that again, it is still a lesson and deserves recognition and appreciation. Growth is good.

4. Downloaded Blueprints

Unpack your downloaded blueprints about relationships—negative stories about ”the way it is.” What did your family teach you about relationships? That men cannot be trusted? That women only want you for your money? Whatever those beliefs are, unpack them, look at them, and decide what you think. Change the limiting beliefs and feelings into possibility and promise.

Share your successes and struggles. If you are blissfully partnered, how did you get there and how do you two keep the flame burning? If you’re looking for love, what hinders you? What next right action can you take to bring you one step closer to creating the love you seek?

I hope you have an amazing week, filled with love, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love


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Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Recently, Terri released her first CD Meditation Transformation. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.

  • Yosci

    Thank you Terri! This was eye-opening and I didn’t even realize how these things have been blocking me… I’m also discovering how my attraction towards unavailable men signifies how I’m unavailable but how can I change this so that I can be available and ready to have true love in my life.

    • Sarah

      I totally relate to your posting above.  I have been blocked to finding love for a lonnnng time and all these things that I have against me are on this list.  I’m always attracting the unavailable, uncommitting types of men who like to play the field.  But i believe now that it’s the vibrations I am sending out that is attracting these types of guys to me, since I’m acting like a mirror.  I can change my thoughts and form new habits to change my outcomes in relationships.  Hooray!  Thanks for your share!

  • Fancy Soberano

    I love this topic. I’ve been a very loving and joyous relationship for over 2 1/2 years now and I must say that I predetermined the outcome. As it progresses it gets better with time. It was not until I became the love that the love found me. At a time when I didn’t even want a relationship. I focused on myself after my previous relationship and for 2 years I spent time working on myself and making myself better than I was. Doing things that mattered to me and really took care of myself. The most important relationship we will ever have is the one that we have with ourselves. There is nothing more attractive than a person who loves themselves and is living their life on purpose.  A more improved loving version of who I used to be. Although at the time I did not want a relationship I always knew what I wanted and what I deserved. I was very clear about this in my mind and in my actions. I know that by becoming the person I wanted I found someone that reflected all that I was. Clearing out all the junk from my past and letting go and forgiving was a huge step in going in the right direction. Realizing that we are not meant for everyone. I give my past thanks for all that I have learned and wish them all the best. I feel like when we go out searching for something we feel like we can never find it. So, let go of the attachment to “finding it” and be it. Someone will see that love and confidence in you and bam when you least expect it…it’s there! Lots of love and blessings to all those who are seeking out the loves of their lives. Best advice, be the love! Thank you Terri, I always love reading your post. Such an inspiration! xoxo, fancy

    • Chai

      Very Powerfull. Thanks !!

  • someone

    Wow this is very powerful.  Very good advice.  I’ve been very curious about this for a long time but I’ve always been too embarrassed to ask anyone but could masturbation be something that ‘Dims the light and sends an ambivalent vibe to potential mates?’

    • Karen

       Loving yourself emotionally, spiritually AND physically is a good thing – what Terri is referring to is linking your energy to someone who is not a potential partner.  It keeps you from attracting the person who could be the one for you by sending out a vibe that you are not available. 

  • Karen

    The great thing I discovered in my journey to find my life partner was trust.
    When single, I was confused as to whether I should ‘let go’ or keep holding on to my dream of true love.  So many people would say that as soon as they ‘stopped looking’, the guy showed up.  I couldn’t figure how to just not care anymore and stop looking.  I did care and I did want to meet my guy and every romantic movie I watched just made me want it even more!!  Then one day the light bulb went off.
    I continued to trust that the Universe would bring the man who was perfect for me into my life and I never stopped wanting that with all my heart – I just didn’t let it stop me from loving my life in the moment I was in.  I wasn’t waiting to be happy – I already was.  And when we finally met, that is what he was drawn to and still is.
    That made all the difference  for me.