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Tech Unplug: Are You Too Connected To The Virutal World?

The irony is that if you’re reading this, you’re online. But, let’s talk about the dangers of being too connected to our technology and virtual world.

Are you addicted to technology? How many hours a day do you spend on your computer, phone, tablet? Or is it easier for me to ask you how many minutes a day you do NOT spend on your computer, phone, or tablet?

Let’s look at some of the problems with being digitally over-connected.

Great Reasons to Unplug

According to Alice G. Walton on Forbes.com, below are the top six reasons to mindfully use technology while unplugging on purpose, at times, for maximum quality of life.

It Might Just Save Your Job (and your marriage)

In today’s competitive workplace, you might feel that being available any ol’ time of day gives you an advantage. Not so. When you are constantly replying to emails from bosses and co-workers after hours, you are not being present to your spouse, children, friends, and YOU. If you are not properly resting and recharging your batteries, you are more likely to burn out and be less productive, which makes you LESS competitive in the workplace.

It Will Improve Your Concentration and Present Moment Awareness

If you pride yourself on being a multitasker, chances are you’re actually doing less than those who focus on one thing at a time, and you also tend to be more impulsive (e.g. online shopping followed by buyers remorse when the package arrives in the mail). Again, how this behavior impacts your personal relationships is a key question. How present can you be in a conversation with your children if you are simultaneously listening to stories about their day and putting the final touches on the your quarterly sales wrap up?

There Are Better Ways to Feel Good

The internet seems to be the new substance to abuse. Many people feel they MUST check their phone every time an alert sounds informing them they have been “liked” on Facebook or mentioned on Twitter. We’ve pretty much become like Pavlov’s dogs. An interesting study published in theweek.com shows that “intermittent reinforcement” (anticipation of a reward that comes with just enough frequency)—in the form of texts, tweets, and various other social media—releases dopamine, a neurotransmitter in the brain responsible for pleasure. But like any hit of addictive substance, the pleasure is short lived and leaves you craving more.

Your Facebook Friends and Twitter Followers Do Not Replace the Real Deal

Social media does not make us more social. In fact, too much living on social media can create the reverse effect. Your behavior online is not always in line with how you would respond or react to other humans in a face-to-face situation. The anonymity of social media can lead to increased development of the false self or worst self. A wonderful spoken word poet and pal, Marshall ‘Souful’ Jones, has a three-minute performance piece from TEDx Montreal that eloquently speaks to this exact phenomenon called Touch Screen.

Your Bed Will Thank You

I’m a big believer in getting quantity AND quality sleep, and one of the biggest culprits I found in taking longer to fall asleep is not only the stimulation from channel surfing on tv and catching up on emails, but also the light emitted from electronic devices. Try this: One hour before you go to sleep, stop sitting in front of the computer and TV and switch off all electronic devices. Look around your bedroom: the alarm clock that glows in bright red, the charging indicator on your cell phone, the monitor on your computer, the DVD clock and timer. Each of these takes a small toll on your sleep as each little bit of light can keep you from reaching deep restorative sleep. Cover or move the electronics. Light can disrupt your circadian rhythm and your pineal gland’s production of melatonin and serotonin.

You’ll Be A More Considerate Person

Are you THAT person in the movie theater who actually answers your phone? Do you meet up with pals you haven’t seen in ages, only to stare at your phone the entire dinner? You would not whip out a crossword puzzle to do at a dinner out with friends, even if you are a little bored, because that would be considered incredibly rude. Please place texting in the middle of a meal in the same category. It may be increasingly acceptable behavior, but it comes at a cost and does not improve the quality of anything, in my opinion.

The bottom line is technology is convenient and necessary and is definitely our new normal, but, too often, we are so distracted by our computers, phones, and tablets that we become disconnected from our own lives. It’s so easy to miss out on really special moments right in front of us because we are mentally somewhere else.

Putting limits on your tech habits and giving your full attention to the present moment can help you fully “experience” your own life.

I want to challenge you to get honest about how much time you spend plugged in. Does it make you sweat for me to even suggest you be less tech addicted?

Try to create a sacred space for yourself every day that is free from technology and allows you to reconnect with your own life. For example, I do my very best to make Sunday a tech-free day and turn it all off while eating dinner with my husband and before bed and don’t turn it on until I’ve been awake for two hours.

I’m interested in your thoughts. I think this is a very common issue, and would love to hear your challenges and solutions.

I hope you have an amazing week, plugged into REAL life, and, as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love

Terri

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Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Follow Terri on Twitter @terri_cole.

  • http://twitter.com/toddlohenry Todd Lohenry

    If I didn’t use technology in the first two hours of the day, I would have missed this video. Still, you make some good points. I included your video in this synthesis; http://toddlohenry.com/2013/02/28/technology-and-mindfulness/

    • http://twitter.com/terri_cole terri cole

       Oh, Todd! Well, you make a good point. Selfishly I’m glad you don’t have my “rule” so you were able to read what I wrote. LOL!!! Thank you for your humor and for sharing my video :-)

  • Alexandra Telluselle

    I think all people long to feel more connected. And sadly because of our busy agendas, or other busy agendas, culture and environment, we turn to online activities just like we did to TV, in order to read, watch or listen to something that moves us. When we feel moved, we feel more alive and it is very unfortunate that most culture despise emotional expressions. Two girls talking on the subway and one starts laughing loudly, becomes hushed by other passangers who don’t want to become distracted from their iphone/ipad/android online life. I therefor never bring my ipad with me unless for a specific meeting or camera use. And I never go online on my phone while out of home unless for directions, phone number etc specifically needed for situation. I think that is a healthy boundary and keeps me better present,
    /Alexandra

    • http://twitter.com/terri_cole terri cole

      I like your ideas, Alexandra. And it’s true, unfortunately, that we get so wrapped up in our online world that we get annoyed by humans interacting, which is what we need and truly long for. Striking the balance, like you are, in so important! Thank you for your thoughts – enjoyed reading them! xo.

  • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

    I agree that most people are too into their technology.  It irritates me when I’m spending time with a friend and she checks her text messages, or sends texts, instead of focusing on our time together.  That’s why I make a point to not do that.  “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” right? 

    Being in the business I’m in though (a writer and blogger), I do need my computer and to be online frequently.  It’s these very posts on TDL that have helped spur my own blog growth.  I actually get up and write my blog FIRST thing (well, after drinking my glass of water and feeding my animals).  It helps me feel productive from the start.  Otherwise I tend to go downhill and not do ANYthing.  I also tend to check emails and other blog posts (like this one) in the morning.  I’m a morning person.  It’s what I like to do to get going.  As the day wears on though, that’s when I unplug.  But sometimes I still have to remind myself to turn OFF the computer come evening and enjoy some computer-free time before bed. 

    I am thinking about the vices vs. virtues of texting, as I type this.  I love texting.  But why do I love it?  B/c it takes less time, I can respond to people when I want, I can tell someone something when I need to (before I forget), and I don’t have to actually TALK to them.   Anymore I don’t like talking on the phone.  It feels like a waste of time.  Yet, before cell phones, I talked on the phone quite a bit.  It was how I stayed connected to my friends.  Now it’s texting, and arranging to get together in person. 
    I’m still not sure how I feel about this….

    Sarah
    http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/02/are-there-limits-to-giving.html

    • http://twitter.com/terri_cole terri cole

      You bring up good poinst, Sarah. I feel the same way about the talk vs text. But then sometimes I need that connection that a text message can’t supply. And as for work, so many of us earn our living being online, but like you said, it’s taking time off, making it a point to step away from the computer, just like if you had any other job, you would leave, so you can keep balance in your life. Thank you for sharing. All great things to think about! xo.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=81501455 Jasmine Hall

    Thank you Terri – this is huge for me!

    • http://twitter.com/terri_cole terri cole

       So glad you found it helpful, Jasmine! xo.

  • Kellylynnharding

    My challenge is that I’m a student and my program requires lots of paper writing. I spends entire work days on a computer and, whenever I reach a ‘stuck’ point in writing or research I websurf. I find that it wastes a lot of time, but it’s a habit I switch to without even thinking about it. Anyone have thoughts on moving past this?

    • http://twitter.com/terri_cole terri cole

       The good thing is you are aware of your tendency – that’s the first step to changing it. It helps me to set an alarm for every two to three hours to make sure I get up and move around. I’ll get a drink of water, go to the bathroom, do a few stretches, but I make myself get up out of my chair. And I feel actually MORE productive by taking the breaks rather than getting myself overly tired. Try this and circle back…let me know how it goes. xoxo..

      • Jomain McKenzie

        Kellylynnharding, I could relate to this and found Terri’s response most helpful. Thank you.