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The Best Friend You Could Ever Have Is You!

Ryf-Van-Rij-199x300The time to make friends is before we need them.

The best friend we could ever have is ourselves. (Tweet-worthy!) The guy or the girl that stares back at us from the glass is our best friend. When we carry out the promises we make to ourselves each day it’s far easier to look at that person in the mirror at the end of the day and say, “Thank you for another great day, I love you.”

The person we let down the most when we don’t keep our promises is ourselves. Generally it starts with the slow leak of our commitments to ourselves and others, which then becomes a gaping hole in the vessel of our dreams.

It becomes a lose-lose situation because if we don’t trust and believe in our own dreams then those we are trying to influence in business or relationships will lose their trust in us as well.

There is a truth that when discovered will set us up for sustainable success.

The truth is that knowledge does not apply itself!

No amount of repeating affirmations and staring endlessly at a vision boards will advance us toward our goals and inspire us to keep our commitments and promises if we don’t apply knowledge. The bridge that takes ideas to manifestation is applying knowledge into action.

In all of recorded literature since Greek times and beyond, there have been two basic feelings described that rule everyone’s lives. These feelings are pain and pleasure. Pleasure feels good, pain feels bad. Creatures in the animal kingdom don’t have the choice as to what they associate pain or pleasure with. As human beings we have the free will and the choice to determine what is painful and what is pleasurable.

Neurological Associative Reactive Conditioning (NARC) is a technique that enables us to leverage our subconscious minds by making choices about what we associate pain and pleasure with.

Humans are not designed very well to tolerate pain and we prefer to repeat things that are pleasurable. We often avoid the “traction point” or “main thing” that would drive our lives, relationships or businesses forward because we associate pain with them. We may avoid things such as making calls or reaching out to others to share our opportunity or business ideas. We may feel fearful, nervous or even sad or angry. The unfortunate thing is that the people we’re speaking to or attempting to contact will pick up the vibes of our fear, nerves or anger and will reject what it is we want to share. A rising tide raises all ships. Unfortunately a sinking tide will do the reverse.

This is where we can use NARC to turn things around.

Whatever our particular “traction point” may be that we are associating pain with, what we now must do is associate pleasure with that activity.

If we have a fear of picking up the phone to speak with new customers for our business, then we need to think of that telephone as an ATM machine that will give us the means to realize our dreams and goals. Not picking up that phone will keep us living a life of quiet desperation where we live according to the clock and at the mercy of other people’s demands instead of living by the compass and directing our own lives. We will be letting our loved ones and families down if we don’t make those calls.

If we have an aversion to getting out of the door to head to gym so that we can exercise our bodies to lose the weight we’ve been carrying around for years, then we need to associate going to gym with the most exciting activity we’ve ever done which will give us energy, vitality, charisma and boundless joy. We need to associate not going to gym with a steady deterioration into sickness, lack of mobility, constant visits to doctors and hospitals and a daily mountain of prescribed drugs which will lead us to an early demise all of which will put huge pressure on our family and friends.

Temptation’s job is to get us off the path. We end up scratching our heads wondering why it is we do the things we don’t want to do instead of doing the things we need to do.

The human mind, once stretched by a new idea, will never regain its former shape.

Use NARC to change what you associate pain and pleasure with and you have a tool to turn your roadblocks into super highways.

So would you be willing to attach pleasure to the things that create traction in the direction of your goals instead of pain?

Could you accept that your best friend is the guy or girl staring back at you in the mirror?

Are you ready to to move knowledge into action and become a master manifester?

Much Love and Welcome Home,



Ryf Van Rij is a coach and creator of The Daily Way Home. Connect with Ryf via Facebook and Twitter.