I recently took out my journal, closed my eyes, put my hands on my body — and began to ask for insight on the subject of slowing down.
What is slowing down?
Slowing down is being conscious and is necessary to assimilate the moments of our lives. Assimilation means the process of becoming a part of something. Whether it be assimilation of nutrients from food or qualities from moments of our lives — we must be conscious of slowing down so that we can integrate and truly experience our lives.
What keeps me from slowing down?
The first answer that comes up for me is that I am often afraid to relax and trust. I don’t know what is going to happen once I open my eyes in the morning. I often feel like my adrenaline is on high and I am in constant survival mode. Sometimes it even feels like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. I often feel like life is throwing constant boulders in my path — trying to get into my way. Quite the opposite of trust if you ask me. I hear a little giggle, which typically means my Heart is getting ready to share something profound.
“Is life throwing boulders in your way or is life simply supporting you to slow down, breathe, and make sure you are on the track of your Heart? Perhaps those boulders are a reminder to be conscious. Did you forget that every moment in your life supports your deepest desires? Perhaps you have forgotten what Life is really about.”
I often forget that life effortlessly takes care of me. I so often have an agenda, and when things don’t go according to the plan, I find myself feeling anxious and vulnerable. Before beginning anything I try to figure out steps 1 to 100 — instead of remembering that all I have to do is listen to my Heart — take step 1, and life will support me in the effort I have made. If I really want to slow down and trust, I must begin my day with intention. I must choose to remember to ask for support and guidance. I must remember to be silent and listen with an open mind for the answers. I forget to do this at times.
It’s so easy to pretend I am large and in charge and so hard sometimes to remember to seek guidance and insight. I can begin my day slowing down by creating intention. I can put the pause button on before I even get out of bed! What a wonderful habit to create. What will I focus on today giving to me? What will I choose to receive today? Intention focuses our mind to look for certain things.
If I am wanting to learn to slow down, I must begin the day intending to allow myself to feel supported by every moment and experience that my life is bringing to me. The line in the grocery store, the horrible traffic, the client who is running late, the problems my daughter has with her homework that interrupt a project – they are all an opportunity to learn to slow down. I must remember that slowing down gives me a chance to become more familiar with the feelings of trusting and relaxation. I am exactly where I need to be right now. Everything is as it is supposed to be right now. I have enough. I am enough. I choose to live a simple life so that my mind will be more calm and clear. To be able to hear my Heart, I must slow down. My heart has a stable beat while my mind races from subject to subject.
To slow down, I must choose to trust in life and listen to my Heart. I cannot listen to my Heart if I forget to connect to Her. To slow down, I must become in harmony with my Heartbeat. It is really quite simple. When I feel like I am racing and can’t slow down, I must ask myself what I am trying to control and choose instead to breathe, let go, and trust that things are unfolding perfectly. When I notice impatience and things not in sync with my agenda, I choose to take a deep breath and declare, “I allow myself to feel supported in the moment.” I then choose to seek a perspective that will allow me to feel supported by it. When things don’t go the way I think they should go, I breathe and remind myself there is something better in store. I seek to find the blessings.
As I slow down, I notice I feel vulnerable and raw. I notice my defenses fall down around me and a subtle feeling of fear come up that if I don’t keep pushing I will not survive or be successful. I am afraid I will be swallowed up by life itself if I don’t keep pushing.
I hear that giggle of my Heart again.
” When you slow down and let go of all of your defenses — this is when you will begin to truly live your life. There is a space in between each breath that magic can happen. You can hold your breath which speeds up your heart-rate (which connects you more to fear and your mind), or you can breathe and choose to be still in your Heart. When you notice you are anxious or stressed, take a breath. Slow down. Ask yourself, ‘How can I feel supported by life right now?’ Listen for your answers.”
On a very practical note, I made a list of things that I find relaxing and supportive. By doing things that support relaxation, your body will begin to feel safe and naturally be able to trust the process of life easier. If we want to feel supported by life, we must do things that are supportive for our bodies.
I began writing my list and here is what the first part looked like:
Things that support the feeling of relaxation
1. Conscious Breathing
2. Drinking warm liquids
3. Brushing my hair
4. Rubbing a pet
5. Sitting by the pond and watching the koi swim
6. Going for a walk in nature
7. Writing down the things that are on my mind
8. Slowing down to eat a meal
9. Having sex
13. Applying lavender oil on my temples
14. Taking a warm bath and listening to music I enjoy
15. Writing poetry
16. Getting a manicure
17. Skin brushing before a shower
18. Creating intention in the morning
19. Sit with my eyes closed feeling my heartbeat for a minute
20. Listening to the water fountain
When we prioritize taking time to do things that promote relaxation, slowing down becomes second nature. Please take the time to write a list of things that allow you to relax, and comment below. What are your top three or five things? Your ideas and experiences will inspire many others on their healing journey. Please take a moment to express yourself.
May we all declare together —
— As I allow myself to prioritize slowing down and doing things that allow relaxation, I am easily able to trust in the perfection of life.
From the profound giggles of my Heart to yours,
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