The BRIDGE between dreaming and living your dreams is…

For better or for worse, I have always been someone who takes action. I’ve made A LOT of mistakes, fallen on my face many times, and sometimes even made people angry. I’ve messed up, screwed up, looked bad, made enemies, broken hearts and disappointed people – never because I meant to, mostly because I didn’t understand the effect of my actions on other people.

There have also been MANY positives to taking action, namely that I am living INSIDE of my dream and I am also happy and fulfilled. I view ALL the mistakes I’ve made as lessons helping me hone my craft, become more empathetic and bringing me one step closer to actualizing my dreams.

The consistency my whole life is that I have always been a person of ACTION. My action hasn’t always been accurate, precise or correct. I’ve made a TON of mistakes. I’ve messed up.

But Joyce reminds us, “Mistakes are the portal to discovery.” I don’t know why I’ve always known this, but I’ve always had the belief that it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission. (this OBVIOUSLY doesn’t apply to illegal activities). But it DOES apply to the rest of life. Risk taking. Following my dreams. But not just thinking about it. DOING IT.

I ended up with egg on my face plenty. I even messed up so bad once that I couch surfed for almost two years to recover. That was a ballsy choice. But I really believe that those ballsy choices are the choices that The Uni-verse respects. And it is the ACTION that is the bridge between dreaming about something and actually LIVING our dreams.

And not perfect action – action with the understanding that it won’t be perfect. Sure, you will be judged and criticized by people – but most often people who are not taking action. It’s EASY to be a critic, very difficult to be a DOER. And you will hardly ever be criticized by those who are doing. They may compete with you, but that is the stuff that makes you better.

Taking action with the understanding that you are going to mess up… taking action with the knowledge that you aren’t going to get it right, taking action knowing that you MUST and course correct as you go – THAT is what dreams are made of.

Tony Robbins calls it MASSIVE ACTION. That is to say, DOING A LOT OF STUFF EVERY DAY FOR A LONG TIME IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR DREAMS. Not once, not twice, not a hundred times, but UNTIL it happens. Action IS the bridge between dreaming about it, and living it.

And don’t sweat the mistakes or the criticism, it will pass and what will change is you will get smarter, better and wiser every day. The critic never built anything that stood the test of time. Only those wise enough to appear the fool temporarily are the ones to eventually become the masters.

What mistakes can you let yourself make today? Leave a comment on the blog and let me know!

Love,

Mastin

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  • Alyssa

    Oh Mastin you are preaching to the choir!!  I’m all about action, which often leads to cleaning up my mistakes, learning lessons and endless criticism from family and friends.  Although I know it’s out of love they are expressing their criticisms, it’s often their delivery which is demanding and hurtful.  I just tell them it’s my life and I will do what I want  (maybe that’s because, as you say, I don’t understand the effect of my actions on other people?) and if it’s another mistake, that’s okay, life goes on and I’ll be fine.  They tell me I’m foolish, they say I’m wrong, they say I’m making the biggest mistake of my life and they try to tell me I’m not happy.

    I’ve been a spontaneous adventurer of life my whole existence, which has brought me many wonderful things.  I grew up in New Hampshire but packed up my car one day and dove west, which has led me to live in the beautiful sunny world of Southern California for 12 years.  I had a near death health experience at the age of 23, which lead me to suddenly change my career path and become the acupuncturist I am today.  But of course my spontaneity has also  brought me times I’ve had to admit I was wrong.  I once moved to Boulder, CO because I thought I missed the mountains and cold weather.  Boy was I wrong about that!  So I moved back and moved on.  I once went into business with an ex-boyfriend, because I thought you could be friends with your exes.  That was one hell of a lesson learned!!  And now, my most recent adventure, a man has asked me to marry him and move to Houston, Texas with him, his hometown.  Is our relationship perfect? No.  But does he have the best intentions in his heart, do I trust him completely and am I able to communicate with him as I have with no other partner before ever? Yes.  And that was enough for me to (spontanteously 🙂 ) say yes!  We’re moving in September.

    Since my most recent act of action, I’ve been met with many questions, frowns, doubts and judgments.  Sometimes it’s hard to not let this effect me, but I’m strong and I’m doing it.  Once again…this may be a mistake, and so be it if it is, or it may blossom into the most beautiful experience of my entire life…  without action one may never know.

  • Alyssa

    Oh Mastin you are preaching to the choir!!  I’m all about action, which often leads to cleaning up my mistakes, learning lessons and endless criticism from family and friends.  Although I know it’s out of love they are expressing their criticisms, it’s often their delivery which is demanding and hurtful.  I just tell them it’s my life and I will do what I want  (maybe that’s because, as you say, I don’t understand the effect of my actions on other people?) and if it’s another mistake, that’s okay, life goes on and I’ll be fine.  They tell me I’m foolish, they say I’m wrong, they say I’m making the biggest mistake of my life and they try to tell me I’m not happy.

    I’ve been a spontaneous adventurer of life my whole existence, which has brought me many wonderful things.  I grew up in New Hampshire but packed up my car one day and dove west, which has led me to live in the beautiful sunny world of Southern California for 12 years.  I had a near death health experience at the age of 23, which lead me to suddenly change my career path and become the acupuncturist I am today.  But of course my spontaneity has also  brought me times I’ve had to admit I was wrong.  I once moved to Boulder, CO because I thought I missed the mountains and cold weather.  Boy was I wrong about that!  So I moved back and moved on.  I once went into business with an ex-boyfriend, because I thought you could be friends with your exes.  That was one hell of a lesson learned!!  And now, my most recent adventure, a man has asked me to marry him and move to Houston, Texas with him, his hometown.  Is our relationship perfect? No.  But does he have the best intentions in his heart, do I trust him completely and am I able to communicate with him as I have with no other partner before ever? Yes.  And that was enough for me to (spontanteously 🙂 ) say yes!  We’re moving in September.

    Since my most recent act of action, I’ve been met with many questions, frowns, doubts and judgments.  Sometimes it’s hard to not let this effect me, but I’m strong and I’m doing it.  Once again…this may be a mistake, and so be it if it is, or it may blossom into the most beautiful experience of my entire life…  without action one may never know.

  • BrainCurves (Dr. Jen)

    Mastin, as per usual, you seem to read my mind. Lately I have been making more mistakes than ever. Yet, I realized that these mistakes have lead me to places I’ve NEVER been and only dreamed of being. I am a doer, like you. I can’t be anything else…believe me, I’ve tried…taking action just feels intrinsically natural. But taking more action leads to more flops. I know that “the only difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that succesful people fail more often.” It is hard to fall, but getting up is where grace resides.  I’ve been in really scary, dark places as well (thanks for being so real and raw about your couch surfing past), and this fulfilling of dreams thing is almost scarier but in the most blessed possible of ways!   

    • Trish

      Oh I love that….”It’s hard to fall, but getting up is where grace resides.” very cool x

  • BrainCurves (Dr. Jen)

    Mastin, as per usual, you seem to read my mind. Lately I have been making more mistakes than ever. Yet, I realized that these mistakes have lead me to places I’ve NEVER been and only dreamed of being. I am a doer, like you. I can’t be anything else…believe me, I’ve tried…taking action just feels intrinsically natural. But taking more action leads to more flops. I know that “the only difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that succesful people fail more often.” It is hard to fall, but getting up is where grace resides.  I’ve been in really scary, dark places as well (thanks for being so real and raw about your couch surfing past), and this fulfilling of dreams thing is almost scarier but in the most blessed possible of ways!   

    • Trish

      Oh I love that….”It’s hard to fall, but getting up is where grace resides.” very cool x

  • Best most beautiful post ever! So appropriate today more than any other day in life….thank you for your words of wisdom, inspiration, clarification and love!!!! It is so working!

  • Best most beautiful post ever! So appropriate today more than any other day in life….thank you for your words of wisdom, inspiration, clarification and love!!!! It is so working!

  • Annamaria Potamiti

    What an amazing post . Thank you Mastin.
    I used to see my life as a linear process. If it wasn’t that I would get so mad at myself. But I think now I get it. Now I know my life depends on a series of maneuvers around obstacles, setbacks and my inevitable mistakes . I have to be firm on my goals but flexible enough to
    bend around the right corner. My life is more like that game , where you are in a maize and you have to find your way to that dot on the other side. Walls, and dead ends, and wrong turns come with the package, there is nothing to get crazy angry with ourselves about , just picking ourselves up and seting off in a new direction.

  • Annamaria Potamiti

    What an amazing post . Thank you Mastin.
    I used to see my life as a linear process. If it wasn’t that I would get so mad at myself. But I think now I get it. Now I know my life depends on a series of maneuvers around obstacles, setbacks and my inevitable mistakes . I have to be firm on my goals but flexible enough to
    bend around the right corner. My life is more like that game , where you are in a maize and you have to find your way to that dot on the other side. Walls, and dead ends, and wrong turns come with the package, there is nothing to get crazy angry with ourselves about , just picking ourselves up and seting off in a new direction.

  • One of my most memorable days is the day someone said “that” to me: sometimes it is better to ask for fogiveness than for permission!  It took me a second to comprehend…  lol but gave a sense of freedom!  I decide? what a concept!

  • One of my most memorable days is the day someone said “that” to me: sometimes it is better to ask for fogiveness than for permission!  It took me a second to comprehend…  lol but gave a sense of freedom!  I decide? what a concept!

  • Jocularjakoby

    Beautiful Mastin! You’re best post yet 🙂

  • Jocularjakoby

    Beautiful Mastin! You’re best post yet 🙂

  • jaqs NZ

    Personally I think ‘action’ is overrated. I think Tom Cruise being the exemplary action man has come to the end of the road of romanticised heroic action.  As a Taoist I try and embrace the path of non-action. That doesn’t mean I’m a loafer. Quite the opposite. I’ve just finished a PhD. But I try to think of my aciton as being like paddling a canoe. Aware that there is a river in flow and that my own action needs to work with that flow. Negotiating it’s eddies and rapids etc. Not creating them. But not deluding myself that I am the sole creator of my destiny. That there is a divine unfolding and sometimes patience, stillness, contemplation, retrograde orbits, the contracting moments of the yin yang have a role to play, they refine our nature, hold us to task, curb avoidance and escapism, and hopefully when the time comes for moving forward our action has a greater savvy to it, a greater knowing.

  • jaqs NZ

    Personally I think ‘action’ is overrated. I think Tom Cruise being the exemplary action man has come to the end of the road of romanticised heroic action.  As a Taoist I try and embrace the path of non-action. That doesn’t mean I’m a loafer. Quite the opposite. I’ve just finished a PhD. But I try to think of my aciton as being like paddling a canoe. Aware that there is a river in flow and that my own action needs to work with that flow. Negotiating it’s eddies and rapids etc. Not creating them. But not deluding myself that I am the sole creator of my destiny. That there is a divine unfolding and sometimes patience, stillness, contemplation, retrograde orbits, the contracting moments of the yin yang have a role to play, they refine our nature, hold us to task, curb avoidance and escapism, and hopefully when the time comes for moving forward our action has a greater savvy to it, a greater knowing.

  • Jen

    Hi Mastin,

    This is my first post but I have been reading and recommending you to friends for a few months now.  I am also a big PAX devotee and LOVE that you are getting involved with Alison Armstrong – so very cool and powerful to have both of your energies working jointly. 🙂

    I am actually in the process of starting my own business and I am absolutely TERRIFIED.  I know that I am going to make mistakes and that it will be challenging but I keep moving forward through the fear anyway.  Today, I filed for my DBA and opened my official company bank account – it’s really happening.

    I just wanted to thank you for keeping me inspired even when I start questioning what I am doing here.  I love reading your daily newsletter and really take your words to heart.

    Keep ’em coming!!!
    Jen

  • Jen

    Hi Mastin,

    This is my first post but I have been reading and recommending you to friends for a few months now.  I am also a big PAX devotee and LOVE that you are getting involved with Alison Armstrong – so very cool and powerful to have both of your energies working jointly. 🙂

    I am actually in the process of starting my own business and I am absolutely TERRIFIED.  I know that I am going to make mistakes and that it will be challenging but I keep moving forward through the fear anyway.  Today, I filed for my DBA and opened my official company bank account – it’s really happening.

    I just wanted to thank you for keeping me inspired even when I start questioning what I am doing here.  I love reading your daily newsletter and really take your words to heart.

    Keep ’em coming!!!
    Jen

  • Michelle

    Great post Mastin!  We must be doers, take action, and move toward that which we are asking for.  However, we can also try too hard.  A great catch-term I learned among natural horsemanship circles is “Find the Allow”.  Don’t force it, don’t stress over it.  Set yourself up for success.  Set the stage, and then “allow”.  Allow it to flow to you, allow the rhythm and move with it.  Move with it like the tree moves with the winds of change, move as one with the horse, open up the space to allow what you want to flow to you, and then accept it with open arms!

  • Michelle

    Great post Mastin!  We must be doers, take action, and move toward that which we are asking for.  However, we can also try too hard.  A great catch-term I learned among natural horsemanship circles is “Find the Allow”.  Don’t force it, don’t stress over it.  Set yourself up for success.  Set the stage, and then “allow”.  Allow it to flow to you, allow the rhythm and move with it.  Move with it like the tree moves with the winds of change, move as one with the horse, open up the space to allow what you want to flow to you, and then accept it with open arms!

  • Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

    Thank you for that…I will keep writing in my blog and keep going!  You inspire me.  butterflymaiden7.blogspot.com/

  • Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

    Thank you for that…I will keep writing in my blog and keep going!  You inspire me.  butterflymaiden7.blogspot.com/