The Cave You Fear To Enter Holds The Treasure That You Seek

Ryf-Van-Rij-199x300A common theme with many of my coaching clients is living a blueprint driven by story or wounds of the past.

We are infinite souls surrounded by stories and these stories prevent our souls from expressing themselves. In extreme cases, these stories can cripple our lives and cause us to harm ourselves and others.

It was certainly true for me.

I used to have this revolving story that if I opened up and became my greatest self, the traumas of my childhood would repeat themselves. I feared that if I allowed my greater self to emerge that I would get hurt again.

In many cases, these coping mechanisms were the only way we knew how to protect ourselves as children. They actually served us well in childhood and they helped us to navigate through unbearably painful situations. The adults around us were likely incapable of or unskilled at seeing our pain and intervening.

As adults, these stories and wounds don’t serve us anymore and they are often the cause of fear, failure, projection, dysfunction and struggle. The irony is that we often repeat the very cycles of hurt or addiction that we felt and witnessed ourselves as children.

We need to be courageous enough to do a deep dive into these stories that no longer serve our lives.

Our souls have been aching for this moment.

This is our rite of passage.

This is our course correction.

Most people are unwilling to be the heroes of their own lives and they prefer to let things be. This is why so many people resign to lives of quiet desperation and die with their songs unsung. They just don’t feel they have the courage to face their pain. The irony is this pain overcome could be their destiny and the beginning of a journey into a self-directed life of purpose, meaning and service.

A powerful place to step into is to be willing to accept that the things that harmed us as children could have been one massive dose of Grace!

In my case, the abuse, the dysfunction, the addiction, the harm caused to myself and others and the cycle of shame, guilt and pain, was really my life’s greatest lesson. In hindsight, it was exactly what was needed to bring me home to self and Source and nothing else could have or would have worked.

Enlightenment is making the dark light.

Unprocessed pain will haunt you for the rest of your life.

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.

The short-term pain will usher in long-term joy.

The great truth is there is no place on earth where you can get closer to Source/Universe/Higher Power/God than where you are right now.

The fact that you may be unaware of this does not negate the fact that the presence of Source/Universe/Higher Power/God is always in you, waiting for you to become the full potential of how you were created.

So is there a story from your past that’s hijacking your potential in the now?

Would you be willing to navigate some short-term pain for some long-term gain?

Could you accept that the hurt of your past was just a massive act of Grace to propel you to your magnificence?

Much Love and welcome Home,



Ryf Van Rij is a coach and creator of The Daily Way Home. Connect with Ryf via Facebook and Twitter.

  • Elena


    Thank you for writing this blog. I can totally relate to what you are saying, and for the past few months I have been doing a lot of soul digging into my personal life story that created the exact cycle of pain of self-destruction that you are describing above.
    At the age of 15, I lost my entire family to different types of cancer. I was born in Chernobyl, and was only 1 year old when the enormous explosion of the nuclear plant happened. Being exposed for 4 years to that radiation, took my family away from me, but for some reason left me physically unharmed. After the lose, I entered into a self-made and very dark reality that at the time served as my self-defense mechanism. I became cold and incapable of feeling nothing besides a very comfortable numbness. It was not easy to pull myself out from the path the led to nowhere that was worth going, and transform the events into a realization that this is my journey to a place that is closer to the source. I decided to let go of the fear of getting hurt again, stop being the victim, and create a life of happiness and peace in spite of it all.
    I managed to put myself through school, and then through college and graduated with honors. Now, my plan is to continue my education a follow my bliss, no matter how impossible it may seem. Because I am of all people know that there is nothing impossible in this world besides our own mind limits that we choose to impose on ourselves.
    Even in the most extreme circumstances, we are always in charge and free to choose our own destiny. And as you mentioned above, if one has enough courage, any pain can be transformed into the biggest gain and lead to the discovery of the greatest treasure of them all- oneself. Don’t bur your head in the sand because it will prevent you from discovering your true purpose and accomplishing your full potential.

    Best wishes,



      Wow Elena!!!!!

      What an incredible story. You are living proof that we can overcome our story and then learn from it and turn it into an empowering experience that can drive our lives towards Purpose and meaning.

      You write so passionately. Have you considered writhing a book. It would be a best seller!

      THANK YOU SOOO much for you sharing.

      Much Love to you as you effect the world!


    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your story, Elena! It is such a powerful and inspiring one!!! Sending LOVE!
      -Team TDL