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The Euphoria Of Admitting When It Sucks

Some very cool things happen when I’m jamming with Fire Starters. Ah-a’s, elevated perspectives, connections. But my favorite phenomenon is when someone decides, with a nudge, to give up on what’s not working. Throw in the towel. Close shop. Call it quits. In the last month or so, I’ve witnessed two store closings, three blog unpluggings, two staff fires, three complete re-namings of brands, and some serious slashing of product lines. YES! Making way for success!

Here’s the thing about defining fulfillment on your own terms. You don’t have to have a storefront to be a wildly successful retailer. You don’t have to get up early in the morning to beat the competition. You don’t have to keep staff who are slagging because you’re a humanitarian or unionized (besides, cutting someone loose so they can go hone their truer talents and bliss is profoundly humane.) If it’s not working, you get to give it up – quickly, just like that. Quitting is a form of enlightenment, I tell ya.

Yes, success is gritty business. You’ve got to hustle your bustle. You’ve got to eat intensity Wheaties for breakfast. But there’s a difference between happy rigor and inane slogging. Slogging doesn’t work. It just doesn’t. You can’t plant misery seeds today and expect to get a juicy crop next season.

I hear this time and again, “If I just hang in longer… Maybe she’ll come up to speed. It might sell in the summer. If I dig deeper, I’ll learn to love Excel.” Fess up – it ain’t workin’. You’re smart to see it. You’re brilliant if you move on.

Indicators of when it simply is not working:
1. You use “it sucks” in a sentence to describe any aspect of your situation.
2. You “drag your ass” to it.
3. Sunday night anxiety (dreading Monday.)
4. Dismal sales (yes, the Uni-verse speaks to us through cash flow.)
5. The bleak absence of synchronicity.
6. Not a whole lot of thanks coming your way.
7. Your mother is your best customer.
8. Seething resentment.

The clues are so generic that we just plow them over with duty and ego and fear of totally flopping. But vitality is a sensation, and it requires a sensitivity to signals and surroundings – and the courage to flow and shout and stomp your feet in sync with the signals of life.

Don’t worry about how you’re going to fix what’s broke. Just notice what sucks with ruthless honesty. It’ll be a momentary rush when you do. You might even feel a strange sense of elation. I Know It Sucks Euphoria. And when you’re high on the truth, you’ve got a new vantage point of where to go next. Turn the lights off when you leave. Announce your new destination.

Love,

Danielle

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Danielle LaPorte is the outspoken creator of The Desire Map, author of The Fire Starter Sessions (Random House/Crown), co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan and soon-to-be publisher of DANIELLE Magazine, launching in early 2014. An inspirational speaker, former think tank exec and business strategist, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over a million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that’s been deemed “the best place on-line for kick-ass spirituality,” and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes.

You can also find her on Facebook, Pinterest and Twitter @daniellelaporte.

  • Lisa Baughn

    I get what you’re saying here, but the economy is still rough and I think it’s OK right now to do what floats your boat at this point in time, even if you don’t like it all that much.

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Lisa :) -Team TDL

  • Linda

    I love Danielle and I love her message. I’ve just started listening to The Fire Starter Sessions on Audible (I go to school part-time and work full-time and its the best way to get in some of the important things I need to hear in my life right now). I don’t think her message is economically based, I think its kick yourself in the a$$ based.

    I am so grateful to have found this wonderful group of people (Danielle LaPorte, Gabrielle Bernstein, Mastin Kipp, Marie Forleo and others) who are making me think, meditate, re-think and begin making significant changes in my life.

    • The Daily Love

      We’re glad you found them too, Linda :) Have a great day! -Team TDL

  • @presensing

    #truthbomb The prequel to growth is releasing what no longer serves. The shedding of worn out skin.

    The wandering crab must let go of her old shell and risk vulnerability as she lodges into her new protective mobile home. Someone wiser than I once said: the truth shall set you free.

    • The Daily Love

      Very interesting thoughts! Thank you for sharing :) -Team TDL

  • Kimberly

    DANIELLE!!! Thank you, dear. I needed this today. It’ SO HARD to abandon a machine that kinda works….it chugs…but it’s not THRIVING. You really nailed it on the head with the whole “it sucks” and “drag your ass” thing. It’s scary to let go of what works at half mast, for the uncertain prospect of full sail, but what the hell. It’s worth a shot. I’m in! Time to release <3