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The Grass Is Greener Somewhere Else . . . NOT!

The grass is greener syndrome.

If you suffer from it, it’s yet another way of postponing your life. Putting the things you desire on the back burner. When we covet another person’s journey, we think if only we had what they had, our life would be more fun. Or more exciting. Or more magical.

Your life already is magical.

We’re just not awake to it, so it feels as if we’re moving around in a monochromatic haze while everyone else seems to be living in Technicolor.

That’s the illusion.

The truth is that your grass is very green. It’s lush and tropical and exotic and fertile and full of possibilities. But it requires you to fully embrace it. All of it. Even the stuff you don’t like, because actually, that’s the stuff that becomes the catalyst for change.

That stuff is your grass’s fertilizer. It’s the essential stuff needed for your growth and expansion. And it holds the potential to unlock the doors you’ve shut to the things you’re seeking:  your joy, your passion, your peace of mind, your self-acceptance.

We can never get to where we’d like to be except by starting in the place we’re currently residing – emotionally, psychologically, spiritually. There’s no escaping you.

Wherever you are, there you are.

We can move to another city, or get another girlfriend or change jobs, but the common denominator in all these experiences is you.

So if you don’t like where you are, then change who you are. But don’t think that being somewhere else, or having a different lover or having a career like someone else is the answer.

The transformation occurs from the inside out. Not the outside in.

Start with your stuff. And watch how green your grass will grow.

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Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer/director/producer/teacher and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl’s Actor Workshop – where the “right brain rules” – in Los Angeles and New York. He is endlessly inspired by his students’ fearless creativity and is tireless in discovering new ways to help us all get out of our own way a little bit more each day. He just finished writing/directing his first feature film, Birds of A Feather.

www.AtLeftBrainTurnRight.com

www.anthonymeindl.com

Twitter –  @AnthonyMeindl

  • Eseychei

    Thanks for this post. Makes total sense. Love yourself where you are first… Wherever that may be. Love yourself enough to accept yourself in your darkest. Don’t abandon yourself. 

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for reading and keep loving yourself!!

  • Eseychei

    Thanks for this post. Makes total sense. Love yourself where you are first… Wherever that may be. Love yourself enough to accept yourself in your darkest. Don’t abandon yourself. 

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for reading and keep loving yourself!!

  • Cecil_16sabado

    absolutely great! thanks for making me realize this truth!

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Thanks for reading! Good luck to you!

  • Cecil_16sabado

    absolutely great! thanks for making me realize this truth!

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Thanks for reading! Good luck to you!

  • Akboboskie

    Thank you.

  • Akboboskie

    Thank you.

  • Dancinmysoul

    Thank you.  I have found that if I am not grateful for where I am currently, whenever I get “there” wherever “there” is (the boyfriend, the job, etc.) I will still be me and not grateful so I must start with the gratitude for where my feet are right now.   I so appreciate the way you expressed this succintly.  Thank you for sharing your gift of understanding.~Peace, Colleen

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Thank YOU Colleen! You are exactly right! Keep being grateful!

  • Dancinmysoul

    Thank you.  I have found that if I am not grateful for where I am currently, whenever I get “there” wherever “there” is (the boyfriend, the job, etc.) I will still be me and not grateful so I must start with the gratitude for where my feet are right now.   I so appreciate the way you expressed this succintly.  Thank you for sharing your gift of understanding.~Peace, Colleen

    • http://www.atleftbrainturnright.com/ Anthony Meindl

      Thank YOU Colleen! You are exactly right! Keep being grateful!

  • Surya

    The grass is truly NOT greener anywhere else, but sometimes we just don’t have what it takes to truly commit to a Path and Higher Ideal in Life, so we back away/rationalize/give up/quit .  Can’t fault someone for making that choice, but it doesn’t change anything in reality.  Your issues will follow you wherever you go, as they are your issues.  You will still have to learn the lessons, deal with the karma, and go through it…in fact if we give up prematurely, usually the lesson comes back with additional weight.It is an easy thing to say “in your heart, you know you have done all that there is to do and somehow you are left still feeling empty, depressed and alone — and there is a tugging inside that says, “There IS something much better.”…but the Truth is likely very different.  More likely than not, we have not done “all that there is to do”…and we certainly haven’t done the real work on ourselves.  In this age, few in society can make true commitment to anything…a relationship, a Spiritual Teacher, a Path.  When things get a bit rough, we quit and look for a new lawn, thinking the grass is the problem instead of the observer of the grass.  And then we dump on the previous lawn and describe all that we saw as its faults, when the Plain Truth is that the faults lied within us…and still do.Though traumatic experiences, like a death of a parent, can sometimes lead us to deeper Spiritual Understanding about the Truth of Life, sometimes they can lead us to react in rash ways…especially if our disposition is towards that to begin with.  I have observed the same thing with people when they start experimenting with strong psychoactive drugs, like DMT, etc.  The danger is that these things can “rewire” our brain in a way that has NOTHING to do with True Reality.  

    What I often find amusing is when people comment how all is perfect and the Universe is supporting you at each moment with one breath, but then talk about how the grass is greener somewhere else with the next.  It can’t be both…

    There are always things we can let go of.  Some benefit us and the people our decisions affect, and some are to our detriment.Sometimes we feel a big relief after we let go of our difficult path.  We feel things are so much lighter and brighter and easier now.  We wonder why we ever hung on to what we were working and striving towards for so long, as we feel so much better now.  But that is a temporary and false bliss.  A good analogy (and one apropros with the Olympic Games coming up) is life of an Olympic athlete.  They strive towards a goal that demands everything of them.  It is a goal that few can achieve and takes the deepest commitment and discipline.  It requires one to give up practically all that a “normal” person enjoys in life.  Many say one is crazy to pursue such a thing.  But the athlete knows the special feeling that their efforts eventually bring through their fruit.Some take a break, or undergo a period of “reevaluation”, give up, etc.  Success on the Path is for the very few willing to give it all for as long as it takes.  So they go back towards “normal, regular life”.  They give up their dietary discipline.  They give up their exercise discipline.  They give up their discipline that organizes and orders their life to most effectively and efficiently reach towards their goal.  They eat like normal people again.  They go out and party and enjoy.  They sleep in, watch tv and movies, enjoy more romantic interests, etc.  They feel a great relief.  They see the grass as greener again.  They feel a sense of joy and bliss and pleasure…but this is an illusion.  It is simply the ego, falsely flooding the mind with this false bliss to pull one away from the True Goal.  They have stepped off their True Path and once we step off, it is very difficult (though not impossible) to get back on.Nothing wrong with getting off, but if we want the Highest Heights, we have to be willing to give it all, 108%.As it says in Deuteronomy 6:5, as well as several places in the “New Testament”:”And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”This is what it takes to reach the Goal.  Don’t let your ego convince you otherwise.Blessings…

  • Surya

    The grass is truly NOT greener anywhere else, but sometimes we just don’t have what it takes to truly commit to a Path and Higher Ideal in Life, so we back away/rationalize/give up/quit .  Can’t fault someone for making that choice, but it doesn’t change anything in reality.  Your issues will follow you wherever you go, as they are your issues.  You will still have to learn the lessons, deal with the karma, and go through it…in fact if we give up prematurely, usually the lesson comes back with additional weight.It is an easy thing to say “in your heart, you know you have done all that there is to do and somehow you are left still feeling empty, depressed and alone — and there is a tugging inside that says, “There IS something much better.”…but the Truth is likely very different.  More likely than not, we have not done “all that there is to do”…and we certainly haven’t done the real work on ourselves.  In this age, few in society can make true commitment to anything…a relationship, a Spiritual Teacher, a Path.  When things get a bit rough, we quit and look for a new lawn, thinking the grass is the problem instead of the observer of the grass.  And then we dump on the previous lawn and describe all that we saw as its faults, when the Plain Truth is that the faults lied within us…and still do.Though traumatic experiences, like a death of a parent, can sometimes lead us to deeper Spiritual Understanding about the Truth of Life, sometimes they can lead us to react in rash ways…especially if our disposition is towards that to begin with.  I have observed the same thing with people when they start experimenting with strong psychoactive drugs, like DMT, etc.  The danger is that these things can “rewire” our brain in a way that has NOTHING to do with True Reality.  

    What I often find amusing is when people comment how all is perfect and the Universe is supporting you at each moment with one breath, but then talk about how the grass is greener somewhere else with the next.  It can’t be both…

    There are always things we can let go of.  Some benefit us and the people our decisions affect, and some are to our detriment.Sometimes we feel a big relief after we let go of our difficult path.  We feel things are so much lighter and brighter and easier now.  We wonder why we ever hung on to what we were working and striving towards for so long, as we feel so much better now.  But that is a temporary and false bliss.  A good analogy (and one apropros with the Olympic Games coming up) is life of an Olympic athlete.  They strive towards a goal that demands everything of them.  It is a goal that few can achieve and takes the deepest commitment and discipline.  It requires one to give up practically all that a “normal” person enjoys in life.  Many say one is crazy to pursue such a thing.  But the athlete knows the special feeling that their efforts eventually bring through their fruit.Some take a break, or undergo a period of “reevaluation”, give up, etc.  Success on the Path is for the very few willing to give it all for as long as it takes.  So they go back towards “normal, regular life”.  They give up their dietary discipline.  They give up their exercise discipline.  They give up their discipline that organizes and orders their life to most effectively and efficiently reach towards their goal.  They eat like normal people again.  They go out and party and enjoy.  They sleep in, watch tv and movies, enjoy more romantic interests, etc.  They feel a great relief.  They see the grass as greener again.  They feel a sense of joy and bliss and pleasure…but this is an illusion.  It is simply the ego, falsely flooding the mind with this false bliss to pull one away from the True Goal.  They have stepped off their True Path and once we step off, it is very difficult (though not impossible) to get back on.Nothing wrong with getting off, but if we want the Highest Heights, we have to be willing to give it all, 108%.As it says in Deuteronomy 6:5, as well as several places in the “New Testament”:”And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”This is what it takes to reach the Goal.  Don’t let your ego convince you otherwise.Blessings…