The Grass IS Greener!

For as long as I can remember I would hear people saying that the grass is never greener on the other side.

I always wondered if it were true, and in fact, I spent a lot of time believing it.

As an adult I began to question it more and more. How do I know it to be true — that the grass is never greener? How do I know it to be true if I have never tiptoed on the other side? How do I know for certain this isn’t yet another way that people, life and society aren’t just using that as a phrase to stay stuck and not take responsibility for their lives?

What other people do is absolutely none of my business. What I do is my complete responsibility.

I am not saying I believe it’s a great idea to toss one situation (relationship, job, etc.) the first time things don’t go the way one wants. I am a firm believer in trying all possible venues to make things work and to extract the best out of every situation. But what happens when, in your heart, you know you have done all that there is to do and somehow you are left still feeling empty, depressed and alone — and there is a tugging inside that says, “There IS something much better. Have faith and move forward. The vision you seek really does exist.” For me, I would hear the tugging and right behind the tugging was, “What’s the point — the grass is never greener.” For years I believed this and I have to say — it was great to hold onto that belief. Doing so taught me a lot about myself.

However, several years back my father dying out of the blue taught me a very great lesson. Although the grass may not be greener, I began wanting to make sure that when I woke up in the morning I was fully committed and in harmony with the choices that I was making for myself. I remember thinking when I found out that my dad was no longer on this planet with me, “What if the grass is greener and I never had the courage to explore that?”

Since my fathers passing, I have made some epic changes in my life — and I can say that, although I am the same person with the same issues and feelings inside, my life is very different and the internal strength and clarity I have is incredibly different. In many ways, I can tell you, that the vision my heart whispered for years does exist. I can tell you, for me, the grass is so much greener — and I wake up with gratitude everyday for having the courage to finally listen to my Heart.

There is something to say for listening to that tug saying there is something more. There is something to say about the people we spend to choose huge amounts of time with in our lives. People do radically affect us and can support and inspire us to be better people — or can pull us down like iron anchors in the sea. Some people and situations bring out the best in us and some do not. For me, the fear of being alone and unsuccessful was what I carried into my life as I had made those intense changes. As I am working on letting go of these fears and walking with strength holding hands with my vision — I notice the incredible support and like-minded souls appearing out of the cracks of the woodwork in times and places I never expected. I am not saying that life just takes magical turns and that around the corner are rainbows and unicorns — but I am curious — if people would live a bit more courageously and integrity-filled, and if they believed perhaps the turns would be magical for them — if the world wouldn’t become a lot more inspirational and green overall!

It took me a long time to let go of the belief that the grass wasn’t greener, and, as I held hands with courage, I have to say the grass has become more than green — it has become close to everything that I could have ever dreamed — and each day gets better and better.

From my heart to yours — Wherever you are in your life, commit to live it with full integrity. If you still wake up feeling funky, silenced and depressed — perhaps it’s time to pull up your big girl panties or your big boy briefs, take your dreams into your hands — and know that incredible things and experiences are awaiting your arrival.

Imagine if you woke up today thinking, “Today something incredible is going to happen.” It will if you seek to be open to finding it.

All my love,
Robin Lee

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  • Kdmidwife

    Thanks, Robin.  After my mother passed two and a half years ago, I also began questioning the idea that where we were was the best that could be.  I rejected that assumption and have had a series of amazing new experiences, work opportunities and the chance to get to know myself better. The grass being “greener” doesn’t mean “not without challenges” but challenges grow us, make us more creative problem solvers!  Every day I hang on to my hat, because something incredible IS going to happen!
    Blessings!
    Katherine

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Katherine. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. Thank you for sharing. it is beautiful to share your experience with you. Thank you for taking the time to reach out. In love,
      Robin

  • Kdmidwife

    Thanks, Robin.  After my mother passed two and a half years ago, I also began questioning the idea that where we were was the best that could be.  I rejected that assumption and have had a series of amazing new experiences, work opportunities and the chance to get to know myself better. The grass being “greener” doesn’t mean “not without challenges” but challenges grow us, make us more creative problem solvers!  Every day I hang on to my hat, because something incredible IS going to happen!
    Blessings!
    Katherine

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Katherine. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. Thank you for sharing. it is beautiful to share your experience with you. Thank you for taking the time to reach out. In love,
      Robin

  • Amanda

    Thank you Robin as always your posts are inspiring real and from the heart.  I wake up everyday knowing that my dreams will be a reality, I try to love my life with grace, paitence and understanding.  Thank you for reminding me to continue to believe! Big hugs to you!  Have a beautiful day! 🙂

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Amanda! You are so very welcome and I am glad that you connect to my sharing. Big hugs to you! Sweet dreams!

  • Amanda

    Thank you Robin as always your posts are inspiring real and from the heart.  I wake up everyday knowing that my dreams will be a reality, I try to love my life with grace, paitence and understanding.  Thank you for reminding me to continue to believe! Big hugs to you!  Have a beautiful day! 🙂

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Amanda! You are so very welcome and I am glad that you connect to my sharing. Big hugs to you! Sweet dreams!

  • Rosemary Alexander

    I have changed the course of my life many times because where I stood wasn’t as “green” as I longed for it to be. I agree, it’s important to be responsible and acknowledge that “wherever you go, there you are”, but!!! if I had never changed courses because of accepting that things wouldn’t be any better – I would have missed living my dream, which is definitely “greener”. 

    • Intuitionheals

      🙂 xoxox your courage is inspiring. I love seeing you support your dreams. love you!

  • Rosemary Alexander

    I have changed the course of my life many times because where I stood wasn’t as “green” as I longed for it to be. I agree, it’s important to be responsible and acknowledge that “wherever you go, there you are”, but!!! if I had never changed courses because of accepting that things wouldn’t be any better – I would have missed living my dream, which is definitely “greener”. 

    • Intuitionheals

      🙂 xoxox your courage is inspiring. I love seeing you support your dreams. love you!

  • Surya

    Quite the interesting title for your blog…

    The grass is truly NOT greener anywhere else, but sometimes we just don’t have what it takes to truly commit to a Path and Higher Ideal in Life, so we back away/rationalize/give up/quit .  Can’t fault someone for making that choice, but it doesn’t change anything in reality.  Your issues will follow you wherever you go, as they are your issues.  You will still have to learn the lessons, deal with the karma, and go through it…in fact if we give up prematurely, usually the lesson comes back with additional weight.It is an easy thing to say “in your heart, you know you have done all that there is to do and somehow you are left still feeling empty, depressed and alone — and there is a tugging inside that says, “There IS something much better.”…but the Truth is likely very different.  More likely than not, we have not done “all that there is to do”…and we certainly haven’t done the real work on ourselves.  In this age, few in society can make true commitment to anything…a relationship, a Spiritual Teacher, a Path.  When things get a bit rough, we quit and look for a new lawn, thinking the grass is the problem instead of the observer of the grass.  And then we dump on the previous lawn and describe all that we saw as its faults, when the Plain Truth is that the faults lied within us…and still do.Though traumatic experiences, like a death of a parent, can sometimes lead us to deeper Spiritual Understanding about the Truth of Life, sometimes they can lead us to react in rash ways…especially if our disposition is towards that to begin with.  I have observed the same thing with people when they start experimenting with strong psychoactive drugs, like DMT, etc.  The danger is that these things can “rewire” our brain in a way that has NOTHING to do with True Reality.  

    What I often find amusing is when people comment how all is perfect and the Universe is supporting you at each moment with one breath, but then talk about how the grass is greener somewhere else with the next.  It can’t be both…

    • GreenSmoothieGirl

       
      “SHE
      LET GO… without a thought or word, she let go. She let go of the
      fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the opinions swarming
      around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
      She let go of all the “right” reasons. Wholly and completely, without
      hesitation or worry, she just let go. She didn’t ask anyone for advice.
      She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She
      just let go. She let go of all the memories that held her back. She let
      go of all the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of
      the planning and all the calculations, about how to do it just right. In
      the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her
      face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone
      forever more.” ~ Ernest Holmes * American writer and spiritual teacher *
      (1887–1960)

      • Surya

        There are always things we can let go of.  Some benefit us and the people our decisions affect, and some are to our detriment.

        Sometimes we feel a big relief after we let go of our difficult path.  We feel things are so much lighter and brighter and easier now.  We wonder why we ever hung on to what we were working and striving towards for so long, as we feel so much better now.  But that is a temporary and false bliss.  

        A good analogy (and one apropros with the Olympic Games coming up) is life of an Olympic athlete.  They strive towards a goal that demands everything of them.  It is a goal that few can achieve and takes the deepest commitment and discipline.  It requires one to give up practically all that a “normal” person enjoys in life.  Many say one is crazy to pursue such a thing.  But the athlete knows the special feeling that their efforts eventually bring through their fruit.

        Some take a break, or undergo a period of “reevaluation”, give up, etc.  Success on the Path is for the very few willing to give it all for as long as it takes.  So they go back towards “normal, regular life”.  They give up their dietary discipline.  They give up their exercise discipline.  They give up their discipline that organizes and orders their life to most effectively and efficiently reach towards their goal.  They eat like normal people again.  They go out and party and enjoy.  They sleep in, watch tv and movies, enjoy more romantic interests, etc.  They feel a great relief.  They see the grass as greener again.  They feel a sense of joy and bliss and pleasure…but this is an illusion.  It is simply the ego, falsely flooding the mind with this false bliss to pull one away from the True Goal.  They have stepped off their True Path and once we step off, it is very difficult (though not impossible) to get back on.

        Nothing wrong with getting off, but if we want the Highest Heights, we have to be willing to give it all, 108%.

        As it says in Deuteronomy 6:5, as well as several places in the “New Testament”:

        “And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”

        This is what it takes to reach the Goal.  Don’t let your ego convince you otherwise.

        Blessings…

        • GreenSmoothieGirl

           One would have to ask why you are even here, Surya.  Is it that you enjoy a forum where you can exhibit your self-aggrandizing ways to more people?

          • Surya

            I am here for the same reasons as anyone.  If you don’t like/agree with my opinions or thoughts, that is okay with me.  I don’t try to squelch yours.  Interesting that this is the only blogger you post in response to…

          • Surya

            I am not the only one who feels this way either…even here on TDL. Here is one example:

            http://thedailylove.com/the-grass-is-greener-somewhere-else-not/

          • Surya

            You can have anything you want if you want it badly enough. You can be anything you want to be, do anything you set out to accomplish if you hold to that desire with singleness of purpose.”

            – Abraham Lincoln

          • GreenSmoothieGirl

             “People too weak to follow their dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.”

          • Surya

            While I am sure that is sometimes (not always) true, that has nothing to do with the reality that Robin Lee is writing about in this particular situation.  I would say that I am in a unique place to comment on this…and certainly in a place far more informed than you GSG.  Keep those greens flowing… 🙂

          • Surya

            I really hadn’t intended on continuing with these comments, but this topic is just too dear to my heart.  I just came across this quote from Rumi, which not only sums up my own beliefs on this subject, but the Teachings of The Great Saints.  Rumi says:

            “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

            THE GRASS ISN’T GREENER ANYWHERE ELSE. CHANGING YOUR WORLD, YOUR OUTSIDE CIRCUMSTANCES, IS NOT THE ANSWER. YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOURSELF FROM WITHIN! 

            IN PREM…

  • Surya

    Quite the interesting title for your blog…

    The grass is truly NOT greener anywhere else, but sometimes we just don’t have what it takes to truly commit to a Path and Higher Ideal in Life, so we back away/rationalize/give up/quit .  Can’t fault someone for making that choice, but it doesn’t change anything in reality.  Your issues will follow you wherever you go, as they are your issues.  You will still have to learn the lessons, deal with the karma, and go through it…in fact if we give up prematurely, usually the lesson comes back with additional weight.It is an easy thing to say “in your heart, you know you have done all that there is to do and somehow you are left still feeling empty, depressed and alone — and there is a tugging inside that says, “There IS something much better.”…but the Truth is likely very different.  More likely than not, we have not done “all that there is to do”…and we certainly haven’t done the real work on ourselves.  In this age, few in society can make true commitment to anything…a relationship, a Spiritual Teacher, a Path.  When things get a bit rough, we quit and look for a new lawn, thinking the grass is the problem instead of the observer of the grass.  And then we dump on the previous lawn and describe all that we saw as its faults, when the Plain Truth is that the faults lied within us…and still do.Though traumatic experiences, like a death of a parent, can sometimes lead us to deeper Spiritual Understanding about the Truth of Life, sometimes they can lead us to react in rash ways…especially if our disposition is towards that to begin with.  I have observed the same thing with people when they start experimenting with strong psychoactive drugs, like DMT, etc.  The danger is that these things can “rewire” our brain in a way that has NOTHING to do with True Reality.  

    What I often find amusing is when people comment how all is perfect and the Universe is supporting you at each moment with one breath, but then talk about how the grass is greener somewhere else with the next.  It can’t be both…

    • GreenSmoothieGirl

       
      “SHE
      LET GO… without a thought or word, she let go. She let go of the
      fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the opinions swarming
      around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
      She let go of all the “right” reasons. Wholly and completely, without
      hesitation or worry, she just let go. She didn’t ask anyone for advice.
      She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She
      just let go. She let go of all the memories that held her back. She let
      go of all the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of
      the planning and all the calculations, about how to do it just right. In
      the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her
      face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone
      forever more.” ~ Ernest Holmes * American writer and spiritual teacher *
      (1887–1960)

      • Surya

        There are always things we can let go of.  Some benefit us and the people our decisions affect, and some are to our detriment.

        Sometimes we feel a big relief after we let go of our difficult path.  We feel things are so much lighter and brighter and easier now.  We wonder why we ever hung on to what we were working and striving towards for so long, as we feel so much better now.  But that is a temporary and false bliss.  

        A good analogy (and one apropros with the Olympic Games coming up) is life of an Olympic athlete.  They strive towards a goal that demands everything of them.  It is a goal that few can achieve and takes the deepest commitment and discipline.  It requires one to give up practically all that a “normal” person enjoys in life.  Many say one is crazy to pursue such a thing.  But the athlete knows the special feeling that their efforts eventually bring through their fruit.

        Some take a break, or undergo a period of “reevaluation”, give up, etc.  Success on the Path is for the very few willing to give it all for as long as it takes.  So they go back towards “normal, regular life”.  They give up their dietary discipline.  They give up their exercise discipline.  They give up their discipline that organizes and orders their life to most effectively and efficiently reach towards their goal.  They eat like normal people again.  They go out and party and enjoy.  They sleep in, watch tv and movies, enjoy more romantic interests, etc.  They feel a great relief.  They see the grass as greener again.  They feel a sense of joy and bliss and pleasure…but this is an illusion.  It is simply the ego, falsely flooding the mind with this false bliss to pull one away from the True Goal.  They have stepped off their True Path and once we step off, it is very difficult (though not impossible) to get back on.

        Nothing wrong with getting off, but if we want the Highest Heights, we have to be willing to give it all, 108%.

        As it says in Deuteronomy 6:5, as well as several places in the “New Testament”:

        “And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”

        This is what it takes to reach the Goal.  Don’t let your ego convince you otherwise.

        Blessings…

        • GreenSmoothieGirl

           One would have to ask why you are even here, Surya.  Is it that you enjoy a forum where you can exhibit your self-aggrandizing ways to more people?

          • Surya

            I am here for the same reasons as anyone.  If you don’t like/agree with my opinions or thoughts, that is okay with me.  I don’t try to squelch yours.  Interesting that this is the only blogger you post in response to…

          • Surya

            I am not the only one who feels this way either…even here on TDL. Here is one example:

            http://thedailylove.com/the-grass-is-greener-somewhere-else-not/

          • Surya

            You can have anything you want if you want it badly enough. You can be anything you want to be, do anything you set out to accomplish if you hold to that desire with singleness of purpose.”

            – Abraham Lincoln

          • GreenSmoothieGirl

             “People too weak to follow their dreams will always find a way to discourage yours.”

          • Surya

            While I am sure that is sometimes (not always) true, that has nothing to do with the reality that Robin Lee is writing about in this particular situation.  I would say that I am in a unique place to comment on this…and certainly in a place far more informed than you GSG.  Keep those greens flowing… 🙂

          • Surya

            I really hadn’t intended on continuing with these comments, but this topic is just too dear to my heart.  I just came across this quote from Rumi, which not only sums up my own beliefs on this subject, but the Teachings of The Great Saints.  Rumi says:

            “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

            THE GRASS ISN’T GREENER ANYWHERE ELSE. CHANGING YOUR WORLD, YOUR OUTSIDE CIRCUMSTANCES, IS NOT THE ANSWER. YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOURSELF FROM WITHIN! 

            IN PREM…

  • GreenSmoothieGirl

    Thank you for sharing the Truth about the grass being greener.  Seems that we are taught from childhood that the grass is not greener, but this false belief can keep us in a place of suffering unnecessarily.   Thank you for being an amazing model of moving forward, of moving past fear, of getting rid of the garbage and embracing your new life so beautifully.  You are such a great example to so many of us.  Thank you for leading the way!!!

  • GreenSmoothieGirl

    Thank you for sharing the Truth about the grass being greener.  Seems that we are taught from childhood that the grass is not greener, but this false belief can keep us in a place of suffering unnecessarily.   Thank you for being an amazing model of moving forward, of moving past fear, of getting rid of the garbage and embracing your new life so beautifully.  You are such a great example to so many of us.  Thank you for leading the way!!!

  • I love this! Thank you so much!

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Ron 🙂 Thanks for saying hi 🙂 xo

  • I love this! Thank you so much!

    • Robin Lee

      Hi Ron 🙂 Thanks for saying hi 🙂 xo