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The Key To Living In Harmony With Your Head And Your Heart!

How many times have you known something deep inside but did not trust it?

Instead you listened to your head rather than the deeper knowing of your heart.

Oftentimes the head and the heart are not in harmony, and when you listen to only the head, it leads to a great source of confusion.

One minute the head tells you one thing, then a few minutes later it tells you something else, and before you know it you end up more confused than when you began.

Living a life run by your head is limited and will misguide you out of the poetry that is each moment.

The heart has an intelligence and knows things that the head cannot know – it has a knowing beyond logic. The heart is beyond mere emotion, but rooted in deep wisdom.

There are things that you know deep down.

I often hear people say, “Kute, I know what I need to do… the truth is that I am afraid. What should I do?”

Or after something negative happens, “I knew in my gut I should have made a different choice!”

Sometimes we are afraid to OWN our inner-knowing, so we create the false sense of confusion for ourselves. Confusion is a game we play with ourselves to keep ourselves stuck where we are. The more you remain confused, the less you need to make a choice and take action. Confusion keeps you playing small.

It can be scary to get clear and own the fact that underneath the fear and confusion, you DO indeed know what to do. As you own your knowing, there are no more excuses – only the courageous responsibility to follow your truth.

We avoid truly listening to our heart sometimes because we are afraid of what that might mean to be that honest. Perhaps it will mean acknowledging that your relationship needs to end, or that it is time to leave your unfulfilling job.

There is a part of you that knows everything, since at the deepest level you are everything.

When you allow yourself to listen to your heart, it will guide you on the right path. Your heart has an intelligence and wisdom – even though it might not always be easy, and sometimes rather challenging, there is usually a deeper sense of peace that comes with following your true heart’s knowing.

Deep peace is living your deepest truth, rather than out of the confines of your fear.

The stress, anxiety, craziness we feel often happens because we are stuck in our heads, when in reality everything inside of us is saying something else. There is often a gap between what the head says and the heart says. The degree to which you follow only the head is the degree to which you will suffer.

To go against your true heart’s knowing is to betray yourself, and to betray yourself only leads to pain.

It is not worth it.

The head has its place, but it must serve the guidance and direction of your heart. So first feel your heart, and be 100% honest about what you know. Even if you are not ready to do anything about it right now, simply being honest about what your heart tells you is the first step.

Owning your heart’s knowing is to step into your power, and to step into your power is to live authentically who you are in the world without compromising yourself.

Living with your head running the show often leads to a safe life, where you compromise who you are, living what you think you are supposed to.

Living in harmony with the head AND the heart will allow you to thrive. Tune into the heart, honor its knowing and guidance, and then use the head to assist in the fulfillment of your heart’s authentic direction.

You know.

There is a deep wisdom in you.

Own it.

You are it.

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!

Love. Now.

Kute

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Kute Blackson is a speaker and life coach. Check out his website here.

  • Maximumconsulting

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    Excellent reminder. My heart thanks you

  • http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

    Ah yes.  This is something I’m realizing more and more lately, and learning how to trust it more and more.  I often doubt myself.  I confuse myself, as you said.  I make things more complicated than they need to be.  I try to figure out what I “should” do and what the “best” thing to do is.  I’m seeing now that I just need to listen to my heart.  Forget the “shoulds” and “what’s best.”  My heart, and my spirit knows what’s best FOR ME.  I need to trust that!  Honor it.  Respect it.  This is truly something I’m working on every single day. 

    I look back at past relationships and jobs and see how I usually (probably always) knew that person or that particular job wasn’t good for me.  But I talked myself into it.  I let others’ opinions sway me.  I let my head make the decision, not my heart. 

    Why is it so hard to listen to our hearts?  And not just LISTEN, but to ACT based on that feeling? 

    Sarah
    http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/03/give-yourself-permission-to-weed-out.html

  • Meredith

    This is *exactly* what I have been trying to reconcile recently. There are a few things that are on my mind right now—things I want to do, fix or accomplish. When I consult my heart, I feel hopeful and happy. When I let my brain analyze these things and I don’t quiet my brain, I feel badly. My brain tells me that the advice of my heart isn’t logical and makes no sense and how could I be so silly… My heart’s  knowledge on things like these  is proving to be more accurate. Right now, I’m trying to live more from my heart’s knowledge instead of  letting my brain run the whole show like a destructive soccer hooligan bashing in windows and overturning cars…:0)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73408324 Laura Jean

    This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Gives me confidence to listen to my heart and to go forward in the direction that I desire. It’s not about what others say, it’s about what’s in your inner soul. Thanks for posting this! 

  • Jenni

    I am finding it is hardest to follow my heart when money is involved. Everyone telling me that it is too risky, costs too much and I can find the same thing somewhere else for much less. Or that I should do it a different way. Meanwhile my heart is calling me to take the risk, spend the money, show the universe I fully trust my feelings, my heart. Is risk always worth it – when those you love don’t understand and pull away from you because of it? I feel that for my personal growth it is worth it, but even other experts in the field don’t agree. It all creates such a head game…it is clouding my original feelings that so compelled me in the first place. 

  • http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com/ Nina

    Perfect. That’s all I have to say :)

    Much love,
    Nina

  • sara

    This was so wonderful and true. Thank yoU!

  • Andrea

    I am 41 and only in the last year did I realize that most of my life I have been listening to the wrong voice.  The voice of your head mimics your heart!  I went through life, fighting with myself, making terrible relationship choices, and all along thinking that I was “following my heart”.  In reality it was my head, leading me in the wrong direction due to what I call my sick tendencies coming from abandonment issues, low self worth, no self esteem, etc.  Now I realize, that my heart has been the quiet voice and my head has been the loud voice…the sick voice that always overpowered my heart and essentially tricked me into “thinking” I was following my heart.  ”Thinking” you are following your heart is WRONG.  You have to FEEL you are following your heart.  Be careful which voice you are listening too!!  The head can be very tricky!  

  • Laaraex

    When the head and the heart are in sync, they work together in harmony  to create our purpose–AHA!!!!!!!! Thank you.

  • Cecilia

    This post is amazing – a great reminder for me today as I am trying to accept the voice in my heart. I want to hear it more and more (or rather let it speak and really listen). Thank you!

  • Faith

    this is right on!!! Kute, your work is just amazing!  It speaks to me so profoundly.  It ignites my spark in such a powerful way.  thank you for sharing your wisdom and inspiration.

  • Anonymous

    My question is: If I feel my heart knew it wasn’t right for me to marry my husband and my head and everyone around me said it was good for me, is the only solution now divorce? 
    Is it possible to have a happy marriage and continue to enjoy all the good things we have and let go of the nagging “confusion”?

  • Matt

    This is my biggest struggle right now. I am feeling the burning in my heart that I must follow. But my head gets in my hearts way and I don’t know how to get past it. It’s really scary to enter into the unknown, but I know it’s what I need to do. It’s holding me back from being my true self and I just don’t know how to get past it!

  • chalf

    Absolutely incredible.  There is not much more that can be said.

  • mmouts

    trully, thank you for your videos. If I wanted to give you back a present for all your kind thoughts and actions of love I would direct you to the writings of Kazantzakis -especially the “Askitiki” book- a great greek writer and philosopher:
    http://www.angel.net/~nic/askitiki.html

  • Bryony

    Wow! My eyes have just truely been opened. Thank you x