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I think it’s safe to say that if you are reading this blog – you want to be happy.
The paradox I’ve found in life is this… in order to be happy, we must grow. And in order to grow, we must face our fears.
So the equation looks something like this:
Happiness = Growth = Facing fears
Which can be simplified to be:
Happiness = Facing fears
This is a paradox because it is terrifying to face our fears. I know it is for me. I’m scared of all kinds of things. I’ve been doing a lot of traveling lately and something that I’ve started to become scared of is flying. I used to be a great flyer. Now, I’m a fearful flyer. I think it’s because now I have so much to lose in my life. There was a time in my life where I had nothing to lose and so I didn’t value my own life as much.
But now, I have so much that I love in my life that I don’t want to lose it or miss out. And so I think this has translated into being a fearful flyer.
But, in order for me to grow, this is a fear I have to keep facing. Over and over and over again. And based on the equation above, it’s by continuing to face that fear that happiness will come. Why? Because part of me growing is facing my fear of travel and I need to travel more and more for my life these days. And if I do not travel, there is so much growth and happiness that I will miss out on.
Another fear I have is letting love in. I know it sounds ironic for the guy who started “The Daily Love,” right? Well, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – we come to teach what we need to learn. And letting LOVE in is a hard thing for me to do. It’s VERY easy for me to give LOVE. Giving is a form of power. But letting in Love, letting in abundance, letting in all the things I truly want is scary because I could risk getting hurt. But I’ve come to realize that I risk so much more by not letting in these things.
And so, again, I must face the fear of being hurt so that I can grow in Love and abundance, which will result in greater happiness.
Does this mean I will fly on a junky airplane or just let anyone in? Of course not. We need healthy boundaries and discernment. If I got on a plane and the pilot was drunk, I’d get off. Or if someone lied to me, I wouldn’t let them close to my heart. We need discernment. But for those safe flights, for those that love me and would feel happier if I let love in, these are the people and situations I need to go towards, even though it’s scary.
So, I’m curious… if happiness = facing fears – what fears could YOU face today?
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