The Path To Healing – Step Ten – One Day At A Time!

Step One         Step Two

Step Three      Step Four

Step Five         Step Six

Step Seven      Step Eight

Step Nine

Imagine if by doing these 12 Steps, the result was that you reached immediate enlightenment and were raised up out of the challenges of the human condition.  If that were the case, we could issue the following congratulatory notice:

Congratulations to each of you who have come through these Steps.  You are now cured of all your ills, woes and challenges!  You no longer have to worry about anything.  You are constantly in the flow of the Uni-verse and nothing can touch you.  Your dreams are all going to come true because you are awesome.  By the way, you and your loved ones will live forever in perfect health.

It is so important to know the parameters of this path of recovery.  Like most spiritual paths, this 12-Step path offers you tools to live life well as a Human Being. It does not offer you a way out of the Human condition.  My experiences with each of these Steps were connected by a common theme – Despite the fact that I am growing and learning to embrace all that life has to offer, each new day shows me that I am a work in progress.  I am getting better at being me AND I am still making mistakes along the way.  The fact that I have worked these Steps many times does not mean that I am beyond challenges, errors, failures and hardship.  It simply means that I get to show up and be the best version of me as I go through each day that I am privileged to get here on Earth.

Step 10 is the one-day-at-a-time step.  It is there to serve our continuing need to refine ourselves and to make certain we do not let the world and its challenges pile up on us.  Step 10 reads approximately:  “Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.”  This is our opportunity to review each day before we go to bed.  We look back upon it and ask ourselves how things went.  Were we selfish? Dishonest?  Did we mishandle a situation?  Were we un-compassionate or hurtful with our words?  If we find that the answer to any of these questions is yes, we do our best to reach out right there and then or as soon as possible to keep the pathway clear.

I remember my father telling us to never go to bed angry.  These were sage words that I practice in my life even today.  It is always better to communicate and connect rather than sit on a resentment especially through the night.  Step 10 gives us the structure to do that all-important work.  It is like a mini 4th Step, keeping us free of the energy of resentment and helping us to build flow into our daily existence.

I seem to need a one-day-at-a-time approach to life.  It makes so much sense.  The circadian rhythm of life happens in 24-hour increments.  True, we do need to make some plans for the future and our logical mind helps with that task, but when we try to take life in big chunks, problems like stress enter the picture and all kinds of unfortunate things result from stress.  It is advantageous to begin and end each day with a full tank of energy and a clean slate.  In this way, we can live daily in the flow of the Uni-verse performing our unique purpose and living in peace with each other and ourselves.

I wish this for you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Tommy Rosen

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Tommy Rosen is a yoga teacher and addiction specialist. Check out his website here.

  • Jacob

    Thanks Tommy !!
     

  • 1shiningheart

    Love your words. Thanks for sharing your heart <3