The SECRET Secret… It’s Not Your Thoughts That Matter!

There is so much talk these last few years about how important your thoughts are.

That your thoughts literally create your reality.

That you must only think positive thoughts. Sometimes we get so scared about the slightest negative thought, that it freaks us out.

I have news for you. It’s the SECRET secret that: It’s not just what you think about that matters. But how you feel about what you think about that makes the real difference.

We have over 65,000 thoughts each day, most of which are happening too fast to even keep a track of.

The myth is that it’s your thoughts that make the difference. It’s not so much the thoughts you think, but the importance you give them that are the key.

What importance are you giving your thoughts?

How seriously are you taking your thoughts?

What thoughts are you identifying with and attaching yourself to?

The more seriously you take your thoughts, the more you identify with and as those thoughts, the more real they become. Then those thoughts become a reality for you and depending, can either limit you or free you.

What is your relationship with your thoughts?

If you fight your mind trying to force yourself to only think positive thoughts, you are likely to create more stress for yourself and block the natural flow.

So don’t mind your mind.

Simply observe it. If you can observe it. There is a space. And in that space is a freedom to choose your right action.

If you listen to everything your mind tells you, you will never reach your full potential. It will convince you of so many things that are not real, which if you believe, will rob you of your dreams.

Thoughts are generated from your conditioning and childhood programming, most of which we are not even aware of much of the time. We think we are free only to realize that many of the thoughts that might be playing in our minds are old stories and tapes from the past. The more you identify with these stories, the less freedom you have to truly act authentically in this moment, and as a result, recreate the past over and over again.

Thoughts like:

I am not enough.

I am going to screw up.

I am a failure.

I will never make it.

I don’t deserve it.

What’s wrong with me?

I am not worthy.

I am ugly.

I cannot do it.

What thoughts are you giving power to?

What thoughts are you making important and real?

The thoughts you think aren’t so much the issue. It is the importance you give them.

Thoughts come and go.

What you are is unchanging.

So know the SECRET secret: You are not the mind. You are not your thoughts. You are so much more. It’s not your thoughts that matter, but how you feel about them and the importance you give them.

Observe your thoughts without judgement.

Let them float by.

Like clouds in the sky.

Give it a try.

And you will see that you will fly.




  • Love it!  Needed to read this:)  Thank you Kute!!!

  • Susanstanley95

    Oh Thank you!

  • anon

    This is so amazing thanks Kute. You really express this so well. I wish people all over the earth could watch this one video. I think it would make the world a less judgmental and more mature, kinder place, where instead of being reactive and wars and violence being the best solution (or feel like it to those who experience the world this way) we would have far less panic, more peace, better relationships, more capacity to be honest and with that to bring problems to the surface to be truly healed and let go of instead of stuffing them down due to judgement and resistance. I aim to think this way and be mindful most of the time, but I have my moments… and though I am no master of it, I am glad to be reminded that this is an option. Some situations can get out of hand just due to a chain reaction of thoughts. This is especially true if you take drugs and get paranoid (not that I do but it seems like a clear example as it’s more extreme)… I think it’s time to start teaching this to kids around the time of their late teens when they have developed psychologically but before they are out in the world on their own. But that’s just my thoughts and I could be wrong. 😉

  • Wakeupsamba

    Thank you!!!

  • Liz

    Love you lots too … I followed your message, i have never heard put it this way, loud and clear, i will let off the guilt sometimes when a not so positive thought comes to mind.  Great message. thank you so much for this gift.

  • Lkbinkley42

    Thank you so much for this post.

  • Not Judging

    Thank you so much!!


    It is not our thoughts alone that create our perception, experience and reality butnour emotion. Itnis when we can form an alignment where the thought and the emotion are vibrating on the same level we co-create our world. Hence, the negative thought is just an indicator of what needs to be healed on an emotional level, sometimes just by shifting our thought to something more positive, but sometimes we need to focus on the emotion, feel it, accept it and release it first. Many seem to forget this process.

    • Sussie

      Thanks Kute, and Alexandra,
       I like what you have said, both of you, we have been bombard with ‘think positive thoughts and your world, your mind, will be a better place, YOU will be coming from a better place if you ONLY think positive thougth..etc, etc, “……yes sometimes we have to ignore our thoughts, as there are too many of them to control and it can become a bit of a kill joy, to try and monitor  and listne to ALL of them, etc, etc…but like Alexandra said, ‘sometimes’ we have to listen and look at our thoughts/emotions, feel them, act on them, (e.g; if some is crossing a boundry of ours) and also release them….don’t hold onto them…don’t be a hoarder of emotions….it will weigh you down….

  • Karen Marie

    Thank you Kute. I needed to hear that right at this moment. It has helped me take a breath from the despair that I am drowning in at the moment.

  • Incredible. Absolutely love this. Thank you.