The Secret To Manifesting That No One Talks About

chrisassaadThere’s a wealth of content out there on how to bring dreams to life and how to create a life you love. In all my searching, I’ve discovered that there’s a large degree of agreement around what it takes to bring a true heart’s desire to fruition.

In essence, the teachings and Uni-versal laws, although often described differently, agree that in order to manifest something, we have to:
1) Be very clear on what it is we’re creating.
2) Be a vibrational match for the thing we are calling in to attract it; and
3) Let go of our attachment to if and how “it” shows up to leave room for the Divine plan to unfold.

When it comes to this fun and sometimes drama-filled little game we humans play called “manifesting,” my favorite analogy is to picture ourselves as giant magnets. Looking at the above principles through this lens, the process of attracting what we want into our lives requires us to move through the following steps:

1) Decide what kind of magnet you want to be i.e. What are you creating, attracting, desiring? The clearer and more specific you are, the more powerful your magnet will be.

*This step seems relatively simple although with practice, we often discover that we can be even more precise in conceiving our vision than we thought.

2) Embody the energy of the thing or experience you are manifesting, i.e., cultivating the thoughts, beliefs, behaviors and being-ness of already having, being worthy of  and being one and the same as that which you are calling in.

**Most of us spend most of our time on this step, reading self-help books, attending personal growth workshops, seeing healers and therapists, all in order to remember our true worth and “become” a, b, c so we can have x, y & z. Eventually, we realize that we and the Source were one all along, that we were worthy all along and it was only our realization of these truths that was lacking.

3) Completely relinquish our attachment to any outcome, to our need for the wish to come to fruition and for our prayer to be answered.

***Once we have done our part in steps 1 and 2, the last thing to do is the most challenging and somewhat contradictory. The wisdom suggests that we have to actually to let go of our desired outcome, as well as any specific vision of how it will show up and be open to co-creation with the Uni-verse.

After much frustration, I recently discovered that this last step is where I was stuck and it was because I missed a very important nuance that has been a game changer.

Are you still with me?

Despite being very clear on what I wanted to attract in my life, despite being well-versed in the practice of really believing I was able to have it all and despite being less attached than I’ve ever been, things were still not really showing up in a way that felt like it was really happening for me.

And then I discovered a special little SECRET. One that I had probably heard before but never REALLY understood on a practical level. I finally got to the very core of what the third and final step was all about and I saw crystal clear what I had been missing.

S P A C E.

Yes, space.

The laws of physics state that two things cannot exist in the same space at the same time. And so it is with our ability to bring into our reality those things which we desire and wish to create.

It doesn’t matter how clear you are on what you want to manifest and how energetically aligned you are with it if you’re not creating any room for those things to show up in your life.

This is true whether we’re talking about relationships, things or experiences. You can’t have the relationship of your dreams while you’re still holding on to the one that isn’t really fulfilling you. You can’t have the career that will make your heart sing while still staying a slave to the one that makes you miserable. You can’t have the flow and experience of abundance in your life when you’re hoarding and holding on to everything you have for someday. You can’t have deep intimacy and connection while keeping  your truth hidden and in the way.

In the past month, I’ve been creating a lot of space in my life and the impact has been profound. I’ve given away tons of clothes, belongings and material things I was holding on to even though I wasn’t using them or planning to for the foreseeable future.  I sold my car. I majorly de-cluttered my living space. I’ve let go of some significant business ties that were no longer feeling like a good fit and I’ve cleared the space in my most important personal relationships by cleaning up old messes with love and truth.

What I’ve also realized is that when I was holding on to the old, there was a subtle underlying belief that there wasn’t more goodness to come and so to this extent, I was entirely embodying the belief that my prayers were being answered, I wasn’t fully trusting that I would be provided for and that falsehood was in the way as well.

In the space that this has created, things are moving toward me and flowing in with greater velocity than I can ever remember. The best part is that I’m not having to put out as much effort or struggle.

When we create space in our lives, we make way for the hands of the Divine to fill it with those things our hearts have long been asking for. (Tweet-worthy!) We become like wish-fishers standing still in the middle of the stream of life’s flow watching it all come towards us and choosing what we want to reach out and bring in to our experience.

So… you know what to do. Clear the way. Let go of the old. De-clutter your inner and outer spaces. Give up what you don’t want or don’t need. Remove anything that is blocking the flow materially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and energetically. And then be still and see what happens.

You are a powerful magnet. Are you making S P A C E for your heart’s dreams and wishes to manifest?

Much love,



Chris Assaad is a singer/songwriter and inspirational artist from Toronto who left a promising career in law several years ago to pursue his dream of a career in music. Since then, Chris has been actively using his voice to enCOURAGE others to follow their dreams, express their creativity and live life to the fullest.

Connect with Chris via www.chrisassaad.comTwitter and Facebook.

Chris is also a member of the TDL Mentoring team. To learn more about the TDL Mentoring Program click here.

  • Yasmin

    Yes. I also struggle with point no 3. Just letting go of the need to know, and to lose the outcome attachment is a real test. Those are my times of literally tapping my fingers on the desk, and in my head thinking… ‘I’m waiting’. I just try to be mindful that the universe has perfect timing in terms of its delivery, and always knows when, and how, and who. I just try to keep an open heart and mind, and try to understand the right time to sit back, and see what comes to me. If nothing does, then I accept that the timing isn’t yet right, or, MY desire, simply isn’t for my highest good.

    • Donna Patrick

      just what I needed to read.

    • Chris Assaad

      Beautiful Yasmin. Thanks for sharing your experience and wisdom. Much love 🙂

  • Talya Price

    This was a great read. I completely agree with you with your steps on how to manifest your dreams. Thank you for this.

    • Chris Assaad

      Thanks for reading Tayla! Much love 🙂

  • Marie Egles Carhart

    This “secret” really struck a chord with me. An “aha” moment, as Oprah would say! Hanging on to bad relationships blocks the way for better ones. Without realizing it, we hang onto them…I guess…in case something better doesn’t come along – (like a weird “better than nothing” back-up plan) which is not believing! When we truly believe there’s better meant for us, we’ll have no trouble letting go of that which no longer works for us.

    • Chris Assaad

      Exactly! “Better than nothing” back-up plan = fear and doubt. Well said Marie!

  • Robin

    Just reading the truth in this article has opened up a deep space in me. Thank you for sharing this freeing, empowering insight. Namaste.

    • Chris Assaad

      Glad to hear that Robin. Enjoy the space 🙂

  • Kim

    Thank you! This has given me a wonderful insight into the things I have been doing in my own life. Cleaning stuff out of every room in my house, questioning some of my friendships and realizing they don’t fit anymore, changing worn out habits that don’t serve me anymore, all the while knowing I needed to do this but unable to put the why into words. I am creating SPACE. How exciting to anticipate what will fill those old spaces.

    • Chris Assaad

      Amazing! That excitement is the feeling that signals the flow is in motion. Enjoy!

  • Karina Lopez

    Manifesting is a dance of creating, destroying and waiting. All are needed to bring what we most desire to the fore, and clearing away the old is just as important as creating something new. To quote Rumi, we’re clearing the space for new delights, which is definitely something worth waiting for. Thank you for the reminder.

    • Chris Assaad

      Yes! Thanks for your insightful contribution Karina!

  • Heya Chris!
    Long time!! 🙂 How are ya buddy?! Brilliant Brillian Article… Space… Love this. Create the space for is ALL to come flowing in…

    Hope your well! Love, Drew

    • Chris Assaad

      Hey Drew! Thanks for stopping by and reading. All is well with me brother! Hope you’re making your MOVE! Much love 🙂

      • SO glad to hear and see that all is well with you! Always making my MOVE each chance I get… Scary as it can be! 😉
        More Love right back atcha! D

  • Yasmin

    Donna, I just wanted to add that Im not saying I find it easy. I remember watching The Secret a few years back, and being absolutely convinced, that everything my heart desired was just going to come to me. Fast forward a little, and I now see that my understanding was a little too simplistic. Its possible that had I not decided I needed to ‘do’ something, and take action, my outcomes would have been very different in certain situations. That said, I do believe every request, heartfelt prayer is heard and listened to. I just think sometime the answer is Yes, sometimes No, and sometimes, Wait. I just try to enjoy the journey, and not concentrate too much on the destination. It is what it is.

  • David H. Breaux

    Space creates Grace

    With compassion,
    David H. Breaux

    • Chris Assaad

      Love it.

  • Laura

    as an over-analyzer and uber-planner, it was refreshing (and a little scary) to realize that I need to create SPACE. Thank you.

    • Chris Assaad

      I feel you Laura. I know it can be scary but it will be soooo worth it, I promise 🙂

  • Jessica Stone

    SUCH a great article, Chris! I have been feeling the need to simplify for a long time, while working on steps 1 & 2 your talk about. However, this article helps bring it full circle for me because I now see the connection and the huge importance. Thanks for sharing this!!

  • Charley Carroll

    Thank you Chris for a great perspective on manifestation. I’ve been noticing areas in my life where I’m not creating the space for what I desire. I see from your bio that you stepped away from a legal career in favor of a more creative pursuit. You seem to be quite a few steps ahead of me, but I’m in the transition phase of doing the same, as in, I’ve just found that inner courage which tells me its ok to have a law degree and not practice law. It’s part of my story, but not the main arc. I felt I didn’t know what I wanted career or pursuit wise for the longest time, when in fact, I’ve always known and been clouded by my own misperceptions, fears and self-judgments. Wishing you continued success in your journey, wherever you may be.

  • Yolanda M.W.

    Thanks Chris, this was very helpful to read-I so needed to hear this! I’m taking action and clearing the s p a c e

  • Sarah

    Just what I needed…thanks for giving me confirmation upon this very subject.

  • Thomas Daniels

    Great stuff, love your work,so please keep it up.