In the middle of the day I worked with elementary school students. We talked about how important it is for them to appreciate who they are and make themselves a priority.
At night, I worked with a group of preadolescent girls and we discussed their value and worth and why their most important job is self care.
In between each event I dropped my kids off or picked them up, I made meals, I helped with homework, I cleaned up.
At 9:30 p.m. I sat in front of my computer, ready to read email and “catch up” on everything I had missed, when my 9-year-old daughter came up behind me.
“Mom, I have something I have to show you.”
“Can it wait until morning?”
So I followed my daughter up the stairs and she walked me into my bedroom. She pointed to my bed and said, “Mom, this is your bed, it needs you.”
I began to laugh and recite all of all the things undone, and she said, “Just wash your face and I’ll get you a water.”
So I listened.
I got into bed, with things incomplete, but also surprised at how quickly it all seemed minor, how in reality, all of it could wait.
Then I hugged my daughter and said thank you, and she took her bear, turned off the light and put herself to bed.
Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW, CPC, is the author of The Self-Aware Parent, the host of Zen Parenting Radio, a columnist for Chicago Parent Magazine, and a blogger for Chicago Now. She’s a self-awareness teacher and yoga instructor in her community, and she teaches in the Sociology Department at Dominican University. Find Cathy on Facebook (The Self-Aware Parent or Zen Parenting Radio) and on Twitter (@selfawareparent or @zenparenting) and on her website www.cathycadams.com.