It’s a process.
I haven’t really hit the gym in about a month, since right before Christmas. But all that changes today; I’m back at it. I have been in Ojai writing a book and I had no idea how intense a process that would be.
So for my next book I will design more health and fitness into my schedule.
But the good news is, as I’ve recently blogged about, I have taken massive leaps forward towards getting all processed sugar, agave, coconut sugar, etc. out of my diet. This is a life-long addiction that I have struggled with. I’ve kicked cocaine, but for me, sugar is harder – because it’s acceptable.
When I was meeting the other week with my Chinese medicine doctor, she told me that no amount of exercise or diet will ever keep me at a healthy weight if I hate myself and my belly fat.
But there is one key component that will.
What is it?
I know, I didn’t want to hear it either. I was so tired of hearing that you have to “love yourself” to your ideal weight. It’s like one of those silly clichés that I’m sick of hearing, because I hear it ALL the time.
So on my way to an event that I was going to later that night, I thought about a friend of mine who I haven’t seen in a while. She lost A LOT of weight really quickly and got down to like 3-5% body fat. She was always my idol in this way.
Knowing what I know about this person, I’m pretty sure she didn’t love herself. So I decided that my Chinese doc was full of it and I didn’t want to pay attention to this cliché.
Well, when I arrived at the event I was going to, my friend was there. And – she had put on all the weight again. In fact, she had put on even MORE weight than when she was at her heaviest.
And it was almost like The Divine was saying to me, “You are right, she didn’t love herself and so she didn’t keep the weight off.”
And the words of my Chinese medicine doctor rang true – you can’t keep weight off “sustainably” without self-love.
And from that moment forward, I got it – time to LOVE the belly fat.
So, what to do? Well, every time I’m feeling like I’m “fat” or not loving that part of my body, I stop and send LOVE down there.
As I was doing this the other day, I had a flash back to when I was 5 or 6 and trying on some clothes I REALLY wanted to wear in a department store.
But – they didn’t fit. In fact, they didn’t have any clothes that fit me in the store.
I got SO angry. I was mad at myself. I didn’t understand why I was so weird, that I couldn’t be like everyone else.
And in that moment, my self-hate started. And it’s stayed with me ever since.
And now, 26 years later, I am face to face with it and trying my best – one day at a time – to Love myself and the parts of myself that I don’t.
What’s so cool is that when I do send Love down there, my anxiety chills. And those food cravings that I’m so used to chill, too. Why? I’m not totally sure, but it seems like that self-hate is stressful and that it has been fueling the cycle of overeating.
So, inject a little self-love – and that goes away. It’s a new practice, but something I am now looking forward to doing.
I’m EXCITED to see what doing this and keeping the sugar out will manifest in my life. It’s unknown territory that I am eager to explore.
Where can your life use a little self-love?
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