I’ll be blunt – I’m coming clean in today’s Daily Love TV. You’ll see what I mean in today’s episode.
And I hope it will help you create lasting transformation.
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Hey there. It’s Mastin Kipp, founder of TheDailyLove.com and I have an admission to make.
Since the beginning of Daily Love TV, I have been reading from a teleprompter because I really wanted to deliver the most amount of value in a short period of time, and it just didn’t feel right. So from this moment forward, all Daily Love TV’s are going to be me – live, unscripted, off the cuff giving you all the insights that I know, directly from my heart to yours. So I wanted to let you know that and get right in to today’s topic, which is this:
What is the process of lasting transformation?
I don’t know if you’re like me, but in my own life, you ever do this thing? You want to try something new. Maybe you want to go to the gym, maybe you want to start a yoga practice or start a business. It doesn’t really matter what you want to do, but there’s this new thing you want to do and you get so excited. And there’s all these studies that talk about “Oh, it’s 21 days for a habit or 28 days for a habit, to change a habit”. But, do you ever do this? Try something new, and you go and go and go, and then you hit a threshold where you think to yourself “This is too hard. I should quit. I’ve got to give up”.
This is something very important that I want to talk to you about. That threshold in your life is literally the difference between living your dreams and staying where you are. And it’s this threshold of being uncomfortable. Now, below this video is a link to an article that goes much deeper on this topic, but I want to break down these three processes to lasting transformation and it kind of comes in three phases. Three steps to really creating a new habit.
The first step is Excitement. Whenever there is something new it’s like “I want to be excited. I have this new idea, this new venture. I’m going to go to the gym”. Whatever it might be for you. There’s all this excitement and we imagine in our minds all the things that are going to happen, all the outcomes that’s going to be there and we get so excited. But then, what happens? We put it into practice and we start to do the hard work. And you’re at the gym, lifting those weights, running on the machine, maybe you started your business and it’s hard to put the website up, or the clients aren’t coming or you don’t really know what your product or service is – and we hit inevitable roadblocks. And that’s the phase of changing a habit or transformation that a lot of people don’t talk about. It’s the frustration. And what’s interesting is the three phases, the first phase is total excitement. The second phase is frustration. The third phase is that you’ve actually mastered it and it’s in your body. But there’s a huge gap between the excitement and mastering it over here. There’s that middle phase of all that frustration. So that’s what I want to talk to you about today. I want to talk to you about the frustration.
So, in my own life, one of the hardest things that I’ve had to constantly work on his physical health. Growing up I was always the fat kid. I’ve talked about this a few videos ago. I’ve always – I’ve had a problem with emotional eating and for me, my health and fitness has been just not ideal, pretty much my entire life. And as I’ve started this Daily Love process and gone further and further and further down the road of The Daily Love, you know I have an incredible relationship, we are doing very well financially, we’re serving lots of people, really having an impact. But my body has been something that’s really, for me, still sort of like the last bastion of transformation.
So the last year or so, I’ve really been interested in how to really physically transform. And, what’s interesting, is I haven’t applied that same concept or philosophy to my body that I did to The Daily Love and other areas of my life because I can tell you, making The Daily Love happen – it’s been years and years and years of working on it. There have been times where I’ve wanted to quit. There have been times when I want to give up. There have been times where I feel all is lost, or I don’t feel important, or I just feel like it’s a waste of time. But what I did, in those moments, is I kept going. And I started to realize – You know what? I actually already have the muscle already to keep going in one area of my life, but not in the other area of my life. I don’t have it in the physical body sense. So what I’ve been doing over the last year or so is realizing I need to apply that same Daily Love muscle of every day showing up to my body. And so, I’ve been doing that, but what’s interesting is that I’ve found, because of my travel schedule and because of everything I had scheduled well in advance – cause I had scheduled 6, 9, sometimes 12 months in advance cause you have so much stuff going on – that my schedule wasn’t allowing me to go deep into my body as I wanted to do. So I actually made a commitment to myself, starting in 2014, one of the top priorities is working on my physical body. And so for me, what that means is, I had to cut back on travel. I had to start saying no to people that wanted to maybe hang out or do meetings in person. I had to start doing more stuff on phone calls. Really actually creating time for exercise. And I can tell you, when I first started to do this it was so exciting. I was in that excitement phase. But eventually, you get to this place where I was exercising and I just want to stop. And this time what I did was, I kept going just a little bit further than I normally would have. And all of a sudden I started to see this massive breakthroughs in my life. I started to get shoulder striations, I started to see muscles popping out, triceps popping out, and what was most exciting is I started to step into this phase of ‘exercise is who I am’. So before I started this phase, exercise seemed like something I had to force myself to do. But now that I’m starting, slowly starting, to come out of that frustration phase into the ‘this is who I am’ phase, my body demands that I work out. I was recently in Europe for a couple of weeks, and I actually couldn’t work out as much as I wanted to, and I physically felt it in my body so much so that when I got off the flight back from Paris to Los Angeles – I got off the flight, the first thing I did was I went to the gym and I’ve exercised every day since. It’s been seven days in a row and my body craves it more than anything else.
So here’s my question for you. Is there a new habit in your life that you really want to cultivate? That you want to bring forward? Maybe it’s a writing habit, or an exercise habit, or maybe you want to stop smoking or stop eating sugar. Whatever it is for you. Is there a habit in your life that you really want to cultivate? So, what do you do in the frustration zone? Because really, how we handle the frustration zone determines the quality of our life (Tweet-worthy!) because once you’ve got a habit down, it’s who you are, that’s easy. But that frustration zone is really where we want to live.
So in the comments below, I want you to leave two comments. The first is what did you used to do when you get frustrated? What did you used to do? Maybe you quit, gave up, made up some excuse that this isn’t for someone like you. And the second part is, what’re you going to do now? Knowing now that how you deal with frustration is how you deal with life, what is the new habit going to be for you in that realm of frustration? How are you going to handle it?
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