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I’m coming clean…

I’ll be blunt – I’m coming clean in today’s Daily Love TV. You’ll see what I mean in today’s episode.

I feel so much better getting this off my chest.

And I hope it will help you create lasting transformation.

Remember, how we handle the frustration zone determines the quality of our life. (Tweet-worthy!)

As always, the action happens in the comments below, leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Oh, here’s the link to the article I mentioned in the video.

Love,

Mastin

[Begin Transcript]

Hey there. It’s Mastin Kipp, founder of TheDailyLove.com and I have an admission to make.

Since the beginning of Daily Love TV, I have been reading from a teleprompter because I really wanted to deliver the most amount of value in a short period of time, and it just didn’t feel right. So from this moment forward, all Daily Love TV’s are going to be me – live, unscripted, off the cuff giving you all the insights that I know, directly from my heart to yours. So I wanted to let you know that and get right in to today’s topic, which is this:

What is the process of lasting transformation?

I don’t know if you’re like me, but in my own life, you ever do this thing? You want to try something new. Maybe you want to go to the gym, maybe you want to start a yoga practice or start a business. It doesn’t really matter what you want to do, but there’s this new thing you want to do and you get so excited. And there’s all these studies that talk about “Oh, it’s 21 days for a habit or 28 days for a habit, to change a habit”. But, do you ever do this? Try something new, and you go and go and go, and then you hit a threshold where you think to yourself “This is too hard. I should quit. I’ve got to give up”.

This is something very important that I want to talk to you about. That threshold in your life is literally the difference between living your dreams and staying where you are. And it’s this threshold of being uncomfortable. Now, below this video is a link to an article that goes much deeper on this topic, but I want to break down these three processes to lasting transformation and it kind of comes in three phases. Three steps to really creating a new habit.

The first step is Excitement.  Whenever there is something new it’s like “I want to be excited. I have this new idea, this new venture. I’m going to go to the gym”. Whatever it might be for you.  There’s all this excitement and we imagine in our minds all the things that are going to happen, all the outcomes that’s going to be there and we get so excited. But then, what happens? We put it into practice and we start to do the hard work. And you’re at the gym, lifting those weights, running on the machine, maybe you started your business and it’s hard to put the website up, or the clients aren’t coming or you don’t really know what your product or service is – and we hit inevitable roadblocks. And that’s the phase of changing a habit or transformation that a lot of people don’t talk about. It’s the frustration. And what’s interesting is the three phases, the first phase is total excitement.  The second phase is frustration.  The third phase is that you’ve actually mastered it and it’s in your body. But there’s a huge gap between the excitement and mastering it over here. There’s that middle phase of all that frustration. So that’s what I want to talk to you about today. I want to talk to you about the frustration.

So, in my own life, one of the hardest things that I’ve had to constantly work on his physical health. Growing up I was always the fat kid. I’ve talked about this a few videos ago. I’ve always – I’ve had a problem with emotional eating and for me, my health and fitness has been just not ideal, pretty much my entire life. And as I’ve started this Daily Love process and gone further and further and further down the road of The Daily Love, you know I have an incredible relationship, we are doing very well financially, we’re serving lots of people, really having an impact. But my body has been something that’s really, for me, still sort of like the last bastion of transformation.

So the last year or so, I’ve really been interested in how to really physically transform.  And, what’s interesting, is I haven’t applied that same concept or philosophy to my body that I did to The Daily Love and other areas of my life because I can tell you, making The Daily Love happen – it’s been years and years and years of working on it. There have been times where I’ve wanted to quit. There have been times when I want to give up. There have been times where I feel all is lost, or I don’t feel important, or I just feel like it’s a waste of time. But what I did, in those moments, is I kept going. And I started to realize – You know what? I actually already have the muscle already to keep going in one area of my life, but not in the other area of my life. I don’t have it in the physical body sense. So what I’ve been doing over the last year or so is realizing I need to apply that same Daily Love muscle of every day showing up to my body.  And so, I’ve been doing that, but what’s interesting is that I’ve found, because of my travel schedule and because of everything I had scheduled well in advance – cause I had scheduled 6, 9, sometimes 12 months in advance cause you have so much stuff going on – that my schedule wasn’t allowing me to go deep into my body as I wanted to do. So I actually made a commitment to myself, starting in 2014, one of the top priorities is working on my physical body. And so for me, what that means is, I had to cut back on travel. I had to start saying no to people that wanted to maybe hang out or do meetings in person. I had to start doing more stuff on phone calls.  Really actually creating time for exercise. And I can tell you, when I first started to do this it was so exciting. I was in that excitement phase. But eventually, you get to this place where I was exercising and I just want to stop. And this time what I did was, I kept going just a little bit further than I normally would have. And all of a sudden I started to see this massive breakthroughs in my life. I started to get shoulder striations, I started to see muscles popping out, triceps popping out, and what was most exciting is I started to step into this phase of ‘exercise is who I am’. So before I started this phase, exercise seemed like something I had to force myself to do. But now that I’m starting, slowly starting, to come out of that frustration phase into the ‘this is who I am’ phase, my body demands that I work out.  I was recently in Europe for a couple of weeks, and I actually couldn’t work out as much as I wanted to, and I physically felt it in my body so much so that when I got off the flight back from Paris to Los Angeles – I got off the flight, the first thing I did was I went to the gym and I’ve exercised every day since. It’s been seven days in a row and my body craves it more than anything else.

So here’s my question for you. Is there a new habit in your life that you really want to cultivate? That you want to bring forward? Maybe it’s a writing habit, or an exercise habit, or maybe you want to stop smoking or stop eating sugar. Whatever it is for you. Is there a habit in your life that you really want to cultivate? So, what do you do in the frustration zone? Because really, how we handle the frustration zone determines the quality of our life (Tweet-worthy!) because once you’ve got a habit down, it’s who you are, that’s easy. But that frustration zone is really where we want to live.

So in the comments below, I want you to leave two comments. The first is what did you used to do when you get frustrated? What did you used to do? Maybe you quit, gave up, made up some excuse that this isn’t for someone like you. And the second part is, what’re you going to do now? Knowing now that how you deal with frustration is how you deal with life, what is the new habit going to be for you in that realm of frustration? How are you going to handle it?

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  • http://toddlohenry.com/ Todd Lohenry

    Nice format for you…

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for the feedback Todd :) -TDL Team

  • Maya-Lin Green

    What do I do when I’m frustrated? I quit! Work decisions and potential career paths suddenly go from a very enthusiastic yes to a “eh Im just going to do something else now”. I think my frustration gets cloaked as indifference. All the sudden I just stop caring. Id like to cultivate my writing and career. Now, because I know I have so much resistance I don’t just jump when I have the thought to quit. I sleep on it. Meditate. Seek council. Give myself some time to really consider how Im feeling and whether or stopping or not showing up is serving my greater purpose. Most of the time, it isnt

    • Melanie Santorini

      I found today’s film sooo helpful. I’m doing B-school and trying to set up a website and finding it very difficult and FRUSTRATING because I’m a bit of an IT dinosaur – well out of my comfort zone; but so many of the good good things I want to share need my website in order to get out there. Inspired by Mastin and my fellow Daily Lovers, I’m not going to give up. I’m going to break it down into bite sized chunks, take a break and have some lunch, and then make progress one step at a time. This frustrated knot in my tummy needs to relax because i CAN do this. Believing in you all…

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us Maya-Lin! -TDL Team

  • Suzy G A

    I really felt like I got the real Mastin through this video! Thank you for changing from reading the teleprompter to speaking from your heart.

    • The Daily Love

      That’s what we’re after! Thanks for your feedback! -TDL Team

  • xandy

    i used to intellectualize what i thought was going on and then solve it intellectually, in my head. NOW i practice. i practice consistency of character by taking action. i go for progress not perfection. i practice hope by being willing to tolerate disappointment, with hard work towards a known goal, by being persistent and tenacious.

    essentially, i have gone from being in my head to putting new ideas into my life with actions and behaviors.

    i do have to say, however, that without my long-ish amount of time being in my head and figuring out the how and why of things for me , i wouldn’t be experiencing my current high levels of success with the implementation. there’s a balance in there that i am learning that is nurturing me.

    thanks for sharing yourself Mastin.

    • Emily Haines

      Thanks so much for sharing! Action over perfection is a powerful direction.

    • RevBabs

      Gorgeous thank you. I join you in thanking my intellect for years of service and now choosing action in character.

    • jenn

      wowed by your eloquence! what steps did you take to get out of your head?

      • xandy

        thank you jenn for your very nice compliment :) first I spent about a year internalizing, reading, meditating, working out, seeing a great therapist, going through brene brown’s gifts of imperfection, losing an insane amount of money and then creating an entirely new network of friends and lifestyle. so there’s that ;)

        and then i looked in the mirror and got honest with myself in answering my question of why i couldn’t find meaningful work. i listened to my “reasons,” and understood and forgave myself. then i picked my butt up off the floor and gave myself a swift reality kick to MOVE and to take action and not use anything as an excuse or reason again.

        it is still SO easy to fall back into the familiarity of inaction. that is when i use words like consistency, character, progress (not perfection) and “I’m imperfect and I’m enough” to be able to start exactly where I am, and to keep going once I’ve finally started with that first, hardest step.

        now i get to use all of that study, research and network of friends to keep catapulting myself forward if i get stuck. blocking time for precise activities and being accountable to new clients and myself and all of my “sanity” practices help keep me motivated.

        • GoofyBrit

          interesting. Xandy, any guidance to a fellow “head intellectual” that is moving to a new country, thus devoid of the stability of trusted friends?

          • xandy

            hi goofybrit – i’m honored you would ask. i hope you speak the same lingua, first, only because language barriers can be really tough.

            when i first moved to the front range of colorado i did not know a single soul, except my fiancé. not a one. i was on a mission to change every single thing in my life. i tried the ‘tricks’ i’d heard, hang out in places where you share passions with people (designer network events, the gym). dud. or places where you want to work (business forums). another dud.

            i did not start to truly connect with people and create new relationships until i found other like-minded souls who desired the same thing i did… people who wanted to live and come from genuine, authentic ways of being in this world. i had to find those people before my life here felt anywhere near fulfilling. One lucky happenstance was an art journaling online course (brene brown) that i took with mutual acquaintances who became the closest friends I have, the other was an alanon/coda group. in both instances, i had to step into uncertainty and be real and share my feelings before the connections started happening. one year later, i have three people whom i trust implicitly and happen to have a lot of fun with!

            i know you can do this — good luck and abundance coming your way!

          • GoofyBrit

            thanks so soooo much for your considered response Xandy. I was thinking along the same lines, but I’m now utterly motivated to search out likeminded, spiritual souls. I’m so very grateful. Feel good for that.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing! We love that you go for progress, not perfection! Keep it upi :) -TDL Team

  • Jen Stone Astrology

    I have a solution to this issue, and thanks to insights from B-School, will put together answers and make them available. I am writing:
    A When-To Guide to the Universe.

    This doesn’t require doing things in a different way – only at a different time.
    
Pushing requires effort, and results are not consistent. Doing things at a
    different time requires only patience and being informed.
    
When we synchronize with the Universe, the cosmic energy is available for personal benefit, and we only need to orchestrate our intentions with the collective timing.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for reading and sharing your insights with us! Much love! -TDL Team

  • Emily Haines

    This video hit particularly close to home. When I’m in the Frustration phase, I not only quit – I rationalize why it was okay to give up. “I’ll never reach my goal.”; “It’s not the right time.”; “Look at all these obstacles.”

    Moving forward I want to first – be clear on what my goal is. I think fuzzy goals are a big problem for me, because it’s hard to know what progress and forward movement really look like. And then, I need to be open and honest about the struggle. Keeping the “failure” secret, turns it shameful.

    Blessings for sharing this message, Mastin and from speaking from your heart. It allows others to do the same. Sat nam.

    • xandy

      and shame loves privacy… share it and release it as it no longer has the same power. thanks emily!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Emily! We’re glad you’re part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • Robyn

    LOVE the new format! I felt your truth and honesty shining through :) What do I do when I get frustrated? I used to throw myself a pity party. The little voice in my head said to just give up because success is just not for you. Now when I becoming frustrated and feel like I have hit a wall I just watch my favorite video of yours- “When you don’t know what to do, do this!” Every time I watch it I am refreshed and inspired to keep going! Since becoming a B-School student, my new response to frustration is “Everything is Figure-outable”! You and Marie ROCK!! I have never had so much strength to keep pushing through when the going gets tough. Thank you for all you guys do!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Robyn! And thanks for being a part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • Possum

    I used to become angry, frustrated and upset then walk away and temporarily give up. Now, I will try working on being calm, positive, loving, patient and productive.

    • The Daily Love

      Calm, positive, loving, patient, productive…those all feel really nice! Way to go!! -TDL Team

  • Kim Stein

    This was so timely Mastin. Having started out this year with new weight loss and fitness goals, I have been pretty consistent and have lost 15 pounds, while keeping up an intense workout regimin (plus working full time and grad school). But I am realizing that I am hitting a plateau.

    So many times before I would get frustrated and take it out on a pizza and a few coronas, but not this time. If my body needs a few weeks to adjust to my 15 pound loss, I can be patient enough with myself to hang in there – but I can’t stop. I have to trust the process, examine my efforts, tweak things if need be and keep progressing. Thank you for sharing this timely message for those of us sitting right in that frustration zone and reminding us that there is transformation on the other side.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your journey with us Kim!! Transformation is always on the other side of frustration :) -TDL Team

  • wdean

    Today’s message was YOU sharing out loud MY lifelong message, Mastin ~ bachelor’s, master’s, Nat. Board Certified physical educator, and I don’t listen to myself as much as I expect my students to listen to me, this is my NOW journey I am taking for me. Thank you for this morning message!

    • The Daily Love

      That’s great!! Thank you for watching and sharing! -TDL Team

  • Amber

    Hi Mastin! It’s Amber and baby Charlotte! We watch your Daily Love tv every Wednesday during breakfast. :)

    This is so timely for me, because I have a lot of uncertainty in my life right now but your words made me realize that I do stick with some things. Now I need to apply that stick-with-it-ness in other areas as well. Thank you for helping me see that I am stronger than I give myself credit for!

    Much love!!!

  • http://www.iLOVEliberation.com/ Drew Parales

    Hey M!
    AWESOME episode today! Way to go…. Loved that you dumped the teleprompter! ;) We can finally see and feel a natural and conversational YOU! Just great!
    Now– on to it: This is an important topic for me personally today in that I AM RIGHT THERE as well! But oddly on opposite sides. Years ago I learned how to master the physical part of my life, dropped weight, got healthy, have kept the weight off. Like you said its now part of who I am. On the other side, this brand new part of my life, having broken into the world of my coaching practice, I am living the excitement and the new training of my brain of accepting this is my place. My practice is a slow a steady pace, but actually I like this because I do have a full time job on top of this. So I write, I coach, I work with people, advise on fitness, and teach my meditation/breathwork class. I remember just a few weeks ago, I was on a walk before the class, and I seriously just wanted to stop doing it. (The Class) Not enough students coming, etc. I thought I should just give this whole THING up, my practice in general. I had to muster up ALL the strength and courage I had to break through the cycle of thoughts I had to want to just stop, and literally.. keep going. No matter the outcome.

    I did and the rewards arent money and thousands of students and clients, but more of a “right fit”…. More of a mastery like you say. And each time that I break through that seal, more and more muscles memory comes into play. And little by little word gets out and I get to share more.

    I find that when I can’t teach or mentor due my schedule, like working out my body and spirit crave it! It’s weird…. But that is how I know I was meant to provide and give what I have and share my experiences to the community and the world.

    I am also in “step 2″, as I fight with finding time to promote and market. Like my workout schedule, I need to carve out that time and dedicate that time only, say no and give my practice the attention it needs to thrive EVEN MORE!

    Thanks so much M, for this great kick in the butt! So needed… Keep rocking the new “teleprompter free” eppys!! :)

    Love ya Buddy!
    Drew
    xo

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for the awesome feedback Drew! And thank you for sharing your insights and experience with us! Much love :) -TDL Team

  • http://www.ignitingthefirewithin.com Lou-anne Stefankiw

    Wow, I sure feel like you are speaking right to me today!
    1. I used to….get 75% of the way in all my training ventures. A perfect example of this, is I trained for a half marathon, twice. Each time I would get to 75%, and I would quite. This was a representation of many different activities in my life, and where I am now in growing.
    2. New Habit….Last year, I sustained a concussion in the last workout of the Crossfit open. I hit my head on a bar above my head, I just wasn’t paying attention to. Prior to this, i had gotten myself into the best shape of my life. I felt great mentally and physically, losing 30lbs and gaining lots of nice muscle definition (again about 75% there). I truly believe it helped heal from an awful divorce and thought that I was fit for good this time. I had committed 110% to my physical health (as that had not always been the case). However, post concussion after about four months of not healing as quickly as I thought, and going on sick leave from my job, I threw in the towel on my physical health and gained all the weight back. I still am not able to workout. I got into the self-mastery phase and was thrown back to the frustration zone. Today, I realized that if I am going to work on my physical body, I will work on what I can and master it. I do believe that the universe is self-healing and correcting (a little Maryanne Williamson). I am sure this non-physical time is to have me working on my thoughts about myself and the foods I choose to fuel my body with, so that I can get to self mastery on it.
    Thank-you so very much for your openness. I really like the new non-scripted format, as it feels even more like I’m just having a conversation with you…very cool!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us–you’ve got it Lou-anne! -TDL Team

  • Gayla D’Gaia

    I’m dealing with daily let downs in my partnership. It’s creating a lot of work for me to make things stable enough to move my own work and choices forward. This relationship comes with him still spending time working with his ex girlfriend by phone and email on things related to her inability to take care of her own life. She’s always calling or messaging him. I have been made to be the bad cop because I don’t want her in this relationship. I’ve started a 90 day Jump journey. I want to be able to love myself into what is next for me. I feel bad for her and I think she is capable of researching her own supporting mentors and letting go. He doesn’t seem prepared to see the impact of this on me. I feel he is so much work for me, my life is not directed as I would like.

    • The Daily Love

      Keep your head up Gayla!! We’re rooting for you! Thanks for sharing your experience with us! -TDL Team

  • paul frank

    I really never believed in Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster called Dr ADUWAWA via aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com.
    The woman i wanted to marry left me 3 months to our weeding ceremony and my life was upside down,she was with me for 5years and i really love her so much she left me for another man with no reasons,when i called her she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell to bring her back.At first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In less than 45 hours she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can ever come back to me again but now i am happy she’s back and we are married now and we live as a happy family..Am posting this because i believe there are many people out there who might need his help here is his contact email: aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com……,

    • Jux

      Hi Paul. Is this for real? A spell for bringing an ex back? Really? I have tried everything else so why not a spell? I too feel sceptical though.

      • paul frank

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        if you have any problem i will advice you contact him and he will be of help to you,…………….. here is his email aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo

      • paul frank

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  • Wendi

    Today’s message has once again been,right message, right day. I’ve always felt your TDLtv clips to be real and natural, but today was definitely a little closer. Thank you. Your work is a huge blessing in my life. GRATEFUL!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Wendi! We’re grateful you’re a part of the TDL community!! -TDL Team

  • Porky

    I find I have no problem with short-term goals. If I have a clear task to do in a month or a week or a day, voila’! Done! Generally those short-term tasks are something I would do for someone else. What I’d like to learn is how to sustain myself long enough to do something for me. I’m getting better after about six years of practice, but I’m right at that frustration level of giving up.
    Guess I’m about to learn something important, right? :)

    • The Daily Love

      You’ve got the right attitude Porky!! Stick with it–a breakthrough is likely around the corner :) -TDL Team

  • http://www.YesYesMarsha.com/ Marsha from YesYesMarsha.com

    Love the unprompted vids! Loved them before, but Casual Buddy Mastin is even more awesome than Polished Teleprompter Mastin!

    Great words of wisdom too. Going to push through on the exercise this week!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for your feedback Marsha! -TDL Team

  • Carlina

    I’ve loved all the daily love tv episodes, but I have to say, this was the best. It felt real and authentic, thank you for putting yourself out there as such a great example. Loved the message, I’m struggling in all areas right now, financial, relationship, and weight…I feel it’s all coming from not loving myself, I’m working on it everyday, but feel myself keeping myself small. I have faith that as long as I keep wanting to move forward, one day it will click. Thank you for the daily love, it was something I found when I really needed help and it continues to be there for me everyday!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Carlina! Keep the faith :) -TDL Team

  • Tati

    Frustration with candida diet, exercise and confidence to get clients and study harder for my INN course.
    I would just normally give up.
    I will go further and pish throught it!!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your commitment with us Tati!! You can do it :) -TDL Team

  • Victoria W

    Mastin I LOVED your message today. I felt so much more connected to you as a person rather than this great spiritual giant who doesn’t seem reachable or relatable. I also felt like your message was much more attainable today. I of course have loved all your previous videos but they were so perfect and laid out that I didn’t feel like I could really do what you were saying. But I feel much more hopeful today.

    I used to just quit when I got frustrated or make an excuse and say that this wasn’t for me. There’s so many things I want to do with my life and so many things I want to do to become the person I want to be. I’m currently going through treatment for an eating disorder and I’m just getting frustrated and want to quit. I’m not showing up to groups and thinking of any and every excuse of why I can’t go or what’s more important. The phases that you described 1. excitement 2. frustration 3. becomes who you are is EXACTLY what I’m going through. I was SO excited to start at first and now I’m in that frustrated plateau phase where I just want to say good enough. It’s great to feel affirmed and have something confirm me and give me strength to keep walking through.

    Thanks again.

    • Vanessa Waters

      Go for it Victoria! You can do it! I posted my struggles with weight above and I hope it can help in some way but I am extremely wordy so to resume I just want to tell you be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and keep going :)

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your feedback Victoria! Also, thanks for sharing your experience with us–you’ve got it girl! -TDL Team

  • Kelly

    Thanks so much for that message; it’s exactly what I needed to hear today.

    • The Daily Love

      We’re glad :) Thanks for being a part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • maddieboho

    Woah Mastin! This video is GREAT! The content – very helpful. My new habit – working on my acting craft and carving out more moments to make it happen.

    You seem so comfortable just talking on camera (without a prompt). It’s exciting, interesting and extremely personal. I even love the white background! You have such a great personality that people can connect to. I love that you’re making shifts in The Daily Love TV so that you can connect even better.

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Maddie! And thanks for sharing your commitment with us! -TDL Team

  • Laura DiMinno

    I find that when I “push” through something, it feels more stressful, whether it be a tedious task (left-brain) or a creative task (right brain). So I stop. Recognize that fear is driving me. Return to Love and ALLOW what I have committed to to flow through me. That practice in and of itself helps dissolve resistance and opens the gateway to change. I don’t like feeling frustrated, and I’m grateful when it shows up – it reminds me to breathe, change my story and understand that I’m on the verge of a breakthrough – and I LOVE breakthroughs!

    • The Daily Love

      Breakthroughs are fantastic!! Thanks for sharing your processes with us! -TDL Team

  • http://www.barefootambition.co.uk/ Bernie

    hi Mastin
    I was smiling the whole way through your post because of what I just wrote about the other day . In my case I need to apply the same muscle that I know I have during my running or boot camp experiences to my Coaching practice and new projects but was struck whilst doing Bootcamp last week how the process is the same for anything that we find too hard. For those that want to find out more here’s the link. http://www.barefootambition.co.uk/blog/

    I definitely used to quit, all the time or let fear stop me but working on riding the waves these days and that’s a lot more exciting. thank you for sharing this today. Bernie x

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Bernie! Much love :) -TDL Team

  • Cyn

    Like another DLr I used to intellectualize and then turn my focus on something else perhaps hoping I would find motivation to try again later. I lacked consistency. What I would do differently: drop the perfectionism and take one step, one action towards my goal. These baby steps will add up and create consistency.

    Thank you Mastin for this post. I was the opposite…great at fitness and reaching physical goals but terrible at pursuing my dreams. The examples you use are spot on!

    • The Daily Love

      Action > Perfection! That’s a great commitment Cyn! Thanks for sharing with us! -TDL Team

  • Cyndi

    Good message…I needed encouragement today…and this was what I got from your message…I often get stuck, and give up, I’m sure way too soon… I’m committing today to push past the feeling of giving up, to push on to reach my goal… Thanks Mastin…

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your commitment with us Cyndi!! -TDL Team

  • Ann

    Thanks for this today! Yes, I definitely would quit and say this must be for someone else. I’m too sensitive ! I have the physical fitness part down but working with my clients can sometimes be challenging atthis point in my business. I actually felt a shift in how I can approach my obstacles! PS You’re lucky to have a a teleprompter! But it’s definitely different when you don’t. Funny I was thinking of using a teleprompter for my videoes…..have a great day!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Ann! We love it when ‘shift’ happens!! -TDL Team

  • Debra

    I used to shut down when I got into communication I didn’t like, wasn’t sure how to handle or perceived the other person as being mean / uncaring. I did that to avoid blasting back with fire that would injure the other person. Now, I’m going to say “I’m really committed to transforming my life, and my communication with others, and you cannot speak to me that way! I really care about you (or this situation) and ….. :) If I don’t presence myself with constructive words (even if I get it wrong at first and have to do it over), I won’t be taking consistent action and I can expect the same (unfulfilling) outcome.

    • The Daily Love

      Great insights Debra! Thanks for sharing them with us! -TDL Team

  • Kat

    Mastin!!! LOVE you without a teleprompter. Way to keep it real my friend! Today’s episode was fantastic, really got me thinking about my business and how hard it is. Perhaps I have been permanently in the frustration phase? If so, what does this mean? I’ve got to mull this over. Thank you Mastin!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Kat! You’ve got it girl! -TDL Team

  • Jo

    No autocue makes all the difference! You are way more natural now. Thumbs up!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for your feedback Jo! -TDL Team

  • http://CommonSenseLiving.com/ Carole

    I hit the frustration point often. I’ll get to a certain point and break down. Then I procrastinate. But I always come back if its something I really want to do.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience Carole!

  • Michelle Pozon

    Hi Mastin, Bonjour from Paris! I must say that before I even heard what you were going to speak about, my first thought was “wow, he’s trimmed down since he was here…” Awesome, your 7 days of hitting the gym shows – Bravo!!!

    For myself, my life has blossomed since meeting you here in Paris. When I hit frustration in the past, I would go shopping. Now, when I hit frustration, I chant

    Ong Namo
    Guru Dev Namo….

    This quiets my mind, lifts my spirits, and somehow gets me in line to take action toward my desires instead of worrying about why I’m stuck. I chant this on my bike, I chant this as I tidy up my home, I chant this all the time, and it makes me so happy. My energy has shifted and things are happening. I am in action, building my website, building my blog, forging relationships and collaborations. I am no longer afraid to ask for collaborations with mentors, peers and friends….

    So many great things have happened since you were here. We have created a meet up group here in Paris – our “tribe”, so to speak. We are thinking of ways to collaborate to make Paris a happier, healthier place and we are all so lit up about it.

    As I told you at the end of the night, I would not be here if it weren’t for TDL and your generous wisdom.

    Merci beaucoup and please come back ox Michelle

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your journey and experience with us Michelle! We love you and are so glad you’re a part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • Sandra Connelly

    When I would get fustrated in a new habit forming phase, I would keeping moving forward. BUT I would get angry and vengeful in a passive aggressive manner and would end up self inflicting emotional pain creating a very bad coping mechanism circle that was self defeating.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us! -TDL Team

  • Sandra Connelly

    Today, when reaching frustration moments, I realize it is just a moment and seek help rather then internalizing frustrations. Today, I have learned it is ok to not control everything and I can take a break. Life is not going to end and the world will still continue to turn even if I stop what I am doing for just a moment to refocus my strengths and energies for positive outcomes that I can control.

    • The Daily Love

      You’re absolutely right Sandra! Sometimes we all take ourselves a little too seriously ;) We love you! -TDL Team

  • Jessica Burks

    Keep Going. Those are the exact words I needed to hear today. I am in the frustration zone, and in this zone I find myself questioning what I am trying to do on my new adventure as an entrepreneur. Thank you for this message today!!! It is EXACTLY what I needed. YAY :)

  • Cammie Clinton

    Today’s video was quite juicy! In the past, when I hit that wall where it felt too much to continue forward, I would look for agreement in my friends or in commentary outside of myself, to validate my desire to quit. As soon as I would find validation to quit, I was done! Which was really powerful because I had support in quitting. Recently I’ve committed to moving my body everyday for at least 30 minutes. My knees often hurt during and after my workouts. When my trainer asks would I like to take it easy or skip the activity that is causing the discomfort and I always say no. It’s uncomfortable and some times painful but tender knees come with taking care of myself right now, I embrace it. It’s been more than a month now and I am stronger, even my knees. I’ve learned to work with the discomfort in my life.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience Cammie! Way to go on your 30 minutes of movement a day! -TDL Team

  • Allison

    First few seconds of this video were funnnnyyyyyyyyyy! lol. I love your sense of humor.

    • The Daily Love

      Haha thanks for your feedback Allison! -TDL Team

  • Chere Harbridge

    I needed this today! I have always given up at the point of frustration – but I am trying hard nowadays to keep going – in babysteps – thanks for sharing!

    • The Daily Love

      You’ve got it Chere!! Thank you for reading, watching, & sharing! -TDL Team

  • Vanessa Waters

    First of all I should say that you really rocked it I don’t think you needed the teleprompter at all!

    I would get stuck and feel small and then beat myself up with “you’re a loser, what did you think would happen, of course you can’t do it” and make excuses like what was wrong with me thinking that I could fit exercise into my schedule blah blah blah and up wandering between the TV, my room and the kitchen and never change.

    Now I go for a walk, TRY MAINLY NOT to beat myself and change my self talk and if I do have a “bad” day or week or two I slowly get back on track by being kind to myself or remembering what I am grateful for. I also have heart post-its in the house a little bit everywhere that simply state: RUNNING = SANITY

    I have the same issues with my body and everytime I would try to lose weight I would get extreme anxiety. Two years ago I started weight watchers and I thought to myself okay whatever you do just surrender. Do the plan according to what they say and don’t lie to yourself. Trust the process you could either keep going gaining 3-5 lbs a year and end up at 300lbs at 65 yrs old or you could either maintain or lose every year.

    I have lost 40lbs and still counting it is slow but consistent and maintained. In every case though I have to say the desire to change was strong enough for me to keep going. I would still get stuck. Last year my son was arrested and I was a disaster and got off track somewhat because my anxiety hit an all time high. But not having a super alkaline diet was hurting me more and making me feel worse so I went back to it and started running to relieve my anxiety and I lost 8 lbs that month!

    Funny how when you remain consistent you get results that was the main difference of me getting healthy. Strangely for me that is what spurred on the rest like joining bschool through your affiliate link :) I realized that I need to live a healthy life all around. I am so grateful for you and I think you are psychic man because I needed to hear this about bschool today

    Something else came to me the other day that I want to share. I am working on a self confidence workshop for teen girls and being on your b schooler’s private fb page I was thinking: “I love this page so much I feel so safe here” and in my healing music has been a big key.

    I know you love music so I thought I would share this lyric in Jewel’s song Innocence maintained that went through my head while there; “It’s time we made a place where people’s soul’s may be seen and made safe” You give us that and I thank you again :)

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback and for sharing your journey with us! We’re so grateful that you’re a part of the TDL community Vanessa! -TDL Team

  • Angie B

    Much better not reading…we noticed!!!!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for your feedback Angie! -TDL Team

  • Melina

    Thank you Mastin! I’ve tried and got frustrated when deciding to become more spiritual in the sense of building a relationship with God. It was hard at time and thought maybe that wasn’t for me, but like you said, my body craves it, much more my soul. There needs to be some changes in my life in order to have a relationship with my Creator. Patience is something else I need to practice in moments of frustration. The Video helped, no script is the way to go. Better of a connection with the daily lovers :)

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your insights and the feedback!! We’re grateful for you! -TDL Team

  • chelsea

    Mastin, loving the new videos sans telepromter! #authentic Look great! working out is showing #props

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for the awesome feedback Chelsea! -TDL Team

  • Andrea Cavazos

    I used to put my dreams on hold while I built someone else’s. Spent ten years doing it, and not once was there an interest in my dreams from this other person. In fact, when I’d mention it, he expressed no faith in me, and was immediately back to his dreams that I help him built. Now, is a different story. Since I was introduced to you over a year ago, my life has changed drastically and I have started on MY dreams – writing children books. I’ve already put together my story line, illustrated my first two characters and even connected with a children’s book writing organization to link with other writers, illustrators, editors, etc. My heart is full of joy, and as I continue to read your blogs every day, it pumps me up to continue this journey and reminds me that this is where my happiness is! Thank you Mastin.

    • The Daily Love

      Way to follow your dreams Andrea!! We’re so grateful that you’re a part of this community! Thanks for watching and sharing! -TDL Team

  • Lydia Pellow

    Excellent video, Mastin! You rocked it! Usually I quit, make excuses and then shove down the feelings with food. It feels right that it is as simple as ” keep going”. I know this. I walked 60 miles ( in 3 days) for the Avon Breast Cancer walk and what got me through every single mile was that I kept going. I felt proud. I am starting a radio show and the excitement phase has worn off I will keep going. What I’m saying is not for my adoring public ( what I imagined) it is for me, so I am going to keep going. Thank you!
    Love,
    Lydia

    • The Daily Love

      Way to commit Lydia! Thank you for sharing you journey! -TDL Team

  • Cindy Ju

    Great video! I am currently in the frustration zone myself with my physical health. I started working with a personal trainer 4 weeks ago and I started to feel that little voice that says it’s getting hard and it’s expensive and you can just stop. What is use to do with the frustration in the past is making excuses on why I can’t keep going.

    But today, I just allowed myself to see what would happen if I just keep going w/o complaining and just do the work since I have 2 sessions left. When I started, I did force myself to go, but there has been a shift in my mind that happened today that have allowed me to break through years, and year, and years of excuses. Awareness of my thought! I am reading A New Earth, so I have to give Eckhart Tolle some credit :)

    Btw, I am going to be going to the Enter the Heart Tour in SF tonight and am looking forward to meeting you Mastin!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your experience with us Cindy! You’ll love Enter the Heart!! -TDL Team

  • http://www.telluselle.com/blog Alexandra Telluselle

    Just doing something physical, usually helps me out of frustration. Other than that I usually just do as much as I can on my own (which isn’t my preferred way) so that I can feel a sense of accomplishment for me, regardless of other people’s schedules, agendas, schemes, insecurities, hold-ups and god knows what. I also go over my priorities and my lifebalance to see if I am focusing on the right thing, the right amount of time. Take care of your body, because without its health, you can’t do anything else either! But do it out of love, not punishment.

    • The Daily Love

      There is so much wisdom packed in your words Alexandra!! Thank you for sharing! -TDL Team

  • Sam

    Mastin, the energy and excitement coming through you since you’ve stopped using the tele-prompter is amazing! Fantastic job!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Sam! And thank you for being a part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • http://denisedare.com/ Denise Dare of denisedare.com

    Love it, Mastin!

    You are such a dynamic speaker + so full of life…thank you for sharing your soulful self.

    Happy to hear that you are making YOU a priority in your life…you deserve all the LOVE you have to give.

    As for me, I have learned to give myself grace + realize that imperfection is lovable…to keep moving forward even when I feel afraid or not enough…and to tune in more consciously to that wisdom + light within me that reminds me to shine.

    Sending love + appreciation to you,

    Denise

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Denise! We love your learnings, especially the one about giving yourself grace :) -TDL Team

  • paul frank

    I really never believed in Spells or Magics until I met this special
    spell caster called Dr ADUWAWA via aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com.
    The
    woman i wanted to marry left me 3 months to our weeding ceremony and my
    life was upside down,she was with me for 5years and i really love her
    so much she left me for another man with no reasons,when i called her
    she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around
    her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some
    readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man
    has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left
    me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell to bring her back.At
    first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In less than 45 hours
    she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can
    ever come back to me again but now i am happy she’s back and we are
    married now and we live as a happy family..Am posting this because i
    believe there are many people out there who might need his help here is
    his contact email: aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com.

  • paul frank

    I really never believed in Spells or Magics until I met this special
    spell caster called Dr ADUWAWA via aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com.
    The
    woman i wanted to marry left me 3 months to our weeding ceremony and my
    life was upside down,she was with me for 5years and i really love her
    so much she left me for another man with no reasons,when i called her
    she never picked up my calls and she don’t want to see me around
    her…so,when i told the man what happened.he helped me to do some
    readings,and after the readings he made me to realize that the other man
    has done some spells over my wife and that is the reason why she left
    me..he told me he will help me to cast a spell to bring her back.At
    first i was skeptical but i just gave it a try…In less than 45 hours
    she called me herself and came to me apologizing..I cant believe she can
    ever come back to me again but now i am happy she’s back and we are
    married now and we live as a happy family..Am posting this because i
    believe there are many people out there who might need his help here is
    his contact email: aduwawaspiritualtemple@yahoo. com………..

  • Jeff Coulter

    Way to inspire by being brave Mastin! Thanks for this update. The discussion of the threshold is exactly what happens in my life. I go and go and go and then hit the wall and completely stop what I was doing. So happy to hear that I am not the only one and that there is a way around it!

    • The Daily Love

      You’re never alone! Thanks for being a part of this community Jeff! -TDL Team

  • http://www.mimaonfire.com/ Michelle

    Quitting sugar – for real, this time! I usually make excuses (bad day, ‘just having a bit’ etc) but recently spoke to a friend who explained how sugar affects your body as well as how eating it is counterproductive to my workout routine. I am starting to remind myself what he said when I have sugar cravings and ask – is it worth it? Knowing that I will only crave more, how bad it is for me etc… That has really been helpful for me. Sometimes making that pause and asking yourself ‘is it worth it?’ can really be very helpful!

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your commitment with us!! You’ve got it Michelle! -TDL Team

  • Alanna

    I have a serious problem with Tim tams & chocolate. I just cannot stop myself from eating them! It can never be just 1. It will always be like 3 or 4 and then more chocolate and then other buiscuits etc etc! It’s especially on days when I work out because when I am more hungry all I tend to want to eat is chocolate. This is funny that u say this because Yesterday I got SOOO frustrated I was half way through eating my 3rd Tim tam and I just opened my back door and threw it outside. I was like that’s it no more. (Bit dramatic lol but I was trying to be symbolic- didn’t work) 3 hours later, found a block of chocolate. It’s not that I’m overweight it’s just that I know this isn’t good for my body and that it’s not going to sustain me! But for some reason I just cannot break this habit of afternoon chocolatey snacks. Once I start I can’t stop!! Now I will have awareness of that frustration which I think will help me to be more accepting of it and perhaps more willing to choose a piece of fruit instead. Knowing that the frustration is a part of breaking the habit may help me to actually break it! Thanks mastin

    • The Daily Love

      That’s a great insight! What you resist persists so see how accepting your chocolate snacks make you feel. It’s interesting how sometimes when we finally give ourself permission to have something we feel we shouldn’t we naturally don’t want it anymore!! Thanks for watching!! -TDL Team

  • Cozetta Lagemann

    Very cool-push through the frustration. That’s the exact thing I’ll remember the next time I’m developing a new habit or going through a period of change. Thanks, Mastin! Also, I respect and understand what you were going for with the teleprompter-this video was so nice though, it felt very natural, like we were having a conversation. :)

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Cozetta! We love you! -TDL Team

  • sarah

    i used to sit in it. sit in that uncomfortable im-in-a-roadblock spot. id allow myself to get drained and depressed. knowing i didnt want to go back to what i DIDNT want, but enduring icky-ness. Now – I will try keeping going. What that would look like is putting myself out there, extending myself, socially, since I want to cultivate local friendships and a local community. I am going to start teaching yoga, as a part of this. I am a teacher, I want to teach, and Ive been putting off beginning teaching because I havent been able to pick a place to live. so Ive been in that uncomfort zone. (with no payoffs!) so i am going to invest in my community, get involved with a local org, and start teaching yoga. that is how I am going to extend myself in my community and begin to make friends.

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your commitments with us Sarah! We value you as part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • Anna Regina

    Hey hey Mastin! Thanks so much for sharing these insights. It’s like you’re speaking directly to me. Right now, I’m faced with a few different frustration scenarios, both professionally and personally.
    In the past, I would go into overwhelm mode with work/business. There were so many things I wanted to do — so many ideas I had to improve the company I worked with. While my dreams were grand, my delivery fell short time and time again. In the past when this frustration, I would succumb to distractions and then become anxious over not meeting productivity goals.

    What am I going to do differently? I’m going to meditate for a few minutes when that anxiety hits and plan my days instead of just letting them happen.

    Thanks for changing my life, one email, one video, one class at a time!!

    Lots of love,
    Anna

    P.S. Your shoulders are looking great. Jenna is one lucky lady. I’m very happy for you both!

    • The Daily Love

      You’ll be amazed at how much better you’ll feel after you begin to plan your days :) Thanks for sharing your commitment with us! -TDL Team

  • liz

    Mastin, your three phases remind me a lot of the Ken Blanchard situational leadership process (and situational self leadership). If you’ve never read, you should check these out. There are actually 4 phases that you go through when you take on any task or goal (Enthusiastic Beginner, Disillusioned learner, Capable but Cautious Performer and Self Reliant Achiever). You can start at any of the 4 phases based on how much knowledge and motivation you have to the goal and you can progress or regress based by getting the right amount of direction or support. As an individual you can learn to ask for what you need to get you through to the self reliance level!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing this Liz! We value you as part of the TDL community! -TDL Team

  • Maree

    A couple years ago I did yoga 6 days a week for 12 weeks and followed an eating program. I also had colonics. After that time I felt a difference in my body. I lost a lot of weight. My hair was really shiny. My family mentioned my hair and my weight looked good. After that 12 weeks I felt something was missing. I gave up yoga and didn’t go back for the next two years. And I binge ate for two years. The way I dealt with my frustration was feeling confused and stopping yoga.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us Maree!! Thanks for reading :) -TDL Team

  • Mara

    I feel like before, like you said Mastin, I used to just quit – I didn’t want to push myself to go past that frustration level.

    Now, I see the frustrations as opportunities to problem solve. If I hit a roadblock, there’s no need to quit, I just need to problem solve how to get around it and continue forward.

  • Maree

    My new habit that I would like to cultivate is a daily yoga practice. And how will I deal with the frustration zone – I ready Xandy’s post and can identify with trying to intellectualise what was wrong and how I went about implementing my new healthy practises incorrectly in the past one I talked about below. Instead I would like to focus on keep trying new things (eg. aerial yoga, different styles) and as Xandy said being willing to tolerate disappointment and keep working.

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for sharing your commitment with us! And, thanks for watching! -TDL Team

  • http://www.sexequalityproject.com Muna

    My old habit is to turn on myself and tell myself ‘you can’t do it’ – basically I’m not worthy of my success.

    My new habit is compassion for myself, allowing myself to fail (because the fear freezes me up) and doling out tons of love. Eventually, I come back and try again. Its working verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry slowly. Awesome share Mastin, Much love.

    ps you are giving me ideas of how to blog – share myself authentically, its a very good recipe!

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your old & new habits with us! We’re here for you! -TDL Team

  • Joelle Locke

    I would find reasons just to give up. My main one – that I wasn’t worth it or good enough. Now my mantra is consistency. If I can be consistent, no matter what, mountains can move. Enjoyed the video.

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for sharing your experience with us Joelle! -TDL Team

  • Clare

    I have always done yoga but am currently trying to develop my own home practice. This requires self discipline, knowledge and self awareness. I find I spend a lot of time looking to others to prepare me. I spend time thinking about how I’m gonna tackle this practice. I prepare a space in my house ……. Anything but actually doing. When I do practice it feels amazing but making it a routine part of my life, something that serves me seems to be scuppered by my own fear that what I do will not be right, I don’t have enough knowledge, I am not enough!!
    I loved martins video, very timely for me. From this point on I need to recognise that there is no need for perfection the practice is for me alone and I am worth investing an hour a day to just sit with myself and do what feels good.

    • The Daily Love

      You’re not alone in this! Thanks for sharing your insights with us! -TDL Team

  • Rick Thomas

    Well done! Way better than before and it feels real. Now, work on dropping the adverbs…less is more! Keep going…

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Rick! -TDL Team

  • Karin Spain

    Keep reading from your heart !! I absolutely loved it. Thanks xx

    • The Daily Love

      Thanks for your feedback Karin! -TDL Team

  • Peg

    Love the off the cuff! That’s the real Mastin that I hear in the writings. Thanks for your courage to change. Long ago I missed a karate class and said to the instructor, “I thought about going last night,” his response to my excuse was a simple “don’t think about going to class–go to class.” So many times I apply that sensei rule to what I’d am doing. “Don’t think about going to yoga, go to yoga. Don’t think about doing some art, do the art.”

    • The Daily Love

      That’s great! Thank you for sharing that sensei rule with us! -TDL Team

  • Ana M. Gopoian

    Thank you for sharing your now greater sense of freedom. Your body and eyes speak a louder volume of sincerity. I really appreciate you and I look forward to the moments I get to share in your experiences

    • The Daily Love

      Thank you for your feedback Ana! Much love to you! -TDL Team

  • littleyam

    When I got through the excitement phase (very powerful) and into frustration I used to give up. Slowly letting things slip day by day. This year I am now giving myself the time to feel the frustration for a few days, and then pick myself and focus again, even though I may have seemed to have given up, just pick myself up and get back to it. It is working…

    • The Daily Love

      We love your new way of handling frustration! Way to go!! -TDL Team

  • Ana M. Gopoian

    My thoughts on the frustration part of change is that I just give myself permission to be frustrated, maybe 5 minutes or so and simply apply this thought to find acceptance, “Short term situation… long tem outcome”. My perspective on time has changed, I am in the frustration phaze right now. I am a diamond, i’m learning to listen, meditating, being open to those getting put on my path, accepting I am one person that has many facets and needs. Many facets of one diamond, all one not separate parts. I’m in the process of finding the right light so I sparkle at my fullest potential.

  • Blythe

    I loved this video! I have always loved how “real” you are, but today your full energy could be seen in this video. So genuine. Thank you for this. Everything you post about is always right on with what I need that day, it’s actually pretty trippy at times! Your comment “exercise is who I am” REALLY hit home. My whole life I have been the “ripped, and toned” friend and I am currently at my heaviest weight in my life. I am a huge yogi and LOVE hot yoga, but after listening to this I realized I was using yoga as an excuse to not really get my body moving like in the past. After watching this a light bulb went off.. My body is craving exercise. Not that yoga isn’t exercise, but I need that get your heart pumping, make you sore kind of exercise. Thank you Mastin!!!

  • Alicia

    I have an interior design blog and it has bothered me for a while that I don’t keep up with it as much as I wish I did. When I get frustrated or don’t feel inspired I just don’t post…then I feel more and more down on myself. The steps I’m going to take are to create a posting schedule for myself so that I adhere to a schedule and then the posting becomes more like a planned thing, not just when I feel inspired. I’m constantly inspired but maybe I’m just not aware of it all the time. Thanks for this video!

  • Mam

    I’m a single mom if two boys who are late to school everyday bc I can nvr wake up in time… I try everything but every morning it’s the same. We running around like chickens with their heads cuts trying to get out the door in time.

  • Reeshma & Sanjay

    Hi Mastin!

    I just shared this video with my husband and we realized that I am like you (I work on the emotional stuff, but not the physical stuff)…and he’s the opposite. It’s supportive to watch you speak about this topic because often change of habit is quite challenging. Especially when its from a not so good habit to a great habit. Thanks for “coming clean” ! I’m sure you felt liberated and free in this session!

    It’s 10:20PM in Milton….Ontario…Canada……As we write, we are getting ready for a power walk to welcome spring…and to make it come faster!

    Lots of Love (As my Mom writes “LOL”)

  • Andrea Henderson

    You are so right, as usual! I typically rationalize in my mind why the habit I am trying to get rid of is okay. And I stop changing. But no more!! From now on, no more rationalizing. You once posted a visual inspiration that said “Discipline is remembering what you want”. This time I am going to remember what I want and step out of the mindset of where I have been!! Peace, blessings and most of all LOVE to all of you.

  • Dawn

    OH my gosh Mastin! You are great going off the cuff without the teleprompter. I”m curious if Brennan had any influence on that decision :-) Either way, great video and great topic!

    In the past, when I hit the frustration zone, if I wasn’t totally clear on my direction I would sometimes change ideas and go on a different tangent. I think the key is having a clear vision and focusing on that vision when the frustration hits. I will continue to practice having a clear vision and purpose so I can move through the frustration to the other side.

    Dawn

  • Marie

    Mastin – Thank you so much for being you. I loved today’s topic as I to ignored the body work for years. I committed to myself in January and now go to the gym Monday through Friday attend two aerobic classes on Saturday and rest on Sunday. I am fitting my work out in before going to appts or dinner, etc. I work out, clean up and head to the next thing. My friends work around my workouts when scheduling a get together to show their support. I feel much more balanced now that I finally committed to taking care of me at 55 years old.

    I am still working on the emotional eating and the triggers, but I am getting there.

  • Tash

    Mindfulness is key for me. I come from a history of emotional eating and binge working out. My relationship with my body has become so disconnected from love. Food brings my so much joy! It’s delightful, a drug, nourishing, an emotional blanket and bandaid, it’s so many things! But when you use anything to hide from something, you give the thing you’re hiding from so much more power and then something that was once joyful becomes fear based. Hunger shouldn’t induce anxiety. You begin to see that pain physically in your skin and your waist line. Working out becomes a way to undo all of the “bad” that you have done by wanting to grant yourself joy by way of your taste buds. Eating and working out becomes a cycle of reward and punishment which is entirely exhausting. I want to fall in love with my body again. Where it is now and begin to make choices about what I put in it and how I take care of it as a way to reaffirm who I really am. I want to stop making excuses but also stop punishing myself.

  • http://www.Everyonehasone.com Judith George

    When I first started doing stand-up comedy over 15 years ago – the open mics were painful for me. Even some shows – if I didn’t feel I did well – I was in an emotional agony for days. So I quit. Now years later I got myself into a standup class and started doing the open mics. I have found some great supportive mics – (comics actually listen.) I don’t care the same way. This might be age – not sure. I’m not as young as the other comics but this is the right time for me to be doing it. I’m in love with comedy and working it. I still struggle for sure but now I go back to my writing and performing to learn and analyze not criticize. (the majority of the time.) That makes a huge difference.

  • Kelley Parker Cabral

    Like you it was making time to workout. I got used to it and it felt great. But I had my baby 7 mos ago and haven’t worked out since. I started working out this past week (for 2 days) and the quitting has started to occur. Even though I read this post late it was much needed.

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