Trust that you’re enough.
Because you are.
But we don’t.
So we overcompensate for our ill-perceived sense of lack by working too hard. By pushing. By settling for less. By not realizing our own value. We mistreat ourselves and allow mistreatment by others because if we truly believed we were enough, we wouldn’t settle for bad behavior that supports our beliefs that we’re inadequate.
Trust comes from experience, for sure. And part of that is developed by trial and error. But sometimes we become so focused on end results and completing things perfectly that we get scared to try. But it’s only through attempting things and failing that we grow and develop insight. It’s a sort of purification process that helps us to understand that everything we need is inside of us.
Trust. Celebrate life. Make mistakes.
But it’s also a state of being. Something that is generated by a stillness within and not the self-judgments from our very loud heads.
Trusting that you’re enough has nothing to do with others. (Although it’s often reflected in the relationships we cultivate and in how we attract certain people into our lives). Trust has to do with you. It has to do with accepting yourself fully. Totally. Flaws and all. Imperfections and challenges. Not necessarily of the physical variety. (Who cares if you have a zit?) But of the mental and emotional kind that shape how we participate in the world. With ourselves and with others.
If you don’t accept that you’re a fully-equipped human being with innate skills and gifts, extraordinary abilities and talents specific to you and no one else, then how are you ever going to be able to show up and share them with the world?
So first you have to start with this assumption that you do have something unique to share.
Then trust that life will find a way for you to express them. Even if you don’t know what they are yet.
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Anthony Meindl is an award-winning writer/director/producer/teacher and Artistic Director of Anthony Meindl’s Actor Workshop – where the “right brain rules” – in Los Angeles and New York. He is endlessly inspired by his students’ fearless creativity and is tireless in discovering new ways to help us all get out of our own way a little bit more each day. He just finished writing/directing his first feature film, Birds of A Feather.
Twitter – @AnthonyMeindl