If you’re a human, you judge yourself and everyone else. If you’re a creature living in this human experience, you also compare yourself to others. Even if you do it for just a micro moment, catch yourself, and then shift into compassionate and unconditional thoughts that DO serve you, it still happens from time to time. We compare ourselves to everyone else around us on a daily basis. We use our competitor’s level of success, our friend’s number of followers on Instagram, or our colleague’s physique to “gauge” where we’re at in this moment in time.
When we do this, we create a barometer (based entirely on someone else’s reality) that we believe is applicable within our own little Uni-verse. Ever heard the saying, “It’s like comparing apples and oranges…”? Well, get ready, because using someone else as a measuring stick for where you are in life is no way to keep tabs on your progress or success.
Some say that a little competition is healthy and pushes us to do better. First of all, no THING and no ONE can make US do anything. If we choose to be the best versions of ourselves, it’s an internal shift that takes place. Secondly, I’ve always said that cooperation > competition. Working and co-creating together creates a space devoid of “better than” and “not enough.”
“It takes TEAMWORK to make the dream work.” -Martin Luther King, Jr.
It takes a lot of different personalities, strengths, talents, and contributions to create an effective and BALANCED team. Everyone matters. Everyone is important; even the weakest link. And, sometimes, our biggest contribution can be what we teach our other teammates about themselves. We’re all in “this” together. No matter how hard people try to separate and distance themselves, be “right”, or disconnect, we are ONE with The Uni-verse. In the same breath, while we all come from the same “star stuff”, every single one of us was born with gifts, talents, and a valid purpose to fulfill.
There’s NO ONE else like you. Even with a population of 7.2 BILLION, there isn’t a single human being on this planet who is even close to being who you are. There will NEVER be anyone else like you, and you cannot be replaced. It takes a lot of single drops of water to create the vast ocean, but there is no such thing as two identical drops. Each and every one is unique, but look at the powerful ONENESS of that body of water. Do you ever think about the ocean as a bunch of little, unique, and extremely important water drops?
You ARE that unique water drop, and you ARE perfect exactly as you are. Everyone has their own path, mission, and purpose. Instead of wasting energy on what everyone else is up to (and WISHING you were there), invest your energy into creating the BEST version of your own YOUniqueness. There is nothing outside of you that’ll make you better. The capacity for everything you desire resides within your beYOUtiful and perfect body.
Wanna create some changes in your life? Awesome! Go for it, but LOVE yourself every step of the way and know that in every present moment, you are whole, complete, and EXACTLY where you’re meant to be. You’re a gift. A contribution. A magnificent creation! You were never meant to “fit in” or blend with the masses.
What have you been putting off or procrastinating because you felt like you weren’t ready or enough? What head conversation are you committed to giving up so you can thrive? I wanna hear all about it in the comments section below! I love hearing about your “AHA!” moments. :)
Love all that is you,
Jenna Phillips is a Total Wellness Philosopher, Certified Holistic Lifestyle Coach, AFAA Certified Personal Trainer & the founder of her lifestyle brand I’m On A Mission. Follow her on Twitter and be inspired.