Daily Share – Uninspired By My Path At This Time!

I am going through the void. Betwixt and between…yearning for more, and unable to visualize the details.
Uninspired by my path at this time, and this is an uncomfortable place to be. I long for a partner, to love, and share life with.
My work and my friendships and my pet…they are all things I am grateful for, but they are no longer enough.
I am alone. Too alone. Bursting with love, and sensuality, and life and laughter…yet, time wares on…and the longer I go, recreating myself, opening to my spirit, trying to unfold with patience, the more my feelings of faith are faltering. I have wanted for so long, and I have tried to let go of attachment, to embody the things that I wish to attract into my life, and still…no one. No special, intimate, partner to spend my life with. I am getting old. I am still pretty. But, I feel like giving up.
That is what I am going through.

Wishing all of you your dreams coming true in 2013. I wish I could still picture mine.

Blessings and Light.

A TDL Reader

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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1204415497 Travis L Thomas

Dear TDL Reader!

The first thing you said stood out to me most…”I am going through the void.”

That is perfect. I read a poem awhile ago called “Fear of Transformation” and the whole idea behind the poem is the writer feeling like she is hanging on to a trapeze bar flying through the sky. She sees the next bar coming and she knows she needs to let go to get it. She knows it is her next step in life, but she also knows how scary it is to be in-between the two bars…flying through the void.

It is in this space that she realized that the void is the best place to be. When we are in the “space between” is when we are most alive. When we don’t have answers, or a plan, is when we open ourselves up most to inspiration and transformation. Like the butterfly dying into its cocoon – does it know it is about to become a butterfly?

Embrace the void. There is more learning taking place there than any other time of our lives. What you have right now is perfect. It is all you need, right now. Yes, it will change and evolve – and that will be perfect too.

Have a wonderful day!

Travis
http://www.yes30.com
- Joann
  
  travis, that was said so perfectly. I read the poem and i could relate to it because i am at that point in my life now too. Thank you for sharing.
- Bailey22204
  
  Thank you for sharing that poem. It really inspired me.
Eades Kristen2

My heart goes out to you… location wise..are you living in a metropolis or near to one? If you are longing to “share your life” with a man? you might think about putting more effort into involving yourself …well, you get where I’m going here. An intellectual man might take a night class, say at Cooper Union (excellent choice! by the way). or if there are hockey games to attend to…those are “men” and men love sports…Make it a regular pastime to have a coffee at Barnes & Noble…men reading..very attractive.
Of course, they say meeting men from your friends is also a good idea. Try them all. and just relax, eventually, the tide may change. You might do a mini-makeover for yourself, buy a new lipstick, have your hair dyed? men like pretty.
best wishes to you, sister.
sincerely
Kristen
Dijaks

Your writings today reminds me of Marianne Williams quote, “Our greatest fear is not that we will not succeed, our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure” that is what your guilt is about. The stink in’ think in’ that you are trying to change is creeping back in. Believe in your light it’s the Devine.
http://www.facebook.com/roxana.nunez Roxana Nunez

I want you to stop searching and stop looking.
You are not getting old. Technically, we are getting old the minute we are born.
I remember one time I was listening to a song by one of my favorite groups. The song is called Being boring. There, one of the lines talks about the fact that if you are bored it is because you are boring. At the time that I was listening to the song, I was saying that I was bored. Imagine my indignation, which then led on to self retrospection and later to the realization that I am completely in charge of what I am feeling. So, if I was bored, it is because I am boring.

The same, I am afraid, will be true for you. If you feel lonely, how open are you to companionship. I mean, don’t tell me that you are ready. Really look inside yourself and answer honestly. What I will suggest to you is to take the pressure of yourself and do things that will require you to move out of your comfort zone and start surrounding yourself with people. Maybe volunteer or something similar. By taking the pressure of finding a partner and just surrounding yourself with new people, you are opening yourself. Also, you are making it about helping others, which will bring you joy, instead of focusing on yourself.

Whatever you end up doing, I wish you lots of luck and remember, keep picturing your dreams. They will come true if you let them.
thewomenscoach

Hi Fellow Reader, thank you for the blessing and light and right back at ‘cha!

I’m curious…what is this space you are in teaching you about yourself? I truly believe that we experience what we need to in order to grow. Could it be about resiliance or faith in yourself?Sounds like you have already decided that the void in your life can only be filled with a relationship. What if you decided that the void wasn’t really a void at all? That you called it something completely different, like your “high-five place”, and knew it was all yours to manage? That this is the year to kick that place’s you-know-what? You are not defeated! Pulls from the “I don’t have” will take energy away from “what I want” and faltering faith in yourself adds to that. Get visual with it by writing, drawing, painting, or using any medium you want. Just make it real for you. What else would be in the place? I’m guessing there are other things that you desire as well as a relationship. What isn’t serving you right now? What would you like to be celebrating about your life? It takes much deep thought, but well worth the effort. Get clear about what they are and how you want to bring them into your life, using both law of attraction techniques as well as good old fashioned action! Wishing without action is kind of like a deflated balloon…nothing to make it rise.Btw, there is nothing wrong with wanting more in your life, even if you are amazingly grateful for what you have now. YOU CAN CRAVE MORE! That’s what life is about, reaching and growing every single day! What a blessing it is for you to have this time to really understand what else you want! As for your desire for a relationship, since you can’t just grab anyone off the street and expect them to be compatible, you are left with what you have and that is the love you are bursting with. Talk about inspired action! Share it, show it, speak it, be proud of it and yourself for who you are and what you have that will help the world. Put your desire out into the universe, believe it will happen and let go of the how and when. It will be the love that lives and breathes in you that a partner will be attracted to. Hoping this helps and sending you lots of fierce love!
Ccaliguire57

I am going through the exact journey as you. Would be a blessing for me to have a friend such as you to work on our inner self, try to get in-stuck. It seems the more motivational/inspirational books I read, the more it sets me back. Making me realize or making it seem its really more difficult to move onto a ‘new changed me!’ To find a circle if friends, yes volunteering would help, but where do I begin to find the right group to help. Sometimes I feel isolated & overwhelmed by the thought of ‘getting out there’ to be more social. I’ve been on journey to have a fulfilling life knowing having a partner won’t fill the void, I have to be 100% before I can be open to have a partner. I know things will change, I’m positive of that, but when will I get out of being stuck. Any suggestions?
FellowTDL

Dear TDL Reader.

I completely empathise with you. I am a single woman (Still fairly attractive and yet knowing that I am also getting old). I love and embrace my job, my friends, my dog. I believe in self-love. I keep myself occupied. I try to keep the faith. I try to see the positivity in life. I try to love life as it is, to learn and discover new things about myself.

I meet people. I go on dates. I have even tried online dating.

But no one. Like you, my faith and belief is wavering. I have had a few bad relationships. And nursed a devastating break up a few years ago.

But here i am, with this void, and a loneliness I cannot articulate to anyone. And sometimes, I feel so disheartened that I want to give up.

I’m sorry that I do not have any wise insights to share. The purpose of my post is to let you know that you are not alone.

And to try and encourage you to not give up. There are many people like us out there. We have to find strength in each other.

Big hugs and no matter what life offers you down the road, I hope you make the best of it.
Raqdiaz45

maybe your future partner is still on their journey toward you. maybe they’re still on their way. like when you’re at a party waiting for a friend to show up… the party doesn’t stop (or begin) because your friend isn’t there yet. everyone enjoys themselves and has fun. so enjoy the party and don’t worry… your partner is on their way.
AnKissy

You are trying too hard. You are focusing on the lack of a partner. Forget about it for awhile. What ever you put forth in the universe is what you will get back. Focus only on your blessings. When the time is right, you will turn the corner, and there the perfect mate will be. Until then, breathe, relax, and enjoy the life you have been given.
TrackerM

Dear TDL reader, thank you for your story. I remember Mastin saying that when we are at our most confused then we are on the brink of discovery. I have to say that the biggest thing I have ever learned is that we don’t find happiness outside of us. I made that mistake for years & myself miserable. I now know that we have all we need within us, & am happier than I have ever been. I let go trying & everything just began to happen, the lessons I needed showed up, the tools to change my life & the people. It has been an amazing journey that I look forward to continuing, but for you I would say, stop striving & worrying about what you lack & focus on how you want to feel. When you do that everything starts to shift.
Travis, I love that poem, thanks
Tuck512

When I read this, I had this odd feeling I had written it! Although you are far more eloquent, I have the exact same feelings and they are not always pretty. I have no advice, but I did appreciate reading this, and am working on following travis’ advice of learning to better appreciate the void instead of hating it.
Michelle

Frequently, the “giving up” is the best thing you can do!!! Then you will have released the resistance, which will ALLOW what you want to come to you!