Using The Law Of Attraction To Turn Your Desires Into Reality!

laurafenamoreHave you ever walked into a room after a vicious argument has taken place and thought, “Wow, I could cut the tension here with a knife!” Or entered a serene temple and gotten goose bumps? We have all experienced a place that has felt tense, holy, relaxing or comforting.

These feelings demonstrate the energetic effect emotions have on physical space and matter. What we put out in the world changes the world around us, and hence, it affects what we then receive from the world.

Attention is powerful. Your thoughts and feelings have the impact of a hammer. Every time you think something, it hammers the wall of your reality. One strike of a weak hammer won’t do much. But if you repeatedly apply that same force, eventually your particular thought is going to breach the wall of your reality. With feelings, it’s the same, only you’re using a stronger hammer that will have a greater impact.

Here’s a quick lesson in biology that helped me understand the relationship my body has with my emotions: every major emotion—fear, love, anger, joy—has a biochemical basis in the body called a peptide. When we experience a certain emotion, the brain and various cells throughout the body produce the corresponding peptide. The receiving cells then make physiological changes in relation to the specific peptide received.

Cells develop additional receptors for the peptides that are received the most (because the body can only say “yes”). If we feel a particular emotion over and over, our body assumes that this is what we want to feel. It then responds by creating receptors primarily for that emotion, which prevents other emotional peptides from being received and also blocks other proteins that are meant to nourish and heal the body.

In this way, our body becomes physically addicted to a certain emotion. We seek to experience the emotion so our body can get its “fix.” That emotion, and its corresponding peptide, is the only nourishment our body can get because so many cell receptors have become altered to receive only that particular peptide.

The Law of Attraction works on this principle. It demonstrates that by placing our awareness and attention on that which is positive and desired, that which we do not desire will naturally fall away. We will naturally attract more of the positive because it is what we are focusing our thoughts on.

None of us are absent of negative thoughts 100% of the time, but the speed with which you attract your desire is equal to the ratio of positive to negative thoughts. Feel the negative, let it go and then get back on track with this process.

Step 1. Design and Envision Your Ideal Life (Body, Mind, Spirit)

At the top of a clean journal page, write in the present tense, about the way your ideal life looks, feels, sounds. Who surrounds you? Where do you get your strength? What is your schedule? Your daily routine? Express how you feel about this new life (again, in the present tense).

Step 2: Keep the Vision with You at ALL Times

Live in your new envisioned reality. Imagine yourself in your ideal life and experience it—let the power of your imagination play your vision like a virtual reality simulation that you more than watch: sense it, experience, feel, become.

Practice this virtual reality simulation for at least ten to twenty minutes every day for three days. Have a single symbol (a thought or image) that calls up the entire context of the experience without your having to engage the entire simulation.  Continue to experience the entire simulation at least once a week and hold the symbolic thought or image with you at all other times.

While envisioning your ideal life, it is imperative that you feel a deep sense of purpose in your vision. This is not an idle daydream to whisk you away from a darker reality. This is reality, and it is your purpose to manifest it. You must have faith. If, at the beginning, you cannot fully connect with faith, connect with gratitude and allow it to lead you to faith.

Step 3: Connect Thought with Personal Action

Through thought and vision, we create. But it is by action that we receive.  Thought only manifests our desire when it is attached to personal action. Affirmations alone often will not work; they work when they inspire us toward personal action.

You must decide which actions are important for you to take. Then you must commit to them—you must engage in them with full consciousness of your vision and with the express purpose to attain it.

This does not mean you must force yourself to exercise three times a week or quit your job and move to Tahiti. This simply means use your current routine to root your vision into your physical reality and the space of now. Doing the dishes? Engage in your simulation while doing them. Stuck in traffic? Repeat your affirmations.

Practicing the Law of Attraction on a regular basis is the first step towards the transformation you want and deserve!

Throughout my earlier years, I would attract things that I wanted and always wondered what that was all about. I would visualize something, focus on it, take action and then poof it was there. I was relieved when I got into consciousness classes over 25 years ago and someone gave this a name. For years I would call it grace & goodness. However, I loved the day I learned it was called the Law of Attraction.

I would love to hear how the Law of Attraction works in your life?

I welcome your comments below.




Weight Release & Body Image Coach Laura Fenamore is on a mission to guide women around the world to love what they see in the mirror, one pinky at a time, so they can unlock the secrets to a healthy weight and start loving their lives as soon as possible.  Learn more about her programs, invite her to speak or contribute to your program or conference, or place pre-orders for her book today at

  • I love your quick biology lesson about the peptides. Makes so much sense!

    These 3 steps are definitely a good start to create the life you desire but like you said “Practicing the Law of Attraction on a regular basis is the first step….”.
    There is more to the equation.
    And when people don’t get results with the Law of Attraction it’s because they don’t have all the pieces to really make it work.
    Commitment is not always enough when limiting beliefs (most of them unconscious) keep running the show.

    • laura

      and Coach Carolin,

      I would be the first to say that we humans are complex beings. So complex and it is not one size fits all. Nor do I believe that action without anything else will bring us exactly what we want. What I love is that you took the time to read and comment and that makes my heart sing!

      with love, laura fenamore

  • This is great! I also liked the biological aspect… it makes it all make sense… seeing what’s actually going on with the chemicals inside our bodies.

    The part that hit home most with me was how our bodies get used to certain peptides/emotions, and then seek out that emotion (even if it’s negative) for the “fix.” This is further evidence WHY we tend to create the same experiences over and over in our lives. Even when we claim we don’t want it. I think that’s the hard part… breaking the cycle. Getting out of our patterns. THAT’S where the real work is. It takes lots of repetition, re-commitment, and conscious effort. On that note, I appreciated how you said no one is positive 100% of the time. We all have our “stuff” to work out, that pops up from time to time in our thoughts or in our lives. So I loved how you encouraged us to “feel the negative” then let it go and get back on the positive track. It’s not about NOT feeling the negative. B/c if we tried to NOT feel the negative, we’d surely get frustrated when it came up again and again. And as many say, “What we resist, persists.” So I love that advice… FEEL the negative, then let it go. That’s how we work that stuff out of our systems. Let it come up. Feel it. Let it go right on out. And return our focus and energy to what we REALLY desire, and truly what is already here with us. Positive goodness and love. 🙂


    • laura

      thank you so much Sarah for your great feedback and for taking the time to share it. love that. what do you want to attract today? with love, laura fenamore

  • Hi Laura
    I really enjoyed your article. I have been practicing the Law of Attraction for some time now. I am always amazed when you think about what you want to attract to your life, poof it shows up. Just like you said. This happened to me a few days ago with some women I met when I told them that I have my own home based business. As a result, they are both willing to meet with me! I was sitting there thinking to myself, is this real? Is it this easy? Just to think about what you want and it appears? Yes it does! Focusing on what you want and not what you don’t want is key. I am also focusing on not becoming attached to the outcome. When you become attached to the outcome, you start to lose your focus and you can start to fall back into unfavourable beliefs and patterns. Thanks again for posting!

  • Colette

    I just found this article. I really appreciate the explanation on the body and how it acts to emotions we live with constantly. I can attest to the reality of this. A while ago I determined I would look for the positive in everything. It has been a struggle, because for so long I was not in that vibration, but little by little I have changed my thinking. I appreciate your thought to feel the negative then let it go, since we all feel negative emotions. It allows me to stop the downward cycle that comes from being upset that the negative was “let into my life”. Thank you so much!