The Daily Love
A place to Love and be Loved
Thinking and caring about yourself first is essential before you can be there for others. Too often this is forgetten and then things start to fall apart!
Every day is a learning experience and this hiatus is a good way to get a new perspective on many levels. When I read you were away concentrating on your book, I thought: Good for you! You need not explain your personal life’s decisions to anyone, except maybe to your loved ones who need to know. Only feel guilt when you did something wrong. This book is your life’s work! Feel good about yourself for having the good sense and determination to know what is good for you and then going after it. Congratulations on reaching another level of growth. Loved the quote on today’s TDL: ”Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.”
Being a Social Worker, I have learned the importance of setting boundaries because if you don’t, all your mental, spiritual, and self you give out to others becomes exhausting and then you have no energy for you. Stick with it, maintain those boundaries and allow those who relay on you the most try to use their own inner energy and self to work through the file issue. Then, when you return from doing what YOU are passionate about, you can talk with your peeps about how they were able to handle their dilemma. Good luck on the book!! I look forward to reading it.
When you wrote “It’s been a real eye opener to see that people desire to communicate with me; I didn’t realize people cared that much”. What they care about is themselves and satisfying their needs not giving you the space you need to finish your book. You are not being selfish – they are!
This is the hardest obstacle I have yet to conquer! Putting oneself first is so difficult when you have so many at times pulling at you!
Hi Mastin, I think it comes down to what you entitled your post “healthy habits”. When we form a new relationship with a part of ourselves (example: healthy eating, fitness), others (a new friendship, client) and or a project (writing a new book, starting a new blog)…we (and the others we effect) become accustomed to working with in whatever boundaries we initially establish. If we start a new job and are so keen to do a good job that we work and are available 24/7 the expectation will become such. If we begin the new year resolving to “get fit” without establishing any boundaries as to what “fit” and being fit means how can we expect to change and measure our progress? While it is much easier if we set these boundaries up initially when forming a new relationship and or starting a new project it is never too late! I am quite certain that having a truthful heart to heart those effected by your new boundaries will come to accept and even support them – especially once they know how important setting these new boundaries are to your well being. On a side note (and I am not saying this is you – this is just my own personal experience) for some people (like myself) it is much easier to serve others and their needs than to serve ourselves…and that is worth investigating.
Why are you reading this stuff … which then detracts you from your ‘NO electonic media” mode. Refrain from reading this stuff and you won’t feel badly. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. If you don’t, no one else will. Also, if you don’t take care of yourself, you won’t be able to take care of others. This came out kind of strongly, but it is sent with L-O-V-E and respect for you!
I think what you’re doing is both brave and inspiring. If you realize that your energy is being “sucked out” by social media and the like and distracting you from writing your book, then it sets a great example for all your reader’s, friends and family that you are doing what it takes to really walk your talk. You have determination and courage to follow your path! Remember that you are serving your purpose by writing your book. Once it is done you will be able to share your message with so many more people (if that’s even possible). I really admire what you’re doing and find it very inspiring. Thank You
Changing and loving yourself in healthy ways always causes a stir. Those who are used to (and like/rely/expect) one way (the old way) get upset and those who are on the journey understand what a fellow traveler is going through. I think you’ve always said this, when people get upset or angry, they will grow if they look within first. Disconnecting to serve yourself is an extremely hard and brave thing to do. Thank you for being the change. You inspire me for sure.
Mastin, You have a lot of coaches around you so maybe they are apprising you of what to expect while you are in the early stages of sugar elimination. In case they aren’t telling you I will – For 5 days to a month expect highs and low. Hours where you feel better than your old usual then worse than usual, before you get all better. It was explained to me this way – your body is not use to regulating the insulin in the manner that is now required. It is use to waiting for you to consume more. It takes a while to regulate itself in a fresh new way. Mood swings often come with that too. (I read that men in particular even experience swings of anger.) It is SO worth it though! Your body will become a better servant. Ask Jenna et.al. to have your back an persevere.
A good friend of mine once told me that instead of trying to stop having bad habits, I should just focus on having good habits and eventually there would be no space left for bad habits. It was great advice!