Weeding My Garden

Late last year I simply had had enough. I think I’ve always made the most change in my life when I’ve exhausted myself – when I wasn’t wanting to experience the same emotions anymore. So that led me to suddenly come to a crossroads. I felt the urge to question what was important to me in my life and especially those that I surrounded myself with. This wasn’t a moment of egotistical judgment. To me, it was working on a new level of consciousness and a cleansing of the soul.

I began with questions. I wanted to know, by going deep within myself, who I believed really loved me. Who really wanted the best for me? Who was a positive influence on me? Who encouraged me to be a better person everyday and live up to my highest potential?

This was very difficult for me to go through. I learned so much about myself in the process – how I was always the type of person to ‘sacrifice’ myself for others to the point of losing sight of my own identity, desires and goals. I never wanted to ‘create any waves’. I think change is the hardest thing a person can choose to go through – it’s always painful in some respect.

But I had to ask myself: when would I live my life? When would I truly honor myself?

I made a lot of changes by choosing to surround myself with light, with individuals that were confident in their character and loving and supportive in their words and actions. I started to ‘replant my garden’ with seeds of growth, love and positivity.

I think it is important for people to ask themselves these questions, because from my own experience, I wish I had done so a long time ago. I believe I wouldn’t have felt as lost as I did.

My life has truly been an arduous journey at times; I never really had a true support system to fall back on and I had to learn a lot of things on my own. Ultimately, I am grateful for those experiences, as I believe they made me a stronger person, but it took some time. And sometimes, that can be hard to accept when we always want to have our lives in order as soon as possible without too much pain.

Trust yourself to know you are worthy of all the beautiful things in life. There are a lot of people who will become threatened by how peaceful, positive and driven you will become. But you are unique to this world and have so much to offer that is specifically YOU!

Surround yourself with nothing but goodness, because you deserve it. I believe that life is too short for people to not live every day trying to reach their highest potential. Imagine how great our world, and we, could all be if we were to lift one another up without being threatened and focused on knocking each other down! I think it would be truly spectacular…

I love you


“No matter where you are in life right now, no matter who you are, no matter how old you are, it is never too late to be who you are meant to be.”

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  • cutefish

    soo true  sooo true, I have been reviewing people in my circle these days, there are certain people I have to let go~~~ Thanxxx for the great post!!

  • Pooleb

    Wow! thanks for that kick to the spirit, it is true, when you become strong and your light within is shining bright some people will be intimidated, be strong and let your light shine anyway.  Do your best even if the whole world wants you not too.

  • Stefaniemschroeder

    Thank you, Mena–what an inspirational post! I really needed to hear what you said this morning because I’ve been going through the same thing. Your words provide motivation for me to get out of my own exhaustion and make a big change!

  • Bruno

    Your words are truly inspiring. It’s amazing how effectively you are able to quickly connect with people. Bravo!

  • ZENGIRL 2011

    AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂

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  • Mark Caputo

    I agree, why don’t you start over in Charleston,SC{yes I know you lived there before}   A lot has changed when you first lived here!

  • Nicquiroz

    I needed this today more than anything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Thank you just what I needed today.

  • S.H.

    Beautiful thoughts, Mena! Thank you for contributing to the light in my day.

  • Gabeberman

    i’m floored by this..and now i’m officially floored by you….please check out the book Live Like A Fruit Fly – it is SOO for you! xo

  • Great Story Mena!!!  I am so glad that you have come to believe in your worth 🙂

  •  Absolutely right on. Thanks for writing this 🙂

  • Good choices, Mena, and well said. Most people need to “weed their garden”, but never do. Lives and ambitions stagnate. Most unfortunate. Best wishes to you.

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  • Mary

    Wow Again!!!  Beautiful!!  I plan on reading this often.  Thank you.

  • Tri

    Wowza. I thought about your last statement, how would the world be if everyone lived up to their potential, and my mind is officially blown.  I have never been so moved to action by any other post on TDL as I am by yours today.

  • its always tough to allow yourself to be light and positive….maybe it just needs practice 🙂

  • Ikonimatt

    This is soooo pleasant to the hearing. I think anybody that loves good thing will surely appreciate and commend you. welldone my dear.

  • Bryan Reeves

    Thanks, Mena. This is about as powerful and simple a suggestion as one could receive in living a brilliant life. Simple questions to ask oneself. I’m sure I speak for everyone else here when I say, we love you, too.