What do you want your 2013 rituals to be?

January 2, 2013 by Mastin Kipp 23 Comments

The outcome of our lives is based on our rituals. That is – the habits that we have every day.

It’s not about just doing something for a day or a week or a month. It’s about your lifestyle being in alignment with your greatest good and highest potential.

For me, when I think about the things I want to create in 2013, the list includes: a healthy body, financial freedom, even MORE Love with Jenna, hanging out with her parents and my parents more, mastering my writing craft and being worthy of the attention of The Daily Love community – all these things SOUND awesome.

But – what do I have to DO in order for these things to happen?

Well, let’s break it down. My rituals in 2013 need to look something like this:

Healthy Body:

Hatha Yoga 2x / week

Kundalini Yoga 1x / week

Weights 3x / week

Cardio 4x / week

No sugar diet

Eating lean proteins and greens

Meditation every day

Financial Freedom:

Solve the problems of the TDL Community better than ANYONE else.

Create products that people LOVE and that WORK.

Listen to the TDL Community about what problems they have and create solutions.

Charge enough for my work so that it reflects the actual value.

Spend less than I earn.

Create sound investments in the TDL infrastructure.

Create sound investments where TDL and I can have a solid ROI.

Healthy Body

Even More Love with Jenna:

Tell her I love her at every chance I can.

Be present for her.

Make her needs my needs.

Show up – daily.

Support her dreams and aspirations.

Do everything I can to make her feel safe.

Admit when I am wrong.

Create more time for just us with no distractions.

Mastering My Writing Craft:

Write daily.

When I get writer’s block – read The War of Art.

Write daily.

Sugar free diet.

Healthy Body.

Write daily.

This is a small peek into the rituals that I must have if I want the life of my dreams. Dreams are made through hard work and surrendering to Divine timing.

But – we must create rituals so that dreams can come true.

What are YOUR 2013 rituals going to be?

As always, the action happens in the comments below. Leave a comment and join the conversation! The TDL Community thrives in the comments and it’s a GREAT place to get support!

Love,

Mastin

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So true Mastin, so true
tc

I’m writing my list now too Mr Kipp! Thanks for breaking it down – I’m totally in sync with your list. I must say, being around people with similar goals is a key. I’m also loving how much Jenna & her goals & needs are also yours. It’s really shows me a side to relationships I’ve not seen or experienced myself. Great example for others too. Signing off to write my list…..thank you for sharing
Katy Birchall25

Rituals are wonderful things and they define who you are. Each small thing that you do day in and day out makes up your being, reflects your values and each moment gets you closer to where you want to be.
For me, my rituals in 2013 WILL be made up of 4 x workouts per week, 5 x meditations per week, 1 special activity per week in where I spend time with myself and connect with who I am so I can be the very the very best version of myself when I’m around others, contirbuting 1 idea to each meeting I am involved in at work, doing something special each fortnight for one of my friends or family to show how much I value them in my life, step out of my comfort zone once a week to talk to someone I wouldn’t normally in order to network and meet new friends.
At times when we set out to achieve our goals they can seem overwhelming and too far away to be reached. It is important to be to break them down in to bite size pieces and build them into my daily patterns, this gets momentum going and momentum is AMAZING! It’s the fire that starts once the sparks ignite, the music that plays when the band arrive, and the feel of you dancing to your very own beat feeling the passion flood your soul. Show me your moves, bring on 2013!!
Cindy

I am curious about something – and this is not meant to question you but to better understand it for myself. I am working on accepting that I am enough. Not thinner or more successful at work or with a significant other in my life. Just me. But I want to make a list like this because I fundamentally think that I will be happier if I have all of these things and the only way to get them is to do the things that lead to them. Do you see where I get tripped up? How can I reconcile the idea that I am perfect just the way I am but still work on being better?
- Youbabes
  
  Cindy,
  what works for me and what I’ve hear others say: What you need to work on now is being ok, being grateful for what you have & who you are.
  That in and of itself is a great lesson.
  I had a cross-dresser tell me once, “Don’t worry about what you don’t have, see and work with what you have.”
  So make your list, a list that feels good; follow the list but also remember to see that where you are right now is where you need to be; you are in a place where you are casting out desires, right? What a great place to be, a powerful place
  
  I just recently learned the lesson of “gratitude for what currently is.”
  As a result, all of my worries, desires, frustrations about the things I want have shifted to happiness and ok-ness with what I have…and it’s a handful.
  …But, I keep working on it because it is a frame of mind and it has a tendency to get cloudy sometimes.
- http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com/ Nina
  
  In my opinion, instead of thinking of the two concepts
  together, you should think of them linearly. In your case, maybe you need to
  first focus on accepting yourself as you are. Love yourself and all the
  beautiful imperfections that make you unique. That’s the first step. After you’ve
  mastered that, then move on to improvements. Your improvements should come from
  a place of love, not from a place of correction. Love yourself enough to bring
  bigger and better things into your life, either from your mind or from your hard
  work. You deserve it!
  
  Much love,
  
  Nina
  
  http://thejourneytolearnacceptance.blogspot.com
- Amy
  
  Cindy,
  I completely agree with Nina’s answer below (or above..not sure where this comment will end up) In order to accept oneself, you have to love yourself. Only when you love yourself, and be patient with the process it takes to get there, be patient with yourself once you are there, will you start being able to do “the list” out of love for yourself.
  
  If you do it the other way around, you are merely creating the environment that you think you need to be happy. As nina stated, out of correction. Trust me ive tried it, only to get the exact situation/environment i thought was going to make me happy and feel worthy and it didnt work at ALL! Then i realized that i was the one who had to change at my core, not the things outside of me, not even my body, money etc. Because it was the same old me showing up to a different situation, how could it work?
  
  Only then did i figure it out. Now i accept myself as i am, i dont like to use the word perfect because i think there are too many societal strings attached to that word, but i think i am exactly as god created me to be in this exact moment. Doesnt mean i wont change in the next for the better. Accepting myself the way i am, is my acceptance of being perfect right now.
  
  Anyway… hope that makes sense.
  Much Love on your Journey x
- melissa
  
  I see your conundrum. Yes, accept yourself, love yourself for who you are now. Really wrap that around you. But life is a series of transitions and transformations and it’s nearly impossible not to grow and change. You are definitely enough, but these rituals are about choosing the direction you are headed. Love yourself today. Do the things that support that feeling. Build on it tomorrow and really be present when tomorrow comes. These rituals are just about moving into the flow of your best life. You are not going to stay static, the same person day after day, so if you have goals – health, financial, career, creative, romantic, etc – give them direction with these healthy rituals. It’s not about becoming “better,” it’s about becoming more and more comfortable with the best version of you, slowly or quickly, day by day. Make your list and enjoy it daily. Don’t look too far ahead to the “better” version of yourself that your analytical brain wants to tell you to be. Accept who you are & love who you are as you move through your list.
  
  There’s a lyric by John Lennon that I love and it applies to this in a way… “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.” Make the list and work on it daily but enjoy it daily. Don’t cultivate the attitude of “I’ll be happier when..” or “Life will be better when…”
  
  Hope my advice makes sense! Love your life!
- Clauds1uk
  
  Hi Nina, I’ve struggled with this too as a single woman who would love to have a partner and a more fulfilling career. I have realised though that it starts with me and my biggest fear is of getting into a relationship and then pushing the self destruct button because if my “not enough” feelings. I recently wrote a list on what my life would look like if I really loved myself. It includes things like enjoying solo date nights/ activities, spending time with ppl who really value and respect me and my time, sticking to my commitments to myself, eating, dressing and treating my body well, being present and on time for others, committing to daily learning and growth.
  
  I truly think that if I stick to these as well as my fitness, career and other goals, I’ll begin to feel better about myself and in turn will love myself more.
  
  I hope this helps. Good luck! X
TheDailyLover

thanks Mastin for sharing this, your committment to your intentions, your action steps, you inspire me. I just started reading the war of art last night and SO appreciate it! happy new year. i no longer want to be a prisoner to my resistance. i know my creativity awaits me and i am aware of the resistance and what it looks like. I pray for more strength, commitment and courage to move the resistance out of the way so the Creativity can come through.
Suz

My resolution this year is to have more confidence – and that goes for confidence within myself to believe that my boyfriend will still love me even if I’m not perfect… confidence that I can do more in my life in regards to work and PLAY… and confidence that my life can be what I want it to be. Any thoughts on that?
Jason

Thanks for your teaching about the Art of War, I listened to it twice on audible then bought the book Turning Pro. I ordered Turning Pro on amazon and it arrived on Christmas via Fed Ex. I didn’t know Fed Ex delivered on Christmas, maybe they did just for me
This inspired me to read and highlight the entire book, Turning Pro. The next day my wife read it. thanks for your CONSISTANT Commitment to serving.
Nancy

Thanks Mastin…I think most everyone starts out with “goals” for the New Year , but not many break them down in managable steps. As a person who’s goal it is this year to only do things that reflect my authentic self…this is helpful to break down every area of my life and how to achieve this goal.
http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/ Sarah Noel

My new ritual for 2013 is to meditate more. I always find it VERY helpful, especially when I’m stressed, upset, worried, unsure, or frustrated. Meditation (for me, just sitting ina darkened room with a candle, releasing my thoughts) helps center me. When I’m worked up over something, it stills me. So that’s my new goal: When I’m worked up, take time out to sit and let go all of my thoughts and worries. Then approach the situation again, from a place of peace and love.

Sarah
http://beyouliveyourdream.blogspot.com/2013/01/dont-just-avoid-your-nightmare.html
melissa

Mastin! While I’m a firm believer in the attitude of “Just Do It,” I recognize that sometimes we need support to get there. I’m a writer as well, and during 2012 I broke through my writing blocks. There were many factors that lead me to this ease of writing daily – just simply dedicating time to it daily no matter how much gets actually written, honoring that sometimes it’s just about thinking about the story/characters/etc, sharing my writing and getting constructive feedback, trusting my instincts and writing what I love (not what I think people want to read) and also reading for inspiration. I know writers can sometimes get bogged down by reading about how to be the best writer, but I found a book that is prescriptive. “Writing from the Inside Out” by Dennis Palumbo gets to your blocks quickly (short chapters called “Writing Begets Writing” & “The Long View” & “Envy”) and if you really listen to what’s going on within you, his anecdotes can crush those blocks and get you on your way to a solid writing discipline. I wish you the best in finding yours. It’s really freeing when you arrive.

Also, there’s the ol’ “Fake it till you make it” philosophy, which actually works.

I’ve been craving the rituals I’ve visualized for Jan & Feb for months now. They are the things I do naturally on a good day: - meditate for at least 15 minutes first thing in the morning
- write until lunch
- yoga & elliptical training
- juice & prepare vegetarian food

Things I want to add:
- returning to my writing work sometime throughout the day after my usual routine
- no meat
- meditating at night before bed
- not wasting time on the social media-ness of life
- more self-love practices

If I do these things, all else falls into place – career, relationships, art, self worth… The rituals are key! Thank you for your dedication to Love!
Nikki

I want a healthy body, I want to live my life to the fullest instead of resisting or attempting to escape it with faffing and I want to be more loving, calm and assertive towards my children.

Below are my rituals to create these changes.
1. Wake up prior to my children waking and prepare myself for my day.
2. Read A Course In Miracles every day
3. Complete a daily lesson in ACIM workbook
4. Go to bed at a decent hour
5. Drink plenty of water
6. Exersize 6x/week
7. Remember that as a mother, God is my employer, and having three children is a gift…and one that I can handle.
8. Pray and meditate daily
9. Save up/commit to enrolling in training for Transendental Meditation.
- http://www.cucumbermarketing.com/ Helen Stepchuk
  
  This is beautiful, Nikki! Your morning ritual is similar to mine (ACIM xo
http://aplaceinanaurora.blogspot.com/ Wandering, Western Star

Your list inspires my list, Mastin! I would like to be more present for my partner, just giving ourselves a space to dwell in between us, uncluttered by desired outcomes.

I want a simple “place to be” in this relationship where we arise together in the present moment. I know in order to do that, I just need to be able to turn off my brain and be aware and invested, in accepting the moment with him as it is. I need to demonstrate to him how interested I am in him, in the things he feels and has to say, by creating that room and that receptive silence for him and I to be in.

So, one ritual would be to dedicate, maybe even without announcing it to him, an hour or more each day where I am just around him, available for any conversation or activity he would like to do, and just thoroughly and enthusiastically enjoy what happens. It’s easy to do with a lovable and special partner, but I would imagine we should offer that opportunity to ourselves with most everyone we encounter, for a small period of time if that’s what is practical. We can enjoy being around one another!

My second ritual every day will be meditation. Today I woke up dreading work a little bit (a change from this situation I really must manifest in 2013!) and meditating for just five minutes saved my day and anchored me in the deeper moment of time rather than drew me into the mundane details of today.

I hope everyone’s rituals sow the seeds of great fruit in their lifetime!
Pmjungetx

Mindfullness! Cultivating more and more Mindfullness and giving away what I have to much of to people who need it, because I have to much to much stuff, much and much more than I need. And that is only confusing, to have more than you need!
http://www.are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/ Kathleen Reynolds Chelquist

My ONLY ritual is to listen and surrender to my heart in EVERY moment. To serve LOVE, not FEAR. I have found that when I am present in each moment and trust the “WHAT IS” of the HERE and NOW…I receive a whisper that is from my soul (which is connected to the ALL and KNOWING Uni-verse). Everything appears easy. There are no time constraints. It is as if the doors of heaven open up and life seems effortless. The more I create the discipline of HERE, NOW…the more productive I am. I know what to do! I know this could seem too easy and not complicated enough for our minds. Our mind THINKS we NEED to WORK to get through mental blocks. Problem solving SEEMS to work, and it actually works against us. We can easily create exhaustion. Love is full of energy. Have you ever lost a shoe and you thought about it all day long on where it could be…and then, in the middle of the night, you wake up and know where it is? This is what I am talking about. Except you don’t need to count on dream time….you can do it RIGHT NOW! In the moment. Breathe, Relax, Trust, and your answer will come. This I know…is true.

The Daily Commenter,
Kathleen
are-you-there-kathleen-its-me-god.blogspot.com/
Jessica

My goal for 2013 is to be more present. I get so caught up in preparing and planning for my future that I miss the present. Also, learning to let go and go with the flow. I am always so focused on achieving my goals, that I want things to go my way and my way only. If something comes up, it knocks me off course. I want to remember that I have to take things one day at a time and that if things don’t happen how I think is best it’s because God and the Universe have something better.
Patricia K

This year I want to focus on gaining more knowledge and staying in tune with my current goal of growing a company. Both my husband and I have committed to turning off the tv and a couple other distractions and staying in alignment with our inner power and energy. We were using things like television to “relax” after work but have decided to let the magic of reading, reflection and letting the mind be still open up our true potential.
http://www.cucumbermarketing.com/ Helen Stepchuk

My resolution is to stop reading your blog, so I can finish writing my book instead! ) #BrandYourHeart