What It Truly Means To Love Someone

May 16, 2011 by Mastin Kipp 48 Comments

Love is letting go.

Period.

It’s the Energy of Love that binds The Uni-verse together. Love is what breathes life into us and gives all living things this chance to be alive.

One of the most Loving things that we’ve been given from our Creator is the gift of choice. Choice is a fundamental part of life. Free will is one of our Creator’s greatest gifts to us.

Free will boils down to this: you can choose to connect to Love, or not.

Since we’ve been given the privilege to choose for ourselves, that means if you Love someone, you must give him or her that privilege. Trying to force or manipulate Love never works – it’ll only backfire.

If you say you Love someone because of what they can give you, that’s not Love, that’s selfishness. When you Love someone, it’s always from a place of overflow rather than lack.

Respecting someone’s free will can be both devastating AND truly rewarding. When you let people go to decide for themselves, they may choose things that don’t match up with your desires. There have been many times in my own life where this has happened, both in business and in my personal life.

But every time this shattering of illusion has happened, it’s brought me closer to the Truth. AND it’s brought me closer to Love.

At the same time, when you let go and honor someone’s free will there is also the possibility that they will choose you; and when that happens you have begun to plant very strong roots for a relationship.

Love is letting go because no one feels Loved when they are controlled or manipulated. No one really feels Loved when they can sense that someone is trying to take from them instead of give.

There is a difference between taking and receiving. It’s sooooo important to be able to receive Love. But to try to drain others of their Love isn’t Loving – it’s being an emotional vampire.

All this can be flipped and applies to YOU, too. You deserve to be with someone who Loves you right where you are. You deserve someone who is so connected to Love that they have the confidence to let you choose for yourself. You deserve to be in relationships where people are sharing from overflow rather than trying to be emotional vampires.

Choose to hang with people who give you the respect to let you decide. And at the same time give those you Love this same respect.

Remember, you are always provided for. The Uni-verse and The Energy of Love are always with you. Ask to feel Love’s presence and you will be filled – not by someone else, but by The Uni-verse.

Tell yourself, “Love is letting go. I am ok. Love is letting go. I am full as I am. Love is letting go. The perfect Love will find me. Love is letting go, so I let go and let Love decide”.

Love,

Mastin

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Kerry

thanks for the great message Mastin:)
Louise

Lovely.. yes indeed at this point in my life right now, whomever is willing to recieve all this love overflowing, Im able now, where as in the past I couldn’t. Great Post~!!! Love is what keeps us alive and well!!!
http://www.twitter.com/tiger_eyez89 Kanesha

great message on love, straight to the point since the beginning of the message. “Love is Letting Go”….you should write a book!!!
Daphne

This is so true,I’v lived it because somebody has unconditional love for me.. They let me go when I needed to go..and I came back.
http://marathonsweetheart.com Marathon Sweetheart

This is so beautiful and true. Love is letting go and letting people be who they are. It’s acceptance despite their flaws. No control. But surrender!

XOXO
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http://cbryanmac.com Christian

Hi mastin,

I must say that I have really learned a lot and still learning to accept the irony of life and love through your daily teachings. I feel you in every love posts that you’ve written. I was heartbroken and left alone by my ex more than a year now and Im still in the process of letting go.

It’s very hard to accept that you cant be with the person that you truly love but you are making people like us realize that it’s not the end of the world. It’s only the beginning that the uni-verse will help us to achieve true love and to learn to love ourselves.

Indeed, love is a choice. There’s always someone who is more beautiful, smarter and sexier than her but the fact that you chose that person to be with u in a lifetime and she chose you, is love…

Thanks for inspiring us!!!

Christian of Singapore my idol, ur fan!
Jennifer

Great post! This was so well written and well said. It always amazes me how you can go through something and then boom, someone writes a piece that reflects what you are feeling and/ or going through. Thank you for sharing this as it has solidified my understanding of what love really means. I appreciate it.
adnan
cat

Truly inspirational words & some I truly needed to hear after a 1yr long battle to get back a love lost. Letting go & letting love decide our fate is truly the better choice rather then forcing him into a love he may or may not feel.
http://www.charmcityyoga.com Charm City Yoga

Not only does this apply to love and relationships, but it can also apply to the letting go of attachments in all of life. In fact, that’s one of the yamas of yoga. In order to truly be free, we must let go of anything -physical or emotional- that is holding us back.
Ismile4u3

it is uncanny how you provide the information I am in desperate need of. Also a question can you love uncontionally and also let go?
kaycee

soooo true Mastin… that was a very striking message! Have a blessed day and continue to inspire people
Cara

This seems to be sooooo true! I think that “Letting Go” is the hardest part of life period! I am not sure if anyone can COMPLETELY let go….but I have fond this to be one of my biggest challenges. I want to let go….I just am not sure HOW??? I really enjoyed this post! Thank you! <3
- Dragjenfly
  
  People so seldom say “I Love You”, and then It’s either to late, or Love goes. So when I tell you “I Love You”, It doesn’t mean I know you’ll never go, only that I wish you did’nt have to.
Lily

Love is letting go AND Letting BE.
Jackie

Yes yes yessss!!!
Tanisha

I needed to read this today!
sanjina

yes,,love is simply giving.. and feeling genuine happiness in that giving… loving someone with all vices n virtues belongings,,,
Alllison

Letting love go is hard, but I know it’s the right thing to do, esp when I know he isn’t coming back. I never thought I could love someone like I did, but I am ready to let go and find new love that awaits me.

Thank you for these articles….I know you have helped so many, including me….
Kareemah

Tell yourself, “Love is letting go. I am ok. Love is letting go. I am full as I am. Love is letting go. The perfect Love will find me. Love is letting go, so I let go and let Love decide”.

I feel relief after saying this……. This statement makes me smile

Thanks
theprincessofvenice

Now THIS was really good and helpful stuff. Thanks.
Maggie

Thank you for this post and all you’ve written lately about giving rather than looking to “take” from others, and finding your happiness within so you can give instead of looking to external circumstances/others for that. It’s exactly what I need to hear right now!! Please keep sharing info on how not to be an emotional vampire and have love and peace inside that you share and that attracts the right people into your life.
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Nick

Thank you… I was dumped by someone I really genuinely loved – and I only want the best for her, and I know that she was faced with a choice between fear and love and at that fear won out… I know that I want so much to say “NOOOOO! It’s a mistake!” but I also know, that Love says it isn’t… this had to happen for her, and though it breaks MY heart I need to let go… thank you. I’ve emailed this post to myself to remind myself I have let her go and that I did show her love in the time we shared and that in the end Love – real love – will win out over fear in her life… and heart, which is all I want for her.

Thank you.
http://pulse.yahoo.com/_7IDDLG6T2ECRWTATBY56LXAWUY AE

The end touched me very deeply, BEAUTIFUL.
Tenderheart

You really hit it for me!!!! Love is certainly a choice but to fully feel loved is very hard to feel. The only love that I have truly felt is the love from my mother and father. I am 36 now and it pains me each day to not feel love and a true connection with another. I feel alone and feel that I have given so much love and have not received it in return. So as you say it is time to let go and love will find me…. Thank you for your insight of what love is.
- summer
  
  hi tenderheat its going to be okbare yu a male or female
summer

this is so right i can’t say how many times i din have to do this
SachiiBzz

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Kriharv1224

I agree with most of this! I am still a young adult and for the first time have a boyfriend who i’m really starting to feel deeply for. I’ve only been in love once and it actually turned into the strongest friendship because he loved me like a sister instead of being in love with me back which actually turned out wonderful. I don’t know how to love or anything. All i know is i have someone who loves me where i am at and respects me and my decisions and such. I hope i learn how to love and grow with these feelings. But everything you said makes sense, love someone where they are and let them love you back. Love like you’ve never been hurt, because that feeling of utter contentment and joy outshines event he worst heartache. God Bless.
Lauren

Thank you SO much for this post. I am currently going through a break-up (my first one…), and although it is not devastating, it remains very painful. I have a lot of trouble understanding why I was rejected, and how can someone refuse to receive my love, and it is also difficult to simply give up on hopes of an eventual come-back together. However, this article really helps me understand the importance of not forcing things and just letting go. No kidding, I was seriously considering to beg my ex to take me back. But this would not be love at all, I would only put unnecessary pressure on her. So thank you for this insight. Your two last lines, especially, have done me a lot of good. You are right: I am full as I am. I have love in me, and I can only wait for the right person to come around! Love shall decide.
Chelsea Postema

Someone in my family got engaged yesterday, but I feel that the relationship may not last. Partly because the girl told the guy that she would only say yes to him if he bought her the ring she wanted. Another reason they have dated on/off for 8 years and she would break it off each time. She doesn’t tend to want to visit with his friends when they get together, but she has they guy visit with hers. I feel like she accepted the proposal because he did get the ring she wanted, but also because all her friends are married and has been to so many weddings that she wants that for herself. I also feel that he puts more into the relationship than she does.
Mohit

Hare Krishna! Love is the essence of the universe.
Regina

What a GOD-Spiritual thing to say; Love Is Letting Go; Let Go and Let Love Decide. In Other Words, Let Go And Let God. God’s Will Must Be Done.
KasandraSt.Amour Dely

I did a random look up, this is nice to read.
bins

Thank you!this article gave me an insight.so I am letting go, and letting truelove find me!
Stylein_oz

i would beg those of you who r forcing to be loved. love is about the feelings and emotions for each other but when there s no connection u just have to let it go. some one who bought me frommy parents and culture dwants to be loved by me. i don’t know why i cn’t love him inspite of his pressure.. his force and pressure has taken my life. i left university, work and hv even given up eating..i find my life a hell but he feels good coz he got me…he will never get my love..by his threads like throwing acid on my face etc and killing my loved onse i hv to giv him fake love but is that called love..i will kill myself when too sick giving fake love then what has he achieved?
Xrndzeru

Love!
Its something that grows within you,
Something that only your heart and ur body can experince.
You can’t force love if you don’t have it.
Let’s respect our partners and love each other with no expectation for the Love which is within you will reward u for the rest of your life!
Monica

Love is a feeling , an emotion and if we do not nurture, water, gently care and cultivate that feeling everyday with a smile, hug, kiss , kind gesture it slowly dies like the flower or the plant that we forgot to take care of.
Sometime we donot have choice but to let go and let GOD. We make deposits in the love bank but the person we are with only makes withdrawals. Then comes the point where the bank is empty and depleted and desolate. We have to let go and if they come back they have to be ready to make deposits and not only continue with the withdrawals.
I had to let go of a 3 1/2 year relationship because of the emotional abuse and destruction after a series of withdrawals that left me desolate and emptied. I love him dearly and unconditionally . Sometimes is better to let go so that people can learn what is true love and how to love…If ever?!
Make love deposits in the love bank of the hearts of your friends around you and learn how to receive love
anonymous

i personally don’t have love for anything or anyone yet but i do respect it… i don’t think i am kind on the idea on accepting love in the form of a “Uni-verse” though but it is some food for though for me… thanks anyway.
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17sjag

Thank you so much. This would have been so helpful, but it is not for me. I still don’t feel loved. I know how to love someone, but no one loves me enough for me to let them love them back. I still cry a lot when no one’s around. Could this be depression? I don’t really think it is because I’m barley a teenager!
Masoodaryan24

im man who never crys even when my gradpa die but today reading made me to cry because i miss my son
Elliott

Thank you for the inspiration my friend! I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life!
Shivdarshandutta

Beautiful sir. God bless.
http://www.facebook.com/little.diamond.9 Little Diamond

I have been in a relationship for 14 yrs and just starting to believe we are no longer in love (I feel)
kimberly loves her baby

this is wonderful….letting go is not always letting go of the relationship,..i could be just learning to compromise and learning to let go of some of those old attitudes and behaviors that we have.,.i didnt let go of the relationship, but i let go and decided to let my baby make his own decisions and not be so aggressive, and it has lead our relationship down a phenomenal road,,,,letting go is always amazing in the end : )