What Other People Think About You Is NONE Of Your Business!

What other people think about you is none of your business.

It’s their business.

Wasting your time thinking about what they are thinking about you serves nothing.

Seeking approval is a waste of your time and energy. It will only bring you suffering.

It’s not about whether others approve of you, but if you approve of you.

This is what counts.

Being popular with the world at the expense of your soul is a true booby prize.

How people perceive you reveals more about themselves than it does about you. People will perceive you based on their own conditioning and filters. So don’t take it personally.

We sometimes hold back being fully ourselves, or stepping out and living our purpose in a big way because of the fear of being judged and what people will think or say.

Here’s the deal: When you put yourself out there in the world and dare to follow your dreams, it is a risk. It is a vulnerable and courageous act.

People will judge you.

People will talk about you.

People will project their stuff onto you.

It is what it is.

In fact some people won’t like you. And they don’t even know you. This is unavoidable. Make peace with this up front.

Do not give those who don’t even know you the power to determine your happiness.

Do not give even those who know you the power to determine who you should be and what your limits are.

Know who you are.

As you accept yourself as you are and as you are not, you become powerful. You consolidate your energy and remain rooted in your center. You become free.

When you no longer seek other people’s approval, you are free. As you unhook yourself from other people’s validation, you become truly powerful.

Your soul is already SELF validated.

You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all the people all of the time. In fact there will be those who, no matter what you do, will think negatively and never be satisfied. This has nothing to do with you.

Jesus. Bruce Lee. Gandhi. Bob Marley. Martin Luther King Jr. They all had people who didn’t like them.

Remember that there really are no enemies. Just those who don’t know you yet and neither themselves.

At the end of the day you are the one that has to live with yourself.

Even if you do get others approval, if it’s at the expense of yourself, it won’t be truly satisfying.

Trying to get people’s approval is a form of control. But in doing so, you are the one that ends up controlled.

The energy it takes is not worth it, as it often requires you give up a part of yourself in order to get the approval.

It’s expensive.

As I often say, if everyone likes you, you might want to be concerned. When you follow your heart, you will make waves in this world.

You will stand out.

You will upset some people.

You will create change.

Life is a daring adventure to be lived with no regrets.

It takes true boldness to be yourself fully.

People have the right to think whatever they want to think about you.

Let that be their business.

So what do you think about you?

What other people think about you is none of your business! I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!




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Kute Blackson is a speaker and life coach. Check out his website here.


  • vina

    Thank you I really needed this today. I have been feeling stuck lately because a friend of mine who is dealing with insecurity issues is starting to take it out on our friendship and it makes me feel bad because all I do is support and love her to the best of my abilities and that is how I live my life and treat everyone around me. So by her projecting her insecurities it made me feel like what I am doing is not enough and rocked my world , but at the end of the day I have to realize that that is her internal issue and to not let it become mine and just love her through this process of self love

    • The Daily Love

      Great, Vina. Thank you for sharing! -Team TDL

  • Ma Nithya Sarvasmarana

    This is an amazing post! Thank you Kute! I read and listen to all you videos. Your words are straight from Source. I am working on this exactly right now remembering who I AM and not caring what others think. Freeing myself from the self contained prison that I have been living in and giving myself permission to radiate and shine. Self validated as you said.
    Thank you,

    • The Daily Love

      Good for you! Thank you so much for sharing! -Team TDL

  • Kelsey Campion

    Really powerful post- definitely one I can relate to. In leaving my Ph.D. program I worried a lot about how others might perceive my choice as a “failure”. Also, be a 29 year old “creative explorer” doesn’t sound nearly as professional or secure as “psychologist”. What I realized was that I was still struggle with how I viewed myself, and once I gave myself permission to explore and follow my gut, it no longer mattered what others thought. Being secure in yourself is the best way to quiet the critical voices of others.

    Thanks for the share!


    • The Daily Love

      So true, Kelsey! Thank you for sharing 🙂 -Team TDL

  • Teresa

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! Perfect timing for this reminder… I already new this and live by it but when something very upsetting happens I tend to get scatter brained and then when I need to remember to use my tools the most, I sometimes find it hard… My co-worker freaked out on me last night in an angry, cussing, throwing things around temper tantrum way and it was very upsetting to me. I came into work this morning and my boss didn’t respond the way I had thought or hoped for… I felt high anxiety and started balling my eyes out… I am disappointed to say the least. I was going to leave work but decided to sit at my desk and open up TDL… This is what I opened first based on the title. I feel much better now. Thanks again!!! Have a wonderful day;-)

    • The Daily Love

      So glad Kute’s post was able to brighten up your day. Hang in there! -Team TDL

  • Michelle Furtado

    Fantastic article…brilliant. Love it! Love you!

  • Clare Gillard

    Excellent! I’m keeping this one to read over na over, whenever I need toQQQ

  • Lisa Besaw

    I admire your wisdom and the way you share it, Kute. Such a great post!

  • Dee

    Always LOVE what you have to say Kute. Totally resonates with me x x x

  • Rubsy

    This post has addressed my biggest hurdle in achieving happiness. I care way too much about making sure that people like me and are happy with me. Its to the point where I’m afraid to be myself or say things for fear I will be judged negatively. I always blame myself when people don’t like me and think that there must be something wrong with myself. I need to practice this thought process next time my ego creeps up and care less about people’s interpretations of who I am.